The philosopher Jaspers once said: "Education is a tree shaking another tree, a cloud pushing another cloud, a soul awakening another soul." "So, in the stage of raising children, how to properly educate them is a question that every parent should think about, and one of the most important roles is the mother."
It is said that only mothers are good in the world, which is enough to see the important role of mothers in the growth stage of children, and the mother's speech and behavior also directly affect the child's personality development. However, most mothers like to educate their babies in their own way, some are arbitrary, and some are irritable and irritable.
In fact, if mothers often do some incorrect things in life, it is easy to raise some unfilial children, especially mothers who love to do the following two things, and the children who are educated will basically be very rebellious and extreme. Even make some unfilial behaviors to your parents, if you are also doing it as a mother, then you must correct it in time, don't let your wrong behavior ruin your baby's life.
Thing #1: Forceful persecution
There are many mothers who always educate their babies with the attitude of adults, they think that the children are young and do not correctly judge the right and wrong of things, so they are afraid that the children will take a detour in the future, and they will use strong persecution methods to let them do things according to their own ideas. In fact, this kind of education is not correct, because children are independent individuals, and they will have their own ideas at a certain age.
If mothers force their children to act according to their own wishes, they will only cause their children to have two extremes, the first is timidity and cowardice, and the second is excessive rebellion. Such a baby's personality will become more and more inferior, more and more cowardly, and some will regard their parents as enemies, and as they grow older, they will become more and more disobedient, and when they grow up, they may be an unfilial son.
Thing #2: Over-spoiling
Mothers are beyond reproach for hurting their children and loving their children, and the flesh that falls off their bodies will certainly be infinitely pampered, but if everything reaches an excessive state, it is likely to backfire. Spoiling children will be like this, such babies lose the ability to take care of themselves under the overprotective of their mothers, and they will feel that what their parents do to themselves is what they should do.
Slowly, the temperament of these children will become irritable and irritable, there is no respect in the eyes, they will not think about problems from the standpoint of others, and they will not understand the hardships of their parents, so the babies who are overly spoiled will definitely become unfilial children in the future.
The French thinker Rousseau once pointed out in "On Education": "Do you understand what methods can make your children miserable?" That's what he wants. "So if parents don't want to ruin their children, then love them in the right way, and raise filial piety babies, but also use the right way."
First of all, let the child develop according to his own personality
Parents always ask their children to respect others and respect their elders, but which parents respect their children as independent individuals? So respect is mutual, and so should we be with young children.
Let them develop according to their own personality, always listen to the opinions of their children, so that they can have the ability to be independent, but also to understand the good intentions of their parents, and naturally become filial piety when they grow up.
Second, look at children from an equal perspective
If you want your child to become an excellent person after adulthood and become a person who is particularly filial to his parents, then from an early age, he must look at his children from an equal point of view, chat with them more when there is nothing to do, talk more about his heart, and make the parent-child relationship more and more harmonious. Not to accuse from above, not to educate in the tone of adults, is the most correct way of education for children, mingle with them, make friends, so how can children become rebellious and ignorant?
Finally, believing in the power of example, parents start with themselves
Educator Krupskaya once said: "For both parents, family education is first and foremost self-education. "So parents must believe in the power of example, start with themselves in life, let the children learn with great insight, want them to become filial piety, want them to be positive and positive, then they must do it first, so that the child can be excellent, in order to become a high-IQ top talent."
At every stage of a child's growth, it is very necessary for parents to guide them correctly, so that they have a good personality and a high emotional intelligence in order to take fewer detours on the road in the future. It's just that most parents are newbies and don't have much experience, so they may wish to help themselves with some other methods.