In the book Men from Mars and Women from Venus, the author compares men to Martian animals and women to Venusian animals.
Water and fire are incompatible, in fact, fire is also in Kejin.
Wherever men and women appear, there must be arguments and contradictions.
Whether in social or intimate relationships, the differences in concepts and contradictions between men and women always exist.
It cannot be changed, it can only be reconciled and alleviated.
You will find that couples who love each other before marriage, after marriage, will also encounter a chicken feather in marriage.
There will be quarrels, there will be contradictions, there will be cold wars, this is a normal phenomenon.
The different thinking patterns of men and women also determine that the attitudes of the two to feelings are also different.
In this article, you will learn:
What are men thinking when they take the initiative to break up?
What are women thinking when they take the initiative to break up?
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Men take the initiative to mention the breakup, what is in their hearts?
Men are born rational hunters.
No matter what difficulties, troubles, and emotional states are encountered; as long as men calm down, they can always rationally analyze how to do it and give a result.
Because whether it is work, life or maintaining a family, it is necessary for men to maintain enough sanity, and men need to not give up and not back down.
And in the relationship, the man also remains as rational as ever.
There is a saying on the Internet that goes like this:
Men behave very childishly when they love you; mature like an old man when they don't love you.
This sentence is just used to describe the psychology of men.
So, men take the initiative to break up with you, indicating what they think in their hearts?
First: The best answer given by the man after weighing the pros and cons
Don't think that women are realistic, men are realistic, and it is also terrible.
His intellect, logical analysis ability, all make men become cold when making decisions.
And he takes the initiative to break up with you, which means that he is notifying you and giving you a result.
As for this result, whether the girl accepts it or not, whether she retains it, does not matter.
In this game of feelings, men play the role of "hunter" and "giver".
Whether a man falls in love with you first or falls in love with you later, it does not affect his changes in the relationship.
According to psychological analysis, men's attitude towards feelings is "hot first and then cold".
Other words:
At the beginning of the relationship, the enthusiasm of men will gradually increase, pay more than girls, and invest more love than girls.
However, when the feelings reach their highest point, the enthusiasm and love of men begin to decline.
At this time, women have just fallen in love with men.
You see, deviations appear, and contradictions arise.
Second: When men mention breaking up, is there any room for redemption?
Mentioning this issue reminds me of a case.
A female reader consulted me, she said that she broke up with her boyfriend who had been in love for more than 3 years, and she never thought that her boyfriend would take the initiative to break up.
As for the reason for the breakup, it was just a hasty sentence: "I don't love you anymore".
Then, the boy quickly began a new relationship in the breakup for half a month.
The female reader asked me: "Is he premeditated, or does he really not love me?" ”
In fact, these two issues do not conflict at all.
He didn't love you at first, so he was a little premeditated to break up with you; what's more, the seamless relationship itself explains many problems.
However, he can frankly and frankly directly mention breaking up with you, rather than torturing you in disguise and forcing you to break up, which is considered to be the respect for your feelings in recent years.
Yes, boys are sometimes so sensible and cruel.
So, you say that in this case, there is still room for girls to save?
The answer is:
There is no room for redemption.
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What does it mean for a girl to take the initiative to break up?
When a girl loves a boy deeply, she does not easily mention breaking up.
If the girl is very direct and simply breaks up with the boy, it means that the girl did not love the boy so much from the beginning.
Most girls, deeply involved in feelings, will only make themselves into "nasty looks".
Her sensibility, hesitation, impulsiveness, will always make decisions that she regrets.
And girls take the initiative to break up, the main purpose is 2.
First: Break up to get the "initiative" in the relationship
For example:
When children live with their parents, they often have inexplicable tantrums and crying behaviors.
This kind of behavior is not only that the child is hungry and unwell; more often, the reason is that the child wants to seek comfort and attention from the parents.
For intimate people, spiritual attention and concern are the most important.
Once the girl is in the relationship, she realizes that she is snubbed and feels that the boyfriend does not love herself so much.
At this time, girls must find ways to gain the initiative and attract the attention of boys.
How?
The best practice, of course, is to "mention the breakup".
Otherwise, why do many girls always like to threaten boys with "let's break up" when they quarrel?
The purpose of her doing this is to make the boy soft, apologize and admit her mistakes, and give her more comfort and love.
Boys, do you understand now?
Don't think that the girl is too unreasonable, maybe her emotions are because you don't care enough?
Second: She was disappointed, but decided to give you a chance
Disappointment in a person is not a matter of an instant, but the accumulation of one trivial little thing after another.
Do you think that when a girl breaks up with you, it is from the heart and cuts to the point?
This is not the case.
Girls are indeed very disappointed in you, not satisfied with your attitude, not satisfied with boys' unmotivated, dissatisfied with boys' views of marriage and love, etc.
But at this time, the girl still plans to give the boy a chance.
As long as the boy is willing to take the initiative to retain and show that he is willing to change his attitude, the girl will go down the steps and retract the sentence "break up".
On the contrary, if the boy does not retain and is not willing to change, then the girl will really make up her mind to break up.
Girls like to be tempted, it's their nature.
If love is a chess game, then both men and women are chess players.
Constantly playing games, competing, wanting to be a "winner".
But in the matter of feelings, where is the real win or loss?
It is nothing more than that you tolerate me, and I understand you.
Today's Topic:
Under what circumstances would you initiate a breakup?
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