When it comes to parent-child reading, some mothers may feel headaches.
The baby was born to read picture books and tell stories for him, and in the blink of an eye, the child went to school, but he couldn't even read the questions;
A question has been explained four or five times, and the child still asks "Mom, why is this?"?
So after the situation was full of situations, Bao Mom couldn't help but secretly reflect: Is parent-child reading really reliable? Why do children still not like to read after so much effort?
Inappropriate parent-child reading will only ruin a child's curiosity
Although many times parents seem to attach great importance to parent-child reading, not only moving back home with a complete set of picture books and famous works, but also reading with their children every day, in fact, they inadvertently walked into the "misunderstanding", but destroyed the child's curiosity.
Myth 1: Children's reading is "dominated" by parents
Since the beginning of reading, many parents have habitually "dominated" the whole process: helping their children buy suitable books, arranging time to read with their children, explaining the content of books for children, answering children's questions, and so on.
As for the key issues of how to choose books, how to read, when to read, etc., children have no right to choose at all, and the protagonists of parent-child reading are actually parents.
However, it is the child who needs to develop the habit of reading, when the child is accustomed to such a parent-child reading mode, he will only lose interest in reading, neither reject nor take the initiative, and the parents arrange to read symbolically for a while, once they lose supervision, they will never take the initiative to open the book.
Myth 2: Parent-child reading has "utilitarianism"
Some parents hold a strong utilitarian nature when they take their children to read.
It is necessary to let children "know a thousand words at the age of three and memorize Tang poems at the age of five", and to simply use reading as a tool to accumulate knowledge and understand words, but also to let children develop good behavior habits through parent-child reading, such as by reading picture books of emotional management, so that children do not cry or make trouble, and by reading picture books of habit formation, children learn to wash on time, eat well and so on.
Through parent-child reading, children could have developed a reading interest and cultivated good reading habits, but because of such "utilitarian reading", the result is counterproductive, and the child has an aversion to parent-child reading, it is difficult to stick to reading, and really like to read.
Myth 3: Parent-child reading has become a "special task"
Perhaps because of the tight time, or the special "ritual sense" of parent-child reading, some parents will agree with their children on a specific "reading time", which must be solemnly started at a certain point.
However, the child's interest in reading can not "linger", if the child wants to listen to the parents to tell a story, in advance of parent-child reading, parents to "time is not up" as the reason for refusal, then when the parents are ready to start, the child may have already shifted their attention, the interest in reading is gone.
In fact, a pleasant parent-child reading, only takes ten minutes, is enough.
Parents can pick up their children's favorite picture books anytime and anywhere, and tell an interesting story in a colorful way, so that children's interest in reading can be cultivated in such a little bit.
Myth 4: Too much is required of children
Professor Judith Stitch of Boston University in the United States once proposed that the early reading initiation behavior of children is divided into four stages, namely book reading behavior, picture reading behavior, comprehension behavior, and pragmatic behavior.
When reading, the vast majority of children not only find it difficult to keep full attention from beginning to end, but also easily attracted by pictures and ignore the text content, which is in line with children's reading habits and development rules.
Sometimes parents are too demanding of their children, forcing their children to read text content, or asking children to read alone and deeply understand the entire content of books, which will only make them lose interest in reading.
How to get out of the misunderstanding and improve the quality of reading?
1.0-3 years old: guide and stimulate interest in reading
At this time, the baby's concentration ability, cognitive ability, comprehension ability are relatively poor, and the focus of parent-child reading should be on guiding and stimulating the baby's interest in reading.
For example, before the baby is 1 year old, parents can try to read for the baby, use some enlightenment cognitive picture books, etc., to help the baby establish a first impression of books and stimulate interest in reading.
Only when parents continue to type, the baby can gradually become interested in reading and take the first step of parent-child reading.
2.3-6 years old: Help children develop reading habits
At this time, the child's various reading abilities have made great progress, and parents should focus on helping children develop habits and guide children to try some different reading styles.
For example, take your child to read more interesting books, let your child ask questions about the content in the books, etc., and guide children to think more and develop reading habits.
3.6 years old and above: Let the child decide for himself to read
When coming to this stage, children will gradually have their own ideas in the content and way of reading, and what parents need to do is to give the initiative of reading to their children, so that children can make their own decisions about reading.
Especially in the choice of books and the arrangement of reading time, it should be formulated and adhered to by the child himself.
If parents still arrange everything for their children as they did when they were children, it will only make the child lose interest in reading and shift their attention to toys, television and other aspects.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Parent-child reading can not only develop reading habits for children, but also a very good parent-child companionship model, in the process of reading, parents can establish a loving connection with their children.
However, in order to make children fall in love with reading, parents need to pay attention to avoid stepping into the "minefield" of parent-child reading, otherwise it will only play a multiplier effect.
Today's topic: How do you carry out parent-child reading?
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