Each child's temperament and personality are different, so in life their speech and behavior are also different, but parents in the parenting stage is easy to find that some children are arrogant at home, yelling at the family, but outside they have become a small cat, making people look very polite, but also reflect the other side, that is, cowardice.
Especially in the process of playing with small partners, they dare not resist, always listen to others, in fact, such children are often called "nest horizontal, outside instigation" type. However, being a little bully at home, but not resisting outside, it is easy to cause the child to become a flattering personality, and he will not do anything when he grows up.
In fact, the reason why the dolls appear in the nest and the situation may be because the parents have made the following three mistakes, to know that family education is very important for children, and parents are also the child's enlightenment teachers, once their personality is extreme, it may be that the parents' parenting methods are incorrect. Parents hurry over to compare, if you meet one of these points, then you must pay attention, of course, it is not too late to change.
Parents themselves are cowardly characters
Children are actually very much influenced by their parents, and the behavior of parents will be directly imitated and imitated by children, if the parents themselves are more cowardly, more timid, and do not have any opinions when encountering things, then children may also become such a temperament.
Especially the father in the family is very instigated, always scolded and reprimanded by the mother, then the baby who grew up in this family environment, basically will be cowardly and timid outside, but they will immediately be like a little hedgehog when they return home, targeting the family everywhere, and speaking evil words everywhere.
: Keep your child in the house regularly
There are also some children who are particularly weak, it may be because they have not been exposed to the outside environment, from a young age, these parents will lock up their babies at home, think that children will be hurt and bullied when they go out to play, and over time these children always like to stay at home and do all kinds of things, and slowly they will lose the ability to socialize. At the same time, the ability to express language will also decline, so it will form a temper disposition of the nest and the outer bush.
: Excessive spoiling from birth
Of course, excessive spoiling by parents may also make children become nests and outcrops, from an early age these children are overprotected, they will not do anything, what they say is what they say, parents are like bodyguards, putting all the focus on the child.
Such a baby has become a little bully after being spoiled, saying that it is not the same, but in the process of getting along with her peers, it has become cowardly, that is because others will not get used to him outside, and once they encounter an unfamiliar environment, the child will become afraid.
Avoid children nesting in the nest, and parents should do the same
First, believe in the power of example
Parents are children's role models, many parents do not pay attention to this, so they will raise grumpy children, so want to make the child's personality become good, then parents must first restrain themselves, let the child follow suit every word and deed, to learn, will let them have a good character and a good temper.
Of course, there is also a little parents to remember, do not always leave the bad temper to the family, many parents are reasonable outside, but back home to vent their emotions arbitrarily, in fact, this is also a major reason for the child's nest to be provoked outside.
Second, let go when it's time to let go
Growing up, children will have a variety of skills with age, but many parents are reluctant to let go, they are infinitely spoiled, seven or eight-year-old children will not be able to dress and eat by themselves, such things are not uncommon. But if you want your child to have a good personality and grow up without getting old, then parents have to change.
Never spoil, but let go when it's time to let go, let the child do what he can on his own, and don't rely too much on his parents. Parents can observe from the sidelines and extend their hands at the right time when the child needs help, but do not have to complete it for the child at the beginning, only in this way can the child continue to learn from the experience and make himself strong.
In fact, children with good personality are basically babies who can control their emotions, and their emotional intelligence is relatively high, of course, this is also the result of correct education by parents. But there are also some children who simply do not know how to manage their emotions, so this requires the correct guidance of parents.