The reason why many children will do the wrong thing and take the wrong path and cannot become a useful person to society after growing up is mainly because parents have problems with their children's education when they are young, and they have not given correct guidance to their children.
As we often say, "The child's appetite is not big, depending on how the parents feed the child to eat; the child's temper is not big, it depends on how the parents deal with the child's emotions; the child's thinking is not correct, it depends on how the parents instill the concept of the child." A person, good or not, whether he knows how to be thin-skinned, all depends on how parents educate their children.
Children carry out the "three tubes"
First, children are good and lazy, and parents should discipline them
If the child is lazy at home all day, parents must discipline, the ancients said, "a house is not swept, why sweep the world?" ", must not let the child develop the habit of sitting and enjoying his success, parents do not think that the child is too small, do not let the child participate in family labor, when the child is small, it is the key period to shape the outlook on life, values, morality, so that children actively participate in family labor, can let the child recognize the parents' usual hardships, learn to be grateful, rather than think that it is deserved. On the other hand, children's regular home labor can also be a good exercise of children's hands-on ability.
Our parents will eventually leave their children one day, and the children will eventually need one to live in this world, and the infinite indulgence of parents to their children is harming the children in disguise.
Second, children do not understand politeness, parents must discipline
Whether it is a child or himself, he prefers to be close to polite people, saying that he does not reach out and do not hit the smiley face person, if a polite person is always smiling, the interpersonal relationship must not be too bad. And whether a person will become a polite person also depends on how his parents taught him when he was a child.
When the child is young, parents must lead by example and have a humble and polite attitude towards people and things, so as to affect the child's character development. It is also necessary to instill more in children the importance of politeness in daily life, and always remind children to respect each other when children get along with their own friends, or when children play with their peers, and do not act aggressively and rudely.
When parents find that their children are not polite to their elders, such as seeing people without calling, such as visiting others after helping him, he does not say thank you but takes it for granted, be sure to criticize the child appropriately, correct the child's mistakes, and avoid the rabbit child becoming a person who does not understand politeness. In daily life, children can also be taught to say thank you, or people give way, etc., which invisibly affects the child's cognition of etiquette.
Third, if the child often loses his temper and plays with it, the parents should discipline it
When the child is young, it is inevitable that some small things will produce bad feelings, at this time, how parents treat the child's anger and how to deal with the child's feelings will also have a very important impact on the child's development. For example, when the child is angry, the parents let the child throw things around, then when the child grows up, he will also like to use violence to solve it.
For example, when the child wants something but can't get it, he has been making trouble with the parents, and when the parents must buy it for themselves, if the parents obey and buy it for the child, then when they grow up, the child will also like to use cheng, crying and other ways to achieve their own goals.
Therefore, if you do not want your child to become a person who is hated by others, to become a violent and arbitrary person, when the child is young, you must deal with the child's emotions in a suitable way.
When the child loses his temper, parents can wait for the child to finish venting, and then communicate with the child, soothe the child's mood in a gentle way, and judge whether the child's approach is right or wrong to tell the child what the correct way to vent his emotions is. In this way, after the child grows up, he can better deal with his qi and control his emotions.
Children "don't care"
The two are actually very simple, one is not to take charge of the difficulties encountered by the child, and the other is not to interfere too much in the daily life of the child.
However, in charge of the difficulties encountered by the child, that is to say, when the child encounters difficulties, do not rush to help the child solve the problem, but first let the child think about what to do, what will be done, and then give the child appropriate help after the child's ability range.
When the difficulties encountered by the child are the degree to which the child can accept, the parents do not care, the sooner they learn to grow independently, the more beneficial it is to the child's future career
Not excessively interfering in the child's daily life, that is, not paying too much attention to the child's dating circle and how the child deals with his daily life.
What kind of adult a child will become actually depends on how parents cultivate their children's personality and how to guide their children when they are young.
Some things that children can do independently, at this time, parents do not care. A person with a complete personality and sufficient ability to live can always gain a firm foothold in society.
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