Note: This article is based on the original novel of "Xiao Min Jia", and the picture is derived from the "Xiao Min Jia" TV series.
Liu Xiaomin said that her marriage to Jin Bo was the only failure in the first half of her life.
When Jin Bo was young, he was also a table of talents, the family was well-off, his father was the factory director, his mother was the director of women, and he married into such a family, how many girls envied Liu Xiaomin.
But marriage is like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge, Liu Xiaomin listened to the fate of her parents, and after marrying and having children with Jin Bo, she realized that she had married the wrong person.
Gave birth to a son Jin Jiajun, this family of three in Liu Xiaomin's eyes, is also plain and stable, but Jin Bo is not satisfied, behind the scenes cheated on female colleagues.
Seeing Jin Bo's bad behavior, Liu Xiaomin couldn't bear it and resolutely divorced.
With Liu Xiaomin's conditions at that time, divorce requires great courage, her education is average, her mother's family can not help, divorce means that she has to make an independent living and start all over again.
But Liu Xiaomin did not hesitate, desperately wanting to leave Jin Bo.
After the divorce, Liu Xiaomin went north alone, resolutely pursued further study, passed the exam to obtain the qualification of a doctor, and stayed in Beijing to become an acupuncture doctor.
"Xiao Min worked hard, prayed to the teacher, inherited the traditional Chinese medical skills, these more than ten years, she also learned English, oral fluent, so also went to Indonesia, France to communicate, and now in the hospital, is the deputy chief physician of the acupuncture department." Word of mouth is very good, and the daily consultation is endless. ”
Liu Xiaomin was successful in her career, but the failed marriage with Jin Bo hit her so hard that later she met chen Zhuo, a lover who was in love, and did not dare to easily step into the "siege" of marriage again.
However, Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo divorced, and the most hurt was not the two parties, but their son Jin Jiajun.
After Liu Xiaomin left his hometown, Jin Jiajun lived with his grandmother and father for a long time, and his mother was very estranged, the mother and son met politely, and Jin Jiajun also worked part-time to earn money to pay Liu Xiaomin's tuition.
Jin Jiajun's precociousness and understanding are evidence of the unhappy marriage between Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo.
Jin Jiajun was admitted to the university in Beijing, Jin Bo also came to Beijing to work, the family of three was "reunited" again, Jin Bo expressed his desire to remarry Liu Xiaomin, Liu Xiaomin already had a better boyfriend Chen Zhuo, and definitely would not look back.
Even without Chen Zhuo, Liu Xiaomin would not be able to choose Jin Bo again.
After reading the original epiphany of "Xiao Min's Family", the reason why Liu Xiaomin resolutely left Jin Bo, Jin Bo's derailment was only the fuse, and the marriage between the two had long been in name only.
Jin Bo's true character, more than cheating, let Liu Xiaomin down, continue to live with such a man, is a warm boiled frog, Liu Xiaomin's entire life, almost destroyed by Jin Bo.
Don't think ahead
Jin's father is the factory director, Jin's mother is the director of women,such a family, if Jin Bo is not out of line, it is completely fine to have no worries about food and clothing, but Jin Bo is stunned to "die" and become a loser.
After the death of Jin's father and the acquisition of the factory, Jin Bo became an unemployed vagrant, without a job, without a daughter-in-law, and fell to the bottom of society. In the original work of "Little Minjia", it is written:
"Jin Bo entered the factory, thinking that he could take a lifetime of iron rice bowls, first to the front line, too hard, then to the department, the business is not good, and then to the security section, to mention, the father died, the family road fell, but did not expect forty, livelihood into a problem."
A brother who has been accustomed to relying on his parents since childhood has no ability to survive independently, and his laziness and lack of enterprising are the most despised by Liu Xiaomin.
When his father was there, Jin Bo nibbled on the old; after his father died, Jin Bo began to nibble small.
Son Jin Jiajun, just admitted to college, will work in the summer to take Jin Bo to improve his life.
Jin Bo himself is not able to fall, he also has to take his family with him, and his wife's ambition, in his opinion, is not interesting, no femininity.
