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Children can't learn carefully and can't learn, which makes many parents feel very anxious, so what should be done in such a situation? Parents' attitudes play a key role, and scolding often makes things worse, so how should parents educate them to be right?
In the past education examples, we have witnessed more and more children from not liking to learning, never wanting to go to school and refusing to go to school, and no matter how fierce the parents scold, no matter how full the teacher's reasoning, they cannot open the door of the child's heart. Many parents are also wondering, how does the child's boredom begin?
Reasons why children are bored with school:
1. Parents' expectations are too high
Parents take their children's learning too seriously, and grades are the only focus of parents' attention. Such parents often ignore their children's feelings. In order to improve children's grades, constantly increase the number of code, apply for various cram classes, in the long run, children can not eat, will produce boredom.
2. The influence of bad behavior
Some parents do not love to learn, play mobile phones and cards all day, but force their children to read and learn, resulting in a contrast in their children's psychology. Such parents, although they say that they attach importance to learning, but children often do not listen to him, but imitate his behavior.
3. Management deficiencies
Some parents think that their children are still young, so they protect everything and let their children develop. Over time, the child lacks a state of motivation, no one supervises the homework, no feedback on the exam, and slowly abandons learning.
4. Learning objectives
Many school-weary children are in a state of no-purpose and vague goals. Many children do not know why to learn, many students regard learning and homework as a teacher's problem, a parent's problem, completely passive, and serious lack of learning motivation.
5. Habit formation problem
Children who are bored with school have problems with their learning habits. For example, homework procrastination, inattention to listen to lectures in class, lack of concentration, etc., resulting in a broken knowledge chain, learning can not keep up, will be tired of learning.
I always hear parents say that their children have not been studying well lately and that their grades are not as good as before. They are not interested in learning and are tired of learning. What are the symptoms of child boredom?
1) When you spread out the book, you will say that you refute your parents and sometimes complain about the teacher at home. There are no gratuitous emotions, and most people are tired of learning when a child is emotionally unstable on learning issues.
2. The interest in learning is not strong, and the long-term motivation is lacking. Most of these students have poor academic performance, boring learning, and lack initiative and long-term goals.
When a child is bored with school, what can parents understand the child's internal causes?
1. Parents have deviations from their children's learning purposes, and set the purpose of learning knowledge in the future rather than today. Children cannot experience the joy of acquiring knowledge itself, nor are they interested in knowledge itself. Of course, they think learning is a pain.
2, school problems: the burden of learning is too heavy; school life is too tense, school discipline is too strict and rigid; children are often humiliated in school.
3. There are other social and environmental factors that form various temptations for children and make children lose enthusiasm for learning.
The dangers of children's boredom
First, it seriously affects academic performance and forms a vicious circle
For children who are tired of school, after their parents do not meet their expectations, they will give up on themselves, and if their parents urge them to learn, the children will hate learning even more, which is a vicious circle.
Second, affect interpersonal relationships
Children's self-esteem is very strong, poor academic performance, will also be excluded by teachers and classmates, plus the teacher will arrange children with poor grades to the end, so that it will form a gap with those who study well, and interpersonal relationships will be affected.
Third, endanger self-confidence and self-esteem
Then, if the teacher and the classmates are excluded and sit in the back position, there will be a big gap in psychology, there will be no self-confidence, and over time it will cause the child's retaliation.
Therefore, children are not necessarily tired of learning is not necessarily their own reasons, want to change the situation of children who are tired of learning, you must first adjust your own mentality, to learn a scientific method to guide children, so as not to let boredom continue to plague children, after all, the harm of boredom to children is also quite large, parents if they do not know how to correctly guide children, you can privately believe me.
Are there any ways to help a child overcome school boredom?
1. Re-examine yourself
Strict requirements for you, not all for you! This should be something that many parents say often. In fact, if we expect too much from our children, keeping them under pressure, frustration and fatigue can easily arise if the results are not ideal. At this point, we need to re-examine ourselves.
2. Turn passive into active
We often do a lot of short-term and long-term tasks for our children, which is the normal education at the moment, and everyone is worried that the children will lose at the starting line.
But these interests and knowledge may not be what children like.
Some kids like to draw and you want him to learn the piano; sometimes kids want to go out and play for a while and you want him to stay at home and do his homework. In fact, you shut down his man, but the heart has flown, and the forced learning efficiency and effect are very poor.
We should let children feel the joy of learning as much as possible, respect children's interests and hobbies, do not suppress children's curiosity, let children actively explore and discover, actively learn, improve grades, and naturally less bored with learning.
3. Reward with punishment
When it comes to children's learning, we often ask children to do something, sometimes even saying to children in a mocking and sarcastic tone: Who can't you learn from? Why are you so stupid? In fact, this is wrong. Don't compare your child to other children, this will hurt your child's self-esteem in the first place. Even if children don't learn well, we should get appropriate rewards and punishments and use it reasonably. If the child does not do well, they can do housework and cancel or reduce the play time to punish them; every child's small progress should also be properly encouraged, so that the child can regain confidence and motivation, rather than losing confidence and giving up on themselves.
4. Pay attention to school dynamics
Parents are busy these days and spend relatively little time with their children. Some children are tired of learning and don't like to learn, which may be a way for children to want to attract the attention of their parents. Parents should strengthen their connection with their children and communication with the school. Parent-child activities, sports meetings, parent-teacher meetings, literary performances, etc. organized by the school should be actively participated in, and children should not feel neglected because of their absence.
Parents' indifference or understatement of their own lives and performance at school is the biggest blow to their children's enthusiasm. Parents should actively cooperate with the school and make going to school the most interesting and profound experience for their children.
Every parent hopes that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix. So the most important thing is that we parents should put our minds at peace. Don't transfer the pressure indirectly to the child, maybe our child has worked hard, it may be that you are never satisfied. Smile more at our children, encourage our children more, and think more about the joy that children bring us. Maybe you and your kids will progress together!
That's the article I brought to you today. If parents feel that it is helpful to their children's growth process, please forward it to friends who also need help, and we will escort the child's growth together.
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