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Every parent wants their child to succeed, and some of them are also capable. However, there is nothing they can do about their children's problems. Children's boredom is also the thing they are most afraid of encountering; many parents think that their child's boredom is his own problem, and they cannot understand poorly grounded learning. However, if they don't want to learn, they can't understand. The key is how to convince them that it is useless. Your child's left ear goes in and out of your right ear.
Two reasons why children are bored with school
First, family reasons
1. The relationship between parents is not harmonious, so that children are nervous, uneasy and resentful of adults; they can't get the warmth and care they deserve at home, so that children encounter the temptation of the outside, go out like peers, and can't help but run out.
2. Parents are too demanding, which brings a lot of pressure to the children. Once children can't meet their parents' demands, they refuse to learn, so they can't catch up, so they just give up.
3. Parents are too busy to take care of their children. In the absence of care and supervision, children can easily hang out, band together with friends, seek comfort from the outside, and homework is gradually wasted. If most of the friends are funny, don't turn in their homework, and don't go to school, the kids won't go to school under their bad influence.
4. Do not understand and pay attention to the child's psychological needs, troubles and emotional reactions.
Second, the reason for the school
1. The school environment is unfamiliar, making children uncomfortable and uneasy. Can't get along with classmates, can't get along, can't get along, and isn't happy in school.
2. It is difficult to adapt to the disciplined group life, everything must be obeyed by the rules, there is no freedom.
3. Homework can not keep up, grades are not as good as people, or not interested in learning; do not get proper guidance, grades are getting worse and worse, can not turn in homework on time, can only skip school.
4. Feeling pressure in school, such as the teacher's attitude is unfair, the teaching style makes him uncomfortable, and the soul is hurt.
The main manifestations of children's school aversion are inattention, passive learning, loss of interest, lack of urgency of time, improper study, and lack of serious homework. However, not only are most of these children mentally normal, but many are intellectually abnormal. It can be seen that aversion is mainly caused by non-intellectual factors. School-weary children have an unspeakable sense of depression about learning. When they mention learning, they feel uneasy and anxious. They have resistance to teachers or parents, poor academic performance, and moral problems, and when children are severely bored with school or affected by certain triggers, they often miss school, skip school or drop out.
The dangers of children's boredom
First, it seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, affect interpersonal relationships
Children's self-esteem is very strong, poor academic performance, will also be excluded by teachers and classmates, plus the teacher will arrange children with poor grades to the end, so that it will form a gap with those who study well, and interpersonal relationships will be affected.
Third, endanger self-confidence and self-esteem
Then, if the teacher and the classmates are excluded and sit in the back position, there will be a big gap in psychology, there will be no self-confidence, and over time it will cause the child's retaliation.
Therefore, children are not necessarily tired of learning is not necessarily their own reasons, want to change the situation of children who are tired of learning, you must first adjust your own mentality, to learn a scientific method to guide children, so as not to let boredom continue to plague children, after all, the harm of boredom to children is also quite large, parents if they do not know how to correctly guide children, you can privately believe me.
What should parents do about their children's boredom? Heart Freedom Education will give parents some advice from the following aspects.
First, for the boredom caused by the excessive demand on the child and the excessive pressure on the child
Many children with medium grades, parents think that as long as the children work hard, they can achieve better results. Therefore, parents hope that children will continue to work hard to limit some of their children's entertainment behaviors, such as using mobile phones, watching TV, going out to play, and so on. For boredom due to excessive stress:
First of all, parents should adjust this high expectation and anxiety mentality, so that children can slowly return to the original state of independent learning.
Secondly, parents should affirm their children's efforts, let children feel the love and understanding of their parents, and they are more likely to voluntarily return to school.
Finally, parents should reconstruct the parent-child relationship, because the high expectations of parents make children tired of school, which also means that there is a contradiction in the parent-child relationship. Only by establishing a good parent-child relationship with the child, the parent's advice will the child be more willing to accept and more likely to return to school.
Second, for the lack of interest in learning and the inability to keep up with grades caused by children' lack of interest in learning
Many children are tired of learning because they can't keep up with learning, and they are often criticized by teachers, scolded by parents and ridiculed by classmates, and gradually lose confidence in learning. For this part of the child's boredom:
First, parents should first guide their children to adjust their mentality and build self-confidence. Parents should guide their children to discover their own advantages, so that children understand that everyone has their own strengths and advantages, and only if they are willing to work hard, they will definitely have gains. Build self-confidence by working with your child to set goals and help them achieve them.
Second, cultivate children's interest in learning. For children, learning is not an easy task, but a chore, parents in daily life should pay attention to cultivating children's learning and comprehension ability and points of interest, as far as possible to let children discover the joy of learning. Only by helping children cultivate their interest in learning can we fundamentally prevent the emergence of boredom. For example, when you are tired of school and do not want to go to school, you can take your child to relax for a few days, find the right time to touch the child's desire to learn, give the child an example, for example, tell the child that you will not eat, dress and walk at the beginning, but after your continuous efforts, are you not doing a good job now? I believe that you can also do well after hard work.
Third, tutor your child to improve your grades and give your child enough confidence. Parents should find ways to help their children improve their grades, such as enrolling their children in cram schools or asking for tutors, so that children feel that their parents care about themselves, do not give up on themselves, give their children enough confidence, and the children's grades will be raised, and they will become more confident and more willing to go to school.
Third, for the boredom caused by poor interpersonal relationships and the child's loneliness
They have a lot of ideas about adolescent children, and they often think about whether the teacher will like him? Will my classmates laugh at me when I am criticized? And so on, resulting in poor interpersonal relationships between children and teachers and classmates, and children feeling lonely and tired of school. For this group of children:
First, it is recommended that parents take the initiative to communicate with the child's teacher, let the child's teacher help the child open the knot, let the child feel that the teacher likes him, and the classmates also care about him.
Second, children with poor interpersonal relations in general, the personality is more inward, it is recommended that parents communicate with their children more in daily life, and take their children out for a walk on weekends or holidays, so that they can exercise their children and make their children cheerful.
Third, for this part of the children, their self-esteem is also relatively strong, parents should pay attention to the occasion when criticizing children, to save some face for children.
What should I do if my child is bored with school? When the child has a tired mood, parents should not be in a hurry, and do not be angry, because this is useless. We must realize that this is a way for children to express themselves to us, so we must observe deeply to see what is wrong with the child, and then step by step to help the child regulate and guide, I believe that with the help of parents, the child will be able to fall in love with learning again.
Well, that's what I'm sharing with you today. If parents and friends feel that it is helpful for you in educating your children, please share the article with friends who are also troubled by this, so that we can escort the growth of children together.
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