Educator Wang Renping once said: "Spoiling is a physical connection, emotional attachment, and spiritual commonality." ”
Spoiling is an important ability to start a happy life. Parents should cultivate the baby's "coddled power" from an early age, establish the baby's sense of security, and make the baby's heart plump.
1. When does the baby start to spoil?
Generally speaking, the baby is already spoiled around 4 to 5 months old. At that time, although the baby can't speak, he will "coddle" through some body language, such as pouting, clapping, nestling in the arms of his parents and so on.
Second, what does the baby mean?
In different situations, what does the baby's pampering really mean? Next, let's analyze it.
1. Express "attachment"
Many babies cry because mom and dad leave their sight... This is mainly because the person the baby is most familiar with when he comes into this world is his parents, and if the parents are not in his line of sight, he will feel insecure, feel like he has been abandoned, and cry.
So what should parents do at this time?
Parents can tell their baby what to do when they leave and how long they will come back. If the baby is not conscious of time, it can be expressed in other ways, such as: the baby sleeps and wakes up to see the mother...
2. In order to let parents agree to their requests
Babies spoil their parents, perhaps just wanting their parents to agree to their requests. For example, if the baby wants a toy, he will "force" the parents to agree to buy it by crying, spilling, etc. This is actually a way for babies to spoil.
What should parents do?
Parents should do what they can and choose whether to meet the baby's requirements according to the actual situation. If you do not agree to buy for the baby, the baby is crying and can't go, parents can try to do this:
Hold your horses
When your baby is crying, don't rush to stop it. This is the way babies need to express their emotions by crying. Parents should remain calm and wait for the baby to vent his emotions on his own.
Hug your child and divert your child's attention
When the baby's mood improves slightly, parents can crouch down and hug the baby, with the help of the things that exist around them, divert the baby's attention and let him ignore the matter of buying toys.
Talk to your baby about "truth"
After the baby's emotions have completely calmed down, parents can talk to the baby about the "truth". For example, if the baby wants to buy Ultraman, parents can say to him "There is already one in the family, if you buy another one, ultraman at home will be very sad and think you don't like him anymore"
Love and pampering are like the two wings of a bird. The ability to coddle, in a way, is the ability to build emotional connections with other people. Before the child grows up, give him a little more acceptance and love ~ the trust and security brought by those loves is the cornerstone of the child's happy life!