Even if two children born to the same father and mother will be different, my mother often said: she and my aunt have completely different personalities. The same is true: "A mother gives birth to nine sons, and the nine sons are different." "The second-child family, because there is a comparison object, everyone will observe and comment on the eldest and the second child.
Most people say that if there are two babies in a family, Dabao is often more obedient and has an introverted personality. The second eldest will be mischievous, especially smart, and look likely to be liked.
The difference between the IQ and emotional intelligence of Dabao and Erbao is also very large, and the specific reasons are carefully analyzed.
My second treasure is a more cheerful personality, usually very good at making me and my husband happy. I had occasional arguments with my child's father, and the second brother would act as a peacemaker in the middle, and the appearance of a strange elf was loved. Overall, Erbao's emotional intelligence is higher than that of the boss.
The United States once conducted a special study of 43,000 people, and the results showed that the IQ of one child was 3.28 higher than that of the second child.
Why are there such a big difference between two babies raised by the same family?
Even the twins' two babies will have a big gap, not to mention siblings who are several years apart in age? Naturally, there are many differences. The fact that there is such a big gap between children is inextricably linked to the way parents educate.
Parents are strict with Dabao
"One child is raised according to the book, and the second child is raised as a pig." This sentence is very reasonable, because after the birth of the first baby, parents will buy a lot of parenting books during pregnancy because of various worries in their hearts when they are mothers for the first time, and after the baby is born, they will learn to make complementary foods for the baby.
Trying to raise the baby better, I unconsciously learned a lot of skills.
After the birth of the second eldest, Bao Dad and Bao Mom did not have the freshness of being a new father and mother. Will take the way of free-range education of the baby, will let the second treasure play at will, will no longer deliberately teach the child to walk, recognize words and so on.
In the process of getting along with the boss, Erbao can also slowly learn a lot of knowledge. Parents have experience, will not be as real as the original, some things can be saved, which also leads to the eldest IQ is higher than the second.
Dabao is a model for Erbao, and parents often compare the eldest. Most of the family's treasures are well-behaved and obedient, and take the initiative to take on the heavy responsibility of being older brothers and sisters.
When I was young, my father and mother would always say to my sister that you were a role model for my younger siblings to learn, and the more my parents said this, the harder my sister studied.
From childhood to adulthood, my sister's grades are better than mine. It can be said that the boss's high IQ is strictly disciplined by his parents. When I grew up, I reminisced with my sister, and she said that my parents had great expectations of me, so I kept trying not to disappoint my family.
When dads and moms give birth to their first child, most are at the golden age of childbearing. The baby born at a time will be relatively smarter. When giving birth to a second child, the physical function is not as good as before, and at the same time, it is necessary to take into account the diet and living of the boss, and the babies born by the elderly mothers are often not as smart as the boss.
Erbao knows how to observe words and has a high emotional intelligence
In this case, Erbao knows the way to survive better than the boss. For example, when I was in kindergarten, the boss needed the teacher to help feed him to eat well, and Erbao had already learned to eat by himself. When there is a conflict with the children, the boss usually finds adults to help solve the problem, the second treasure will solve the difficulties by himself, and rob other people's toys without flinching.
The second eldest has just been born, and the family will have a situation of "heavy and small", because the second treasure cannot take care of himself and looks more cute.
After my family's second treasure was born, Dabao once said, "Mom, you don't always want to hold your sister, you also have to hug me." "In life, the second treasure will also be more likable, so the emotional intelligence is higher."
Since I was a child, I have been more expressive than my sister, because my parents are not as strict with me as they are for my sister. Many times, I compete with my sister for favors in order to attract the attention of my parents and parents.
Seeing that her parents were angry, her sister would hide away and not know what to say. I will look at the words and know how to say good things to my parents.
When the eldest and the second are together, it may be that the second elder takes on the role of protecting and taking care of the boss. When encountering strangers, the boss may hide behind the adults, and the second brother will take the initiative to greet others. The different parenting methods of parents have achieved a high emotional intelligence of the second eldest.
Parents should be fair and impartial
Parents say that they must be fair in a bowl of water, in fact, it is difficult for parents to be fair in the second-child family, especially the older generation still has the idea of "son preference".
You can strictly demand both the big treasure and the second treasure at the same time, and give the two babies the same pampering and praise. Regardless of whether the two babies in the family are boys or girls, parents should be fair and not let any of them be wronged and treated unfairly. The family relationship is balanced, and the family can get along harmoniously and enjoy it.
Every child's IQ and emotional intelligence can be changed through the day after tomorrow, the so-called high IQ of the eldest, the second high emotional intelligence, is only a common phenomenon, not absolute.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
There are two babies in the family, parents can not be biased in both parenting and education, the baby's demand index is not the same, parents should be based on the characteristics of each child to raise, take care of the emotions of the two babies.
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