According to the news of @Xinhuanet on May 5, the Ministry of Education recently issued the "Compulsory Education Labor Curriculum Standards (2022 Edition)". Among them, the goals of "sorting and storage" and "daily life labor such as home cleaning, cooking, and home beautification" have been formulated according to different school segments, and will be implemented in the fall semester of 2022.
Labor education is survival education and the first education in children's lives. Many parents ignore this most basic consensus and common sense and go into the misunderstanding of labor education. Parents are invited to "sit in the right seat", look at their own problems in family labor education, and correctly cultivate their children's labor values.
Labor education has a decisive impact on the future of children. What type of parent are you? How to educate children about labor? This newspaper specially invited more than a dozen parents to share their labor education experience through the "online parent-teacher conference".
Labor misunderstandings
Labor is paid
Children's utilitarianism is inflated
Parent Profile: Mr. Lee (Business)
From the first grade of the child, the teacher encourages parents to arrange more simple housework for the child and cultivate the child's sense of labor, but the child always escapes and perfunctory. Take sweeping the floor, for example, children often do not do half of it, or do not take it seriously, and the ground is still dirty after sweeping.
In order to encourage children to actively participate in labor, I will learn from Parents in North America and let children earn "pocket money" through labor: 2 yuan for sweeping the floor, 3 yuan for washing dishes, 3 yuan for running errands, 3 yuan for washing clothes... After the child tasted the sweetness in the process of doing housework, he really became active, I felt that the motivation was effective, I did not expect to ask him to help a little favor, he would reach out and ask me for payment. I'm really worried that once the habit is formed, the child will become mercenary.
Expert opinion
Labor needs to be motivated
Spiritual rewards are more valuable
Children do housework "charge", which is tantamount to using money as bait, so that children can form a mindset in later life - value exchange. Money becomes the driving force for children to participate in housework, and children often have a sense of dependence, inducing and promoting the sense of "money is omnipotent"; children's love, compassion, and responsibility will be unconsciously lost and become selfish.
Children are a member of the family, and parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility for the family, so that they understand that they have a responsibility at home or in society.
Parents can make a child's habit of developing a plan, turn material rewards into spiritual rewards, take their children to see movies, buy a good book, accompany their children to visit museums, or accompany their children to climb mountains, participate in parent-child activities, and travel, all of which are more valuable than simple material rewards and financial encouragement.
Labor misunderstandings
Children discriminate against working people
What to do
Parent Profile: Mr. Yang (Bank Manager)
I am usually busy at work, and the children are usually taken care of by my grandmother. If the child is not serious about studying, his grandmother will scare him: "If you don't study well, you will have to sweep the street and serve dishes in the future." ”
At first, I thought it was nothing, after all, I was also raised by this number. Unexpectedly, once eating out, the waiter touched the child's toy with the dish, and the child very unceremoniously asked him to pick it up. I scolded him for not being able to do this, and he said with a straight face that he should be a waiter if he didn't study well. Only then did I realize that one or two jokes could have such a bad impact on a child's values.
Expert opinion
"Man on man" education
Is toxic to inspirational education
The primary goal of education is to train each student to be a self-reliant worker. However, some parents one-sidedly believe that manual labor and basic labor are low-level labor, and motivate their children by despising labor and looking down on ordinary workers.
In the minds of children, manual labor has become synonymous with "inferiority", thus avoiding labor and despising labor. Parents should consciously pay attention to their own expressions, teach and respect the grass-roots people, send water to sanitation workers, take their children to visit labor factories and orchards, go to communities, homes for the elderly, and orphanages to volunteer, and cultivate children's concept of "the most glorious labor".
Labor misunderstandings
Do it all
Make your child "low energy"
Parent Profile: Ms. Hao (Full Time Wife)
Our family is such a child, a family of four people regard him as a treasure, and do not let him touch anything at home. We all think that children are still young and will naturally master life skills when they grow up. And sometimes guiding children to do housework is not only a waste of time but also a waste of energy, and it is not as fast as we solve it in minutes.
When the child was in the fourth grade, he participated in the summer camp organized by the class, a four-day and three-night trip, and the child cried the next day to come back. It turned out that he was in the summer camp, the shoelaces would not be tied, the quilt would not be folded, he was ridiculed and excluded by his classmates, and his self-esteem was hit. We love our children to help him everywhere, is it wrong to take care of them?
Expert opinion
Create labor demand
Develop children's ability to adapt to society
One of the most basic human needs is to be needed by others, which can make individuals feel their own importance and the value of their existence. Parents stifle their children's interest in labor, give their children the status of "little prince" and "little princess" who are pampered, and children will not find the value of their own existence, become dependent on parents, lack independent thinking, and eventually lose the ability to adapt to society.
