Many people, when choosing a son-in-law, only pay attention to the immediate part of the interests, look at the man's parents, his family environment, and of course like to ask each other: "Do you have a car, a house and a deposit?" ”
When you focus on the house and the deposit, it is actually a big mistake, and you should look at these three points when choosing a son-in-law.
First, personality
For many years, the two couples who have been more than half a hundred years have broken up in the end, and the reason is because of their personalities.
When you are young, for the sake of children, when the children grow up, they naturally have no worries, and finally choose to divide their hands.
Now many parents, when choosing a husband for their daughters, should look more at whether they are suitable for each other, and no parents know their children better.
Many parents are very aware of what kind of temperament their daughters are, some are extroverted, some are introverted, some are kind but weak, and some are even too strong.
It is based on this that parents know better what kind of son-in-law can tolerate their daughters.
A man's personality not only determines whether they are suitable for each other, whether two people can really live together, but also determines the direction of their future marriage.
Personality determines a person's emotions, which is the characteristics and attributes of individual stability, the more a man with a good personality, the more he can actively cope with the problems that arise in life.
On the contrary, a man with a dull personality and always full of gloom is also very scary, so when picking a son-in-law, it depends on his personality.
Second, character
For a man, wealth can not follow him for a lifetime, he may be rich now, not necessarily the future will not encounter setbacks, he may be poor at the moment, does not mean that he will not succeed in the future.
We can't just focus on the present moment, wealth doesn't say it all, but the man's character determines his life.
A man of good character, whether he is poor or rich, he can give the best love to his wife, because he knows more about morality and responsibility.
A man of poor character, he may use clever words and make all kinds of promises, but he does not understand what is called responsibility, in most cases, once a woman does something he does not need, or violates some of his interests, he will immediately turn his face, and even see different ideas.
Even though he had a million family fortunes, letting his daughter marry such a man with extremely poor character undoubtedly pushed him into the fire pit.
As for how to look at a man's character, don't look at what he has done to you, maybe what he is doing for you now is purposeful, but depends on his attitude towards his parents, his attitude towards his friends, and his attitude toward strangers.
Third, capacity
A man's ability will always be his most precious asset.
Some men, although the spring breeze is now proud, but he does not have the strength, everything depends on the family, there is no opinion, and he is not willing to suffer, such a man is difficult to bear heavy responsibilities.
It cannot be denied that some people are born with a golden key, and once they are born, they do not have to struggle to have wealth that others cannot earn in their lifetimes.
However, their ability is very poor, and when they have their sons and sons, the wealth of their ancestors has been left, it is really a sack for a straw bag, and one generation is not as good as a generation.
Lin Zexu famously said: "If the children and grandchildren are like me, what they do with money, and if they are wise and rich, they will lose their will; the children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what to do with the money, foolish and rich." ”
This sentence also reflects from the side that if the child is not capable, even if there is more money, there will eventually be a time to dissipate.
On the contrary, some men are very low-key and unobtrusive, relying on their own efforts for everything, never blindly pursuing anything, and will not randomly compare with others, because he knows very well what he wants, and such a man is the real potential stock.
He has the ability to live independently, he can guarantee that your daughter has no worries, and he can love this family with all his heart.
When choosing a son-in-law, we should pay special attention to these three points, because these represent this complete person, rather than being easily commercialized and realistic.