In the process of children's growth, the impact of parents' education methods on children is particularly large, and many times, due to the improper education methods of parents, they have caused indelible pain to children. Today I will talk to you about it, when educating and criticizing children, these 4 bottom lines should not be easily touched, and may "hurt" children.
First, it's not right for people
In fact, when many parents educate their children, they will be particularly self-sufficient and will think about the mistakes made by their children with their own subjective ideas. For example, when the child fails the exam, many parents will accuse the child of being too stupid, or he does not work hard, all the mistakes are attributed to the child, and ignore the objective reason, is it because the test questions are too difficult, or the child's mood is not good that day, the state is not good. In fact, this is a common problem among Chinese parents, as long as there is any problem, they will blame all the mistakes on the children. In the long run, it will make children less and less confident and less and less fond of learning, and this harm cannot be erased.
Second, yell loudly during education
Chinese parents have always been like this, when the child makes a mistake, there is no patience to guide the child, just blindly vent their emotions, loudly accuse the child of the mistake, yes, when you are yelling, the child is scared by you, and dare not make such a mistake, but will not be close to you. He will not make the same mistake, but in fact he does not know where he has done wrong, and this correction is accurately repressive, if this is the case for a long time, the child will become particularly rebellious, and the more he wants him to be, the less he is.
Third, hurt your child's self-esteem
Everyone has self-esteem, children are no exception, even children are more concerned than we adults, so even if it is a parent, even if the child does something wrong, parents must respect the child, do not go to the way of disrespecting the child to educate him, so that the child will be inferior, and when he grows up, the child may have resentment towards the parents, and will become very rebellious.
Fourth, there is no time or occasion
In fact, in life, we often see parents criticizing and educating their children in public, and when they go to see their children, they are full of embarrassment and embarrassment. In fact, this is particularly harmful to the child's heart, parents may be fine after education, but the harm left to the child is very large, some parents even in school, in front of the teacher and classmates to educate the child, and then will let the child bear the ridicule of classmates and the teacher's strange eyes. This is not only not helpful for children's learning, but also harmful to children's mental health.