Parents should establish a correct concept of labor education and fully realize that labor is the means for children to understand the world. Create labor needs for children, encourage children to start from the small things around them, accompany children to work together with goals- orientation, decompose a labor into multiple steps, parents do half and leave half, and promote children to work.
Labor misunderstandings
Utilitarian labor
Children become "duplicitous"
Parent Profile: Ms. Ji (Purchasing Manager)
The child helps to do housework from an early age, sweeping the floor, mopping the floor, and drying clothes, but as he enters the beginning of the primary school, the burden of schoolwork increases, and the housework is basically canceled. Children are mainly homework at home, and the labor punch card task assigned by the teacher is also a simple posing matter.
Gradually, I wanted him to do some work for me, and he asked me to take pictures and record them, leaving photos and videos of "labor punching cards". When I go to parent-teacher conferences, the teachers regard the children as a model of labor, praising their extreme sense of responsibility and responsibility. Although I was praised, I vaguely felt uneasy, is it really good for a child to be so utilitarian?
Expert answers
Break down utilitarianism
Give play to the function of labor and education
The education of parents' utilitarian labor has led to children performing very differently at home than at school. Parents pay more attention to intellectual education, take photos and punch cards to cope with the behavior of things, and promote and promote children's utilitarianism.
The child's pursuit of efficiency maximization and practicality makes labor a tool to win the attention and praise of teachers, and in the long run it will become indifferent and exquisite egoism, and will stop at nothing to achieve the goal.
Parents should change their concepts, attach importance to the role of labor education in shaping children's moral character and comprehensive literacy, and remove the utilitarian behavior of labor; at the same time, strengthen communication with teachers, understand the stage goals and requirements of school education, and work together to create a good family environment conducive to the healthy growth of children.
Labor misunderstandings
Domestic labor "stocking"
Children go to the "fork in the road"
Parent Profile: Mr. Zhang (Programmer)
My children and I are not hardworking people, and the housework is basically cleaned by the hourly workers. During the epidemic, part-time workers are not easy to find, and we always make excuses for each other to avoid doing housework.
When the teacher asks us to guide our children to work, we don't know what to do. Labor depends on self-awareness, and what children want to do but will not do will naturally drive themselves to study hard.
Once, the child had a conflict with his classmates at school, and it turned out that in order to let the classmates help him do hygiene, he threatened to tell the teacher and classmates about reading novels in class. The classmate was angry, and the two had an argument. I really did not expect that our "stocking" in children's labor education actually put him on a "fork in the road."
Expert opinion
Let it go appropriately
Doesn't mean "too lazy to care"
The child is a blank piece of paper, and what is written on this blank piece of paper depends on his parents. The primary and secondary school student stage is the stage of the cultivation of children's behavior norms, and the effective guidance and management of parents can standardize children's words and deeds, which is of great significance for their future growth and development.
Labor education requires parents to moderately let go, but not to let it go, hoping that children will be self-taught. Children who take a detour in labor education will feel repulsive and disgusted by labor in their hearts. Parents should lead by example to guide their children to learn, master skills, learn to let children do things, and learn to "use" children, which is the correct way of education.
Labor misunderstandings
Children "rich"
Become extravagant and wasteful
Parent Profile: Ms. Yang (Business Owner)
When I was a child, I had poor economic conditions, and I often envied others, but now that the conditions are better, I want to give my children the best material life. What others don't have, we have to have; what others have, we want to be better.
Children like to eat, play, buy a lot at a time, the result is often not enough to eat, expired and thrown away; many toys are bought repeatedly, dismantled without dismantling and giving away. Recently, teachers said that children waste food at school, and eggs are not eaten and thrown around.
Teachers criticize education in exchange for children's crying. Only then did I realize that the rich environment created for my child bred his bad habit of wasting food and not respecting the fruits of his labor. Now I want to change, but I'm afraid he will overreact, where should I start?
Expert opinion
Labor education
Let the child not "forget the book"
"Enriching" children is by no means an infinite material satisfaction. Now parents love their children and do their best to provide their children with a "no bad money" life, so that they can disconnect money from labor.
Children lack the education to respect the labor of others and cherish the fruits of labor, mistakenly believe that the efforts of others are taken for granted, and become "white-eyed wolves" who only know how to take and are not grateful, and become irresponsible and selfish.
Parents should instill a sense of labor service in their children, guide their children to take care of themselves, and cultivate a sense of family responsibility. Parents can let their children plant flowers and trees, raise small animals, cultivate feelings for nature, learn some labor experience, and cultivate a sense of labor happiness; they can also watch gratitude movies, get close to working people and fiery labor scenes, and feel the meaning of labor.
This article is from the New Parents Daily, Issue 969-970
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