"I don't seem to matter as much as my phone"
"I grew taller and they didn't notice"
"Adults never listen to me"
……
This time
The uncle visits the kindergarten
I heard a lot of children's heartfelt words
Everyone's parenting
Or there may be differences
But good parenting must be intentional
It's the weekend again
Mom and Dad please
Don't walk into these 4 kinds of play misunderstandings
1
In "Where Daddy Went"
Liu Ye played with his mobile phone
Son Nuoyi said suddenly
"Dad I had a dream
Guanyin Bodhisattva asked me to accompany you to talk about the day."
This passage of Noyi's words is heart-wrenching
Remind the uncle of a short film he once watched
The dad in the film always looks down at his phone
And neglected the growth of the daughter
One day I looked up and suddenly found it
My daughter has grown up long ago
"Accompanying" ≠ "Accompanying"
Many parents think they are with their children
I don't know
"Invalid accompaniment" is more frightening than "absence"
Li Ka-shing once said
"No matter how much success a person has in his career
Nor can it make up for the failure to educate children."
Companionship requires people
More need to be in the heart
Absent-minded "companionship"
Children can actually feel it
2
There is an "overrun effect" in psychology
That is, too much stimulation, too much intensity, or too long-term action
Thus causing extreme psychological impatience
or the psychological phenomenon of rebellion
Target this psychology
There is a famous example
The writer Mark Twain once went to church to listen to the sermon
At first, I thought the pastor had a wonderful speech
He decided to raise some money before leaving
But with the chatter of the pastor
An impatient Mark Twain decided not to donate
The end result is
Far from donating money, he didn't donate money
He also took two dollars from the donation box
That's why it's in homeschooling
The more parents intervene, the more errors they correct
The more the child repeats the head in one place
There are not many words with weight
During parenting
Please be less error-correcting and nagging
More patience and companionship
3
Real life
When the child is doing something
There will always be frequent instructions from parents
"Baby, eat some fruit, drink some water"
"Don't play this, that's fun, you play that"
"I'll play again later, say hello to my uncle"
……
So we hear it often
Parents comment on their children
"This kid does things for three minutes of heat"
I don't know
A child's concentration is closely related to the way they are raised
Montessori once said
"Unless you're invited by a child
Otherwise never bother the child."
A child who is always disturbed
It's hard to concentrate on one thing
It's harder to do one thing well in the future
The way of teaching is expensive and specialized
Don't bother
It is the best care for the child's concentration
4
Psychologist Ta Macsansky
In the book "Keeping Children Away from Anxiety"
The term "helicopter parents" was mentioned
i.e.: always hovering around the child
Monitor your child's every move at all times
In fact
Helicopter parents do not skimp on caring for their children
They overprotect their children in their arms
They work hard for everything their children do
They gave a lot, much
But over time
This "special plane" type of parenting
It will make the child lose the courage to measure the world with his feet
Numerous studies have shown
In the home environment of helicopter parents
Growing children have great emotional ups and downs
Poor ability to accept new things
Be self-centered
There is no sense of adventure
There are no towering trees growing in the greenhouse
There are no Maxima in the courtyard
Please give your child some time and space to grow
The child's energy
Far more powerful than we thought
The well-known director Spielberg
He is very busy at work
Still signed an agreement with the company
"Even during filming
Also would like to go home every night and have dinner with the kids."
He used a short dinner time
Made deep companionship again and again
It is not easy for parents to run for life
But the best accompaniment to play
It's never about duration
True love
It's all between the bits and pieces of companionship
Life is full of miscellaneous tastes
Have fun with your kids
It's the sweetest thing in life
- END -
The picture | Uncle Qiao Zhi
Edit | YiJie Shen Simin
Audit | A Jie Zou Liping
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