What kind of situations in marriage will make you feel wronged?
"Men pay more, men pay less."
"The grievance in the marriage is that after arguing with my husband, he still threw up his hands and took care of the treasurer, thinking that I was angry and complained about tiredness."
"When I had a conflict with my mother-in-law, my husband sided with my mother-in-law and left me alone."
"After giving birth to a child, the husband does not give a penny for household use, and the quarrel is cold and violent..."
Every woman who has been wronged in marriage has endless grievances, but she does not know how to change her situation.
May have thought about divorce, and for various reasons have to continue to compromise, in the marriage while feeling very wronged, while paralyzing themselves, comfort themselves can also go forward, just get through.
If you don't do anything, you really can't get through it, and it will only get more and more painful.
The biggest grievance of a woman who has been wronged in marriage begins with blurring personal boundaries.
Women who are easy to blur personal boundaries are manifested in intimate relationships by knowing that they have been treated unfairly, have their teeth knocked out and swallowed blood, but they cannot explain their grievances.
Why is this happening?
Is it that women are not good at expressing their grievances? Of course not all, but to play the piano to the cow.
Misunderstandings between husband and wife are continuous, men think that women are fine to find things, women think that men do not understand their own pain and tiredness, like this misunderstanding, enough to destroy the previous accumulation of emotional foundations, once the previous feelings are consumed, want to change the relationship between the two people before, you have to pay extraordinary efforts.
When there is a problem between two people, many women obviously feel wronged, but they choose to be patient or compromise, and make concessions, which is the beginning of blurring their boundaries.
Men are constantly testing women's bottom line, found that they can attack the city and pool, they have to take advantage of it, really to force women to no way back, and women feel that they have been greatly wronged, which is also the source of pain for women.
If a woman wants to be free from grievances in marriage, she should not blur her boundaries.
First of all, we must clarify our bottom line and dare to refuse unreasonable demands.
In marriage, many women will sacrifice themselves for the sake of the man they love deeply, even if they are wronged a little.
If a man knows how hard it is to hurt a woman and responds to a woman's love, it is worth it for a woman to be wronged.
It's just that many men don't know how to thank women for their efforts, and will only take it for granted that women should do, and it makes no sense for women to suffer more grievances, but they just suffer themselves.
If the person who loves each other is together, the woman must also clarify her bottom line, and dare to refuse the unreasonable request of the partner or mother-in-law.
Even if you have a "bad" reputation, you must show your sharp edge so that others can know where your bottom line is.
And the women who have been wronged in marriage are soft-hearted and loving people, who would rather wronged themselves for the sake of a good reputation or love for someone, and dare not adhere to their bottom line, afraid that the relationship with each other will break down.
Having this kind of psychology is not to defend their own bottom line, and do not understand that to love someone again, you must also know how to love yourself first.
Whether it is emotional, physiological and economic, women should make their bottom line clear with men after marriage, once men cross this line, they must bravely express their dissatisfaction and let men pay the corresponding price for this, and men will be jealous.
Second, don't blur your boundaries in getting along, but have your own opinions.
Women who have been wronged in marriage often can't grasp the focus of the problem when encountering things, and they don't have their own opinions, and they are easily biased by men.
In getting along, there is no game ability at all, and there is no means to beat men, and in the eyes of men, she has become a woman who does not have any deterrent ability, and it is easy to fatten up men's guts and make men more and more wanton to hurt themselves.
Most of these women adhere to the concept of "after marriage and men are a family, do not have to divide each other", until they have been wronged to find that they think too much, men or in-laws do not take themselves as a family.
When a woman blurs her boundaries, it is easy to leave a good impression of bullying on others, and may be kind in the eyes of women themselves, but too kind is weak.
In getting along, when a man unconsciously makes you aggrieved, the woman should clearly point out her dissatisfaction, even if you love him again, he can't force you to do something that makes you resentful.
When encountering problems, we must have our own opinions, and dare to be responsible for our own actions, give each other a certain buffer space, and respect each other's right to be alone, that is, to establish a clear boundary, but it is conducive to the balance of the relationship between two people.
Finally, learn to recognize yourself and dare to improve yourself.
A large part of the reason why a woman who has been wronged in marriage feels that she is very painful is that she regards the man as too important, feels that he is her own life, and feels that she is very wronged and not loved whenever there is a contradiction.
Pin your own happiness and sense of value on men, and women will naturally not have happiness and happiness.
Because such a woman can not recognize herself, lost herself, subconsciously feel that men's love is the whole of life, lack of love, even if the man says a few beautiful love words, it is considered to be true love, and is willing to pay all for it.
This kind of behavior of not recognizing themselves just gives some men the opportunity to take advantage of this psychological characteristic of women to control (PUA) women and make women obey him.
Only when women learn to recognize themselves, they will not have a weak sense of self, will establish clear boundaries, dare to be themselves, rather than always hiding their feelings and using compromise to maintain the illusion of superficial happiness.
Women who dare to face themselves, even if they are wronged once, will find ways to improve themselves, so as to change their situation, rather than endure and endure grievances in marriage.
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