Xu Zhimo photo
"I can't say anything about love, and I've never told anyone in my life, 'I love you.'" If taking care of Xu Zhimo and his family is called love, then I probably love him. This is a sentence that Zhang Youyi said when she recalled Xu Zhimo in her later years in the United States.
Since Xu Zhimo's death in 1931, Zhang Youyi has not only been responsible for the lives of Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru and son Ah Huan (Xu Jikai), but even the wife of Xu Zhimo who replaced her, Lu Xiaoman, who chose to take care of her life without the slightest resentment in her heart.
<h1>The orders of the matchmaker are given by the parents</h1>
But in fact, although Zhang Youyi treated Xu Zhimo like this, Xu Zhimo did not really treat Zhang Youyi. In the winter of 1920, Zhang Youyi ignored the persuasion of her family and went to England alone to reunite with Xu Zhimo.
Zhang Youyi did not know that at that time, Xu Zhimo had met Lin Huiyin, who was also studying in the United Kingdom, because he was studying in the United Kingdom. As lin changmin's daughter, Xu Zhimo saw many differences from Zhang Youyi in her.
Although the Zhang family is also the same as the Lin family, it is also a family of scholars. But when Xu Zhimo first saw Zhang Youyi's photo, he still couldn't help but flick the corners of his mouth down and said with disgust: "Countrymen." "
The picture shows Zhang Youyi
Xu Zhimo's marriage to Zhang Youyi depended on Zhang Youyi's fourth brother Zhang Jiaxuan as a matchmaker for her.
At that time, Zhang Aojia was the secretary of the Governor of Zhejiang. One day, while touring the school, he spotted a talented student and wanted to introduce him to his sister Zhang Youyi.
After many inquiries, Zhang Aojia knew that the student's name was Xu Zhimo. At that time, the Xu family was already a well-known wealthy merchant in Jiangnan, and Zhang Aojia personally went to the Xu family to propose to him as the fourth son of the Zhang family.
Hearing that the Zhang family, which had a high status, came to propose to him, Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru immediately decided on this marriage. As for the parties to this wedding, it was because of the family's notification that they learned that they had a marriage contract.
At that time, Xu Zhimo was 18 years old and had just graduated from Zhejiang No. 1 Middle School. Zhang Youyi, on the other hand, is just 15 years old and is studying at the "Second Girls' Normal School of Jiangsu Province" (hereinafter referred to as the Girls' School).
Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi
Zhang Youyi left home when she was 12 years old, when the girls' school had just been established, so Zhang Youyi entered the academy under the arrangement of her family. The principal of the girls' school is Yang Daquan, because she attaches great importance to girls' education, so Zhang Youyi also received advanced education here.
Later, Zhang Youyi's very self-reliant personality was also cultivated during this period.
Later, due to the arrangement of Zhang Youyi's family, although she had not yet graduated from school, she still returned home and married Xu Zhimo.
Xu Zhimo's attitude towards this marriage is "the order of the matchmaker, subject to the parents."
After the marriage, Zhang Youyi did not have the happiness imagined by her brother. On the contrary, she also has some fear of Xu Zhimo, the fear brought about by inferiority.
In the autumn of 1916, Xu Zhimo left Shanghai and chose to go north to Beiyang University (Tianjin University) for further study. At this time, although Zhang Youyi wanted to join Xu Zhimo, he was severely rejected by him.
In the end, Zhang Youyi could only choose to stay at home in Zhejiang and be the young grandmother of the Xu family.
Life in the north is the fastest growing day for Xu Zhimo, and it is also the most difficult day for Zhang Youyi in the south. But even so, Zhang Youyi is waiting, waiting for Xu Zhimo to finish his studies and return home to live with him for a long time.
But the ultimate fact is that all she is waiting for is the birth of her eldest son Ah Huan and the departure of Xu Zhimo.
Perhaps having completed the task of succession arranged by the family, Xu Zhimo left China very eagerly at the moment of his son's birth and chose to study abroad.
Zhang Youyi and her son Ah Huan
Although Zhang Youyi did not want her husband to leave, she did not have a trace of capital to stop her husband, and could only let him go.
<h1>Impossible love</h1>
And Xu Zhimo, also during the study abroad, gradually came together with Lin Huiyin. But later, because of Father Lin's obstruction, coupled with the influence of Xu Zhimo's own wife, this pair of lovers was finally unable to do so.
Therefore, when Zhang Youyi went to Europe to look for Xu Zhimo with joy, she was given a divorce agreement by Xu Zhimo. Although before this, two months of living together in the Uk, Xu Zhimo had already made Zhang Youyi pregnant.
For Xu Zhimo's divorce, Zhang Youyi did not express the slightest dissatisfaction. Eventually, in 1922, when Xu Zhimo's second son was born, the two of them officially divorced.
After the divorce, Xu Zhimo returned to China with great joy to find Lin Huiyin, while Zhang Youyi chose to study early childhood education in Europe with the support of her family. However, due to the loss of Xu Zhimo's assistance and Zhang Youyi's single-minded study in Europe, their second son unfortunately died.
Although Zhang Youyi was very painful, she still chose to regain her spirit, and she wanted to rely on herself to come up with some results, a result that could be targeted by Xu Zhimo.
