Children are the continuation of parents, but also the hope of parents, but also the meat of our hearts, how do we raise children is the most correct?
First of all, it is to build self-confidence for the child, so that he can think in opposites! Self-esteem is so important to a person's development, how can parents help their children build high self-esteem in their daily lives?
1. Enlightenment education is closely related to the words and deeds of our parents.
I've met a lot of people in my life who feel that their lack of confidence comes from their parents' long-term negative evaluations of them.
I saw such a post on Zhihu: a girl and a friend were eating in a restaurant, accidentally broke a dish, and then her brain went blank, crying and constantly apologizing to friends and waiters. Friends later reassured her for a long time before she recovered.
Why is that? Because at that moment, she recalled countless times when she did something wrong and was endlessly insulted by her mother, and recalled herself who was weak and helpless but powerless to resist.
You can't deny that a person's opinion of themselves will inevitably be branded by their parents' evaluations.
Encouraging children more and praising their progress is more conducive to cultivating children with high self-esteem.
In such an environment, the child is able to feel that he is liked and valuable, and thus develops self-esteem.
On the other hand, such a parenting style can establish a good parent-child relationship, and a good parent-child relationship can nourish the child's life and make the child more confident and resilient.
2. Cultivate children's hands-on ability to manage themselves.
On the other hand, even if parents and teachers provide a non-competitive environment, children will still compare with each other. Therefore, in sports, learning, social interactions, etc., parents should consciously create opportunities to exercise their sense of ability, and do not do everything for them.
A particularly important point is that in the process of exercise, let children experience the feeling of success in doing a thing.
It is said that failure is the mother of success, but I think success is success, a person who has experienced the process of hard work - success, will be more eager to succeed, but also more willing to work hard.
Doing these three things in daily life can make children have a good level of self-esteem, self-confidence and tenacity, not afraid of setbacks, and encourage parents.
3. Correctly guide the child's winning heart.
Another important factor in self-esteem is comparison with peers.
After the age of 3, the competition between children has increased, and everything must compete for the first place. When I was in class, there were often children who quarreled over the first chair and the first sandbag.
Too much comparison will damage the enthusiasm of children, not only children will compare with each other, parents will also compare with each other. Some parents will even convey to their children the belief that "you are the best, you have to take the first in everything, and you are my good child when you take the first".
Under such pressure, how can children learn to treat success and failure correctly?
Therefore, parents and teachers should create a "non-competitive" environment for children, that is, in this environment, we only compare ourselves, and it is successful to improve than ourselves, without comparing children with each other, nor mentioning other people's children.
At the same time, we must teach children to accept failure, and we must tell children that failure is also a part of life.
Failure is only an experience, not a label. Being able to absorb from mistakes and eat a long and wise one is the best mentality for dealing with failure.
How do you raise your children? Let's talk together! Let's talk to each other!