Liu Xiaomin went out to study, Jin Bo was quite resentful of her, he blamed the reason for his derailment on Liu Xiaomin's head, he felt that Liu Xiaomin and he "separated", which led to his "can't help it".
Jin Bo thought to himself, "When I was young, my flesh and blood were strong, and if I could survive it, it was not all his fault." ”
Jin Bo was at ease with the old, Liu Xiaomin advocated self-reliance, and the funny thing was that Jin Bo was still not accustomed to Liu Xiaomin.
Obviously, he lacks a sense of responsibility for marriage and family, but he blames Liu Xiaomin for working too hard to live and ignoring his "sexual" needs.
And Liu Xiaomin, seeing jin bo's many shortcomings, is still willing to support him; he can't change his inertia, so he is diligent and enterprising, so that his family can live a better life.
She was running for the future of the whole family, but he was carrying her behind her back and the woman who was "Xu Niang and half old", and Jin Bo's "error of principle" hit Liu Xiaomin's face hard. Liu Xiaomin "caught the adulteress" in bed, completely shattering her trust in Jin Bo.
A man like Jin Bo is not worth Liu Xiaomin's efforts for him.
The most terrible thing is not that the spouse is not capable and cannot create a rich life; it is that you are looking at the sun and trying to go up, but he will drag you down at any time and do everything possible to prevent you from crossing the class.
If Liu Xiaomin did not divorce decisively, Jin Bo lost, I am afraid that I will count Liu Xiaomin's family.
It's hard to fill
Jin Bo repeatedly used his son Jin Jiajun to ask his ex-wife Liu Xiaomin for money, because he needed gambling funds, and he was good at gambling.
Jin Bo's desire is not only in "sex" and "money".
In fact, from his eating habits, we can see the essence of his desire to fill.
"Xiao Min's Family" in the original book mentioned that Jin Bo came to liu Xiaomin, the two went to dinner together, the dishes that Jin Bo ordered, oily and spicy, all heavy taste, Jin Bo ate a mouth full of oil, Liu Xiaomin looked at the greasy ex-husband in front of him, and felt sick to his stomach.
Liu Xiaomin's physiological reaction to Jin Bo was only the word "disgusting".
Jin Bo was a soldier, and when he was young, he was in good shape, and on his appearance and temperament, he was also a handsome and tall guy; who expected that when people reached middle age, Jin Bo's appearance plummeted:
"Now it has become a mallet type, with a large middle and narrow ends, which looks a bit funny, like a common insect oil gourd in his hometown", almost making Liu Xiaomin unrecognizable.
Bad living habits destroyed Jin Bo's appearance and consumed his health.
Jin Bo suffered from chronic diseases, but still did not know how to control his desires, loved to eat greasy and spicy food, the book mentioned that he bought brine meat and roast chicken, and in order to buy waist flowers, he ran several places.
Usually, when there is nothing to do, it is peanuts and wine, and it is inseparable from wine for a long time.
Jin Bo, whose body has turned on a red light, but still can't control his appetite, is obviously a lack of self-control, and it is true that after arriving in Beijing, Jin Bo changed several jobs, all of which were not long ago, and finally there was no way to return to his hometown.
The attitude towards food exposes Jin Bo's nature.
Knowing that Liu Xiaomin had a new love and was pregnant with a child in his belly, Jin Bo's hope of remarriage was completely shattered, but he still did not let Liu Xiaomin go, he could not get love, and he could still get money.
Liu Xiaomin is an independent woman who bought a house in Beijing, and Jin Bo looked at the tiger and started a wishful thinking.
Jin Bo invited his mother-in-law and sister-in-law to dinner, and won the house under Liu Xiaomin's name for his son Jin Jiajun, who made up his own mind and ordered dishes in advance, all of which he loved to eat - roast duck, boiled meat slices, chili fried meat.
Jimbo, he always puts his feelings first.
This meal directly shows Jin Bo's selfishness.
There is a scene in the book "Xiao Min's Family" that is ironic, learning that Liu Xiaomin's new object Chen Zhuo has opened a company, Jin Bo has a shy face and has to let Chen Zhuo arrange a position for him.