Photos of Zhang Youyi in her later years
In 1926, when Xu Zhimo was in full swing to develop his own Crescent Poetry School, Zhang Youyi quietly returned to China through the care of her family.
After returning to China, the first thing Zhang Youyi did was to understand Xu Zhimo's recent situation. When she learned that Xu Zhimo had married Lu Xiaoman, she suddenly felt as if she had lost something, but this thing had not belonged to her a long time ago.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman became acquainted with a drama, when Lu Xiaoman had just married Wang Geng and Xu Zhimo was also fiercely pursuing Lin Huiyin.
But when love comes, it is impossible to resist no matter how it is said. Although Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman had never known each other, at the first sight of their first encounter, they liked each other without saying a word.
At this time, Lin Hui went to the United States with Liang Qichao to study together, and Wang Geng also gave the task of taking care of Lu Xiaoman to Xu Zhimo because of his work.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman
Finally, at the end of 1925, Lu Xiaoman divorced Wang Geng and the following year she entered the palace of marriage with Xu Zhimo.
Before getting married, Xu Zhimo had consulted his family. Originally, Xu Shenru did not approve of this matter, he believed that his son's divorce was already a great rebellion, and now he married a married woman, which was even more humiliating to the family.
Therefore, Xu Shenru gave his son a problem: if Zhang Youyi agreed, he would also agree.
Xu Shenru believes that his son cruelly abandoned Zhang Youyi, and he will certainly not get her forgiveness, so this marriage also has a way to refuse.
However, to Xu Shenru's surprise, when Zhang Youyi learned of this matter, she immediately agreed. With this result, even if Xu Shenru was too dissatisfied, he could only approve of the marriage in the end.
Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru
Out of the Xu family's debt to Zhang Youyi, Xu Shenru took the initiative and gave the Xu family's house in Shanghai to Zhang Youyi. Even, Zhang Youyi is not short of these things.
In his married life, Lu Xiaoman could only settle in Shanghai due to physical reasons. In order to make money, Xu Zhimo often returned to Beijing and Shanghai several times a day. And every time Xu Zhimo travels, the tool is to take an unsafe plane.
Xu Zhimo had previously written an essay about flying, so in order to promote himself, the airline used a free airline coupon as his advertising fee.
As a result, Xu Zhimo was able to take a free flight, and because of this, he also lost his life.
<h1>Xu Zhimo's posthumous affair</h1>
One day in November 1931, Xu Zhimo had a quarrel with Lu Xiaoman because of the problem of expenses. Early the next morning, instead of waiting for the normal check-in time, he found a helicopter at the airport and asked him to take him to Peiping.
The reason why Xu Zhimo is so impatient is because in Beiping, Lin Huiyin is going to give a speech. Therefore, Xu Zhimo attaches great importance to this matter, and even does not hesitate to take care of his own safety.
In the end, the helicopter, because when it flew to Jinan, suddenly encountered heavy fog, and could not help but reduce the altitude to fly. Because the fog was too dense, the pilot could not see the way forward, and the helicopter crashed in Jinan. Xu Zhimo, on the other hand, was also killed on the spot.
For Xu Zhimo's life, in his love story, none of the people he loved arrived at the scene of the accident; but the person he did not like, or even a little disgusted, was the first person to arrive at the scene.
After Lin Hui heard about Xu Zhimo's accident, he chose to call her husband Liang Sicheng to help find Xu Zhimo's body; While Lu Xiaoman, directly at his home in Shanghai, refused to accept the telegram of Xu Zhimo's death, and even refused to expect to claim Xu Zhimo's body.
So that in the end, the messenger could only hand over this telegram to the hands of Xu Zhimo's ex-wife Zhang Youyi.
Zhang Youyi took the telegram and was silent for a long time. Subsequently, she took her children to her brother's house and went to Jinan to claim Xu Zhimo's body.
And this incident, Zhang Youyi did not dare to tell Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru. Xu Shenru was old, and the grief of losing his son in his old age was that Zhang Youyi was afraid that he would not be able to bear it.
But the paper could not contain the fire after all, and in Xu Shenru's repeated questioning, Zhang Youyi finally chose to put this matter and the matter out. After Xu Shenru heard about this, he said softly to Zhang Youyi: "Okay, then forget it." "
Later, at Xu Zhimo's funeral, Xu Shenru originally refused Lu Xiaoman's admission, but because of her wife's identity, Lu Xiaoman still gave Xu Zhimo a ride.
The picture shows Lu Xiaoman
On the contrary, the person Xu Shenru wanted to meet was Zhang Youyi. But she only appeared when the funeral was about to take place.
Although Zhang Youyi had already prepared a black cheongsam, she only dared to secretly look at the door and did not dare to appear in front of Lu Xiaoman.
It was not until later, when someone told her that Lu Xiaoman insisted on changing Xu Zhimo's birthday clothes, that she chose to appear.
Xu Zhimo died in a crash, and his body could not withstand the toss for a long time. It took a lot of effort for people to reluctantly put on a Chinese birthday jacket for them. Unexpectedly, When Lu Xiaoman saw Xu Zhimo's body for the first time, he asked for a Western-style birthday coat.
In the end, under the persuasion of Zhang Youyi, Lu Xiaoman gave up.
Lu Xiaoman
And Xu Zhimo's funeral, and because of the influence of Lu Xiaoman, Zhang Youyi became the main host.