The author | Uncle Shan
The source | Uncle Bushan
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Recently, I saw such a topic on the Weibo hot search list:
"Can you accept the donation of the body", causing a heated discussion.
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This topic always inevitably mentions the frightening death.
And what we are really afraid of rather than death is the necessary separation and farewell.
In the world, after all, there are too many emotions and memories to be separated.
Just as in the popular emotional drama "Chasing the Love Family", Guo Jingfei and tan Zhuo's ex-wife, as soon as it began broadcasting, they officially announced their remarriage.
As for the reason for the remarriage, Guo Jingfei also did not shy away from saying: "Honestly speaking, it is emotional dependence."
As the days passed, the two men could not be separated for a long time.
As Tan Zhuo said: Without me, he can't live.
Image source: "Chasing the Love Family"
This is still the case for young people, let alone for the elderly.
Walking through the spring, summer, autumn and winter together, but it is difficult to go to the white head together, is the most profound pain.
Some time ago, there was such an old man who came to the Chinese Will Bank alone.
He was saying goodbye to the world in his own way.
With trembling hands, he signed his name on the body donation book and made a will for life.
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Here, the entanglement of various relationships is the most difficult complex to give up in the farewell of life and death.
As the documentary says:
"Remember me, though goodbye must be said."
The old man's name was Chao Wenzhen, 73 years old.
His wife is Nie Airong, 72 years old.
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Their farewell stories brought tears to the eye.
For more than forty years, they have been with each other, and their days are plain and warm.
Until the wife developed Alzheimer's disease.
She began to forget the east and the west, and even gradually forgot about her husband who lived together day and night.
When you are old, the most feared thing is to have a serious illness.
The parting of life and death is suddenly in front of us, and there are too many reluctances in life.
Therefore, he decided to say goodbye to the world on behalf of his wife when he was still awake.
Gu Cheng has a sentence:
"It's a time of fading away, but none of us are good at saying goodbye."
The way the old nest has set a farewell for itself is to sign an agreement to donate the body.
And left a poem:
The gates of heaven opened to me, and my thoughts rolled in.
It is difficult to give up a thousand things, and everything is not thrown away.
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Man is nothing more than a speck of dust in the torrent of time, which will eventually disappear.
In the emotional image of the Chinese Will Bank, those who are parents always remember their children.
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We are really not good at saying goodbye, because there are too many worries about living this suffering.
Perhaps, the opposite of life is not death, but forgetfulness.
Since my wife slowly forgot, there was an extra whiteboard on the wall of the house.
It was full of old nests' advice to his wife.
Doors and windows, keys, medication, information to the wife when going out on errands, and other details of life.
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There is only one sentence, the old nest wrote for its own sake: Don't get angry.
He said:
"She made me unbearable, I couldn't eat, and sometimes I was angry."
So in order to remind himself of restraint, he wrote these three words.
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Even if she has just finished telling her wife one thing, she will forget.
He respects his wife's feelings, understands and empathizes with her emotions.
It is true that in marriage, there are no two people who are completely suitable, only the heart of mutual accommodation.
The real perfect match for the lover, are polished.
In fact, many times, running a marriage is to manage the mood and manage each other's emotions.
The wife's condition became more and more serious, and she had to be sent to a nursing home for care.
The old nest knew that this would be a life-and-death parting that would never return.
In the past, his wife was not used to his clumsiness.
She was alone in charge of the whole family food.
Nowadays, changing the old nest to take care of his wife, standing in the kitchen is inevitable to see things and think of people.
It is true that no matter how good the marriage, it is also disgusted and loved at the same time, and quarrels while getting old.
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From home to the nursing home, you need to take 11 subway stops, 4 bus stops, and then walk 800 meters.
On this journey, the old nest has to walk four or five times a week.
And the opening words of each meeting with my wife are:
"What's my name?"
"Remember I didn't?"
When his wife could call out his name, he would hug her tightly in his arms.
The silver-haired wife looked like a young girl with a love sinus and smiled in the arms of the old nest.
This picture makes people move to the point of tears.
Suddenly I remembered the sentence: How forgetful is it when you are old, but you don't forget to miss each other.
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Falling in love is easy to get along with, and sometimes the heartbeat may only take a second.
But deciding to trust, deliver and persevere takes a lot of courage.
After dinner, the old nest will accompany his wife for a walk and recognize words.
His wife suffered from osteoporosis, and he knew that such activities were becoming more and more extravagant.
The old nest gave up all the comrades-in-arms and friends' gatherings.
He said:
"It's also a kind of happiness, I never felt that she was a burden."
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The most touching romance is probably:
I am willing to forget your name for you, and it is not a pity to lose the world.
When the wife finishes gargling and washing her face, every time she finishes one thing, the old nest will praise:
"Very good, very well behaved."
After the visit to the old nest, before returning home, he would always tell his wife a thousand times:
"After I leave, you will obey."
"You can't wrestle, honey."
There is not a single "I love you", but the words express love.
Even when you are old, the conversation is still like a young couple.
Even if the head of the white teenager is white, it still spoils you as before.
From green silk to white hair, the beauty of love is nothing more than that.
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The best marriage is that no matter how many storms and frosts there are in life, there will always be each other.
It is to find the courage to love each other in the suffering of life, and to find the preciousness of ordinary life in the chicken and dog fragments.
However, things are uncertain.
The sudden outbreak of the epidemic has prevented the old nest from visiting his wife.
For two months, the thoughts were overwhelming.
He suffered from depression and had to seek medical treatment alone.
He videotaped the letter he had written to his wife, clutching several pages of paper with trembling hands and holding back tears.
He wanted the nurse to show his wife often so that she wouldn't forget him.
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This video for my wife brought tears to my eyes.
Even though she cried about the old nest and watched the audience cry, her wife's mental state became more and more wooden.
This warrior, who was once not afraid of heaven and earth, what he was most afraid of at this moment was his wife's forgetting about him.
The old nest knows that the day of separation is getting closer and closer, and the goodbye to his wife is getting closer and closer.
In "Dream Quest", it is said:
"Remember me before the memory of love fades."
Everyone is not an island, and they care for each other and remember each other with their loved ones.
Giving life temperature, this is the meaning of life.
At the end of the documentary, there is the determined look of the old nest.
The wrinkles and ravines on his face were also full of reluctance to his wife.
No one could feel the pain in his heart when he said goodbye to the coming.
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We often say we don't believe in love anymore.
But in the face of these such bland but sincere love, there are still tears.
After reading a sentence, it is very touching:
"We live in an era when it's easy to say break up, but believe me, we also live in an era when we hold hands and get married for the rest of our lives."
Maybe your marriage, there is not much wind and snow.
It's just a determination to live and die and a belief in working together, and that's enough.
The best feeling is that only death can separate us.
I hope that when you are old and forget the whole world, you still have a partner who loves you as before.
Anchor | Yi Fan, radio host, sound temperature explorer.
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