Chen Zhuo said that the Internet companies are all young people, there is no suitable position for Jin Bo, Jin Bo does not spare, threatens Chen Zhuo, Chen Zhuo takes care of Liu Xiaomin, he gave Jin Bo a vice president's idle position, Jin Bo is satisfied to be shown off everywhere.
Chen Zhuo wondered why Liu Xiaomin had looked up to Jin Bo in the first place, and Liu Xiaomin had to say that Jin Bo had not been so unbearable before.
There is no real talent and practical learning, but the pursuit of false fame, even Jin Jiajun is embarrassed for his father.
The truth about Liu Xiaomin's divorce from Jin Bo is hidden in Jin Bo's eating habits. Seeing Jin Bo's greed and selfishness, Liu Xiaomin could no longer accept him.
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After reading the original book of "Xiao Min's Family", I had an epiphany: Liu Xiaomin desperately wanted to divorce Jin Bo.
Jin Bo is lazy, greedy, and dissatisfied, and has his selfish side; Liu Xiaomin, who is aggressive and used to giving to his family, is not a person in the same world as Jin Bo at all.
Jin Bo's "rogue" made the former mother-in-law and sister-in-law also have a headache, Jin Bo went to Beijing to work, but also to eat and drink in Liu Xiaojie's place, shamelessly managed the former mother-in-law's mother-in-law to call the mother, the soft-hearted Liu family mother and daughter three, had to take Jin Bo in many times.
After Liu Xiaomin's counterattack was successful, Jin Bo obviously could no longer "reach" her; Chen Zhuo, who was as gentle as Liu Xiaomin and pursued in his career, was Liu Xiaomin's soul mate.
But it is such a "useless" Jin Bo, in fact, there are his lovely places, he is humorous and funny, optimistic and lively, "marriage is to see the eyes, divorce is to see the eyes", and so on, such quotations, let people clap their hands and applaud.
He also did a lot of touching things, such as Liu Xiaomin's birthday, everyone was too busy to forget, only Jin Bo remembered, he came to Liu Xiaomin with a cake, alleviating the loss in Liu Xiaomin's heart.
The days fell again, Jin Bo did not leave his son Jin Jiajun, Jin Jiajun had a dislike for Jin Bo's biological father, there was dissatisfaction, but more, it was love, Jin Jiajun said: "You are old, I will definitely take care of you." ”
The love and hatred of this father and son are intertwined, which is a true portrayal of ordinary family affection.
In the book "Little Minjia", there are no absolute good people and bad people, they are ordinary little people, and they are constantly growing. Forty-year-old Jin Bo, who is still "mixed", is both unreliable and insatiable, but he finally found a path that suits him, and his life is on the right track.
Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo formed a couple, and after Jin Bo's entanglement was unsuccessful, he ushered in his own spring by chance. In the original work, it is mentioned that the woman's surname is Cui, in her early forties, a rural person in Hebei, divorced because of her husband's cheating, working in Beijing, after knowing Jin Bo, the two came and went, and they were in love.
Liu Xiaomin can't look at Jin Bo, but Ms. Cui thinks that his image is tall, and sure enough, love is one thing and one thing.
Although Aunt Cui's conditions are not very good, but she lives a transparent life, she knows that she and Jin Bo, do not have much ability, floating in Beijing is not a long-term solution, so she advised Jin Bo to return to his hometown to live a solid life, she said: "Ordinary life is ordinary, plain and plain is true." Besides, don't you also make a career now? Got a family. That's your business. ”
In the original work of "Xiao MinJia", it is written: "Jin Bo is speechless, and in this matter, Xiao Cui has the right to speak." She was willing to talk to him, and he felt grateful in his heart. When he reached middle age, he had another home. Looking at Xiao Cui's increasingly heavy body, Jin Bo also felt that it was time to stabilize. ”
Jin Bo "reformed", took his wife back to his hometown, the two gave birth to a daughter, Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo, each found the happiness of their own, it turns out that Liu Xiaomin left Jin Bo, is the wisest choice.