In the future, true love will only become a "luxury"

He Suohuan, a writer of gender-emotional psychology, writes sentient stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.

Love is precious, money is more expensive.

Throughout the ages, you will find that the pattern of love has always changed.

From the small peasant economy to the feudal society, from ancient times to modern times, from male power to women's rights, love has undergone different degrees of change in each era.

Like what:

In ancient times, men and women had a clear division of labor.

The tribes are gathered and scattered, and the men are responsible for going out hunting and cultivating the food, while the women are responsible for reproducing the offspring, caring for the children, and mending the seams at home.

In the feudal period, the status of women was generally lower, and social relations became familial gatherings.

In contemporary times, the status of women has risen, and family life has become a "small family" mode of life.

And in the process of constant change, love is also changing.

Procreation, pleasing men, partners, pure love, and now it has become "interest-based love."

The poem of Mr. Mu Xin: "Once upon a time, slow, there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime."

That kind of love is limited to the slow pace of life, and people regard love as a spiritual pleasure after meeting their basic survival and life needs.

And, due to geographical limitations, love is limited to a small range.

But in the current environment, love is not affected by geography and distance.

You want to love and see each other in one day.

But the purity of love is decreasing little by little.

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The economic base determines the pattern of love

Mode one: money without love

When a person has enough economic foundation and a good enough family background to support himself, social status stands at the top of the pyramid.

At that time, his love is often difficult to choose by himself, but will be limited by his parents and family.

The marriage of the rich is more important than ordinary people.

The combination of the giants and the giants can maximize the benefits and realize the exchange of resources between the two families.

Therefore, boys and girls living in the giants have difficulty in choosing the love they want according to their own hearts.

Parents' opinions must be considered on the one hand, and the future of the family must be considered at the same time.

Model two: have money and enough freedom to pursue the love you want

There is also a category of people, their social status, wealth, all of which are their own little bit of hard work.

When people reach middle age, they have accumulated enough wealth that even if they choose a plain and comfortable life, it is enough to support the lives of the future and even the next generation.

By this time, he would be able to enjoy all the pleasures that money could bring, and in exchange for the freedom of life and time.

He will have more initiative and more leeway to pick the love he wants.

Although he is very lonely on the road of working hard for his career, the gains after success have bought him more time to pursue the feelings he wants.

Mode three: No money, but love

This situation generally occurs when you are a student, at the age when you have just joined the workforce.

The two people are not deeply involved in the world, do not understand the world, do not have much understanding of the future and life, and are in a confused stage.

And love for them is tantamount to giving each other spiritual comfort and warmth.

It's like two people snuggling together on a cold winter night, and although the body is cold, the two hearts are fiery.

However, not having money means they cannot move on to the next step of life.

When faced with the situation of marriage, buying a house, and living, love will be crushed by reality.

Pure love, really hard to meet.

After all, the environment is different from the past.

In the past, people only had to think about eating and drinking enough, but now what?

Two people need to have enough financial foundation to live.

Mode four: No money, so give up love

One of the main reasons why contemporary male single young people choose to be single is that the economic conditions are insufficient.

The economic base determines the superstructure, and the pursuit of love is the road to the superstructure.

A person has no money, and his monthly income is only enough to support himself, and at this time you let him pursue love, and he does not have the courage.

Fish and bear paws cannot be combined, love and bread, when we are young, can only choose the same.

If you choose bread, then on the road of your hard work, the other party may not accompany you to suffer.

If you choose love, then what qualifications do you have to guard love?

This reminds me of a line from Edward Scissorhands:

"Putting down the scissors won't protect you, picking up the scissors won't be able to hug you."

Between love and reality, separated by two young, fiery hearts that eventually return to peace.

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Why does love become a "luxury"?

True love is a luxury, because there are few people who meet true love, and there are many people who desire true love.

Some people are married, but not with the people they love the most; their attitude toward marriage is only a partnership with their partner.

Get married and have children, pass on the generations, and run your own family little by little.

Some people get married, initially because of love, but enter into marriage only to find that there is no fit between two people.

Two hedgehogs snuggled together, not bringing warmth to each other, only stinging each other.

This is the "hedgehog effect" in psychology.

People who use the word "beautiful" to describe love often have not experienced true love.

Because true love is intermittently beautiful, a feeling of continuous screwing.

The use of "ugly" to describe love is some people who think they understand love.

Because there is no beauty and ugliness in love, how you look at it, love will become what it will become.

The wonderful thing about love is that it treats everyone fairly.

A rich man wants to pursue love, but he never meets what he wants.

A person has no money, but he encounters his true love, but because of his lack of ability, he cannot protect love, and eventually let love slip away from him.

You see, isn't true love a luxury?

What's more, the weakness of human nature is that the deeper you love, the farther away you are; when you lose it, you begin to regret it.

Analyzed according to the "law of diminishing marginal effects":

Any couple, even true love; as the long years go by, over time, love becomes a thorn in the back of each other.

Therefore, cherish the present, cherish the people in front of you.

You just have to love the present, the person in front of you, don't care what the future holds.

Today's Topic:

Do you think love is a "luxury"?

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