Many men in love, will feel that women's minds are erratic, it is difficult to guess. But in fact, whether you like a person or hate a person, as long as you observe carefully, you will find its obvious external performance.
Love, a single word, can make thousands of people toss and turn, tea and rice without thinking.
Zhang Ailing said that love is not worth it, just be willing.
However, in real life, I think it is still necessary to find the person who deserves your love, otherwise, the only person who will be hurt in the end will be yourself.
So I prefer Mo Yan's sentence: "Deliberately trying to please people, what can only be damaged is the dignity of the self." Without heads-up, there is never a reciprocity. ”
To get along with the opposite sex, we must grasp a good principle, do not blindly please, and do not act recklessly.
Especially in the modern society known as "fast food love", it is even more necessary to taste the taste of love with the heart. It can make you get a touch of warmth and comfort in the midst of hurry and indifference.
Of course, to gain the admiration of women, it is also skillful. Flirting with a woman and snubbing her in these three ways, she is more impressed with you.
Don't be prepared from time to time, but leave immediately
There was once a lyric that sang like this: What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored are fearless.
The person who moves first in love is the loser. To indulge does not mean that you do not love each other, but to hide your feelings deeper in order to get the love of the other party.
In fact, in the psychological interpretation of love, it follows the Zeignick effect. It means that people care a lot more about the unfinished than they do about the unfinished.
That is to say, you often let go of those things that you are already very sure of, and those people and things that you do not yet fully have will occupy more of your time and thoughts.
Before the two parties have entered a solid relationship, men should not report all their thoughts and whereabouts one by one, so that you lose the attraction to each other, the freshness in each other's hearts.
Grasping the sense of distance in life is actually applicable between husband and wife. Maintain a reasonable personal space in your life and don't let the space of both parties completely overlap, so that a relationship can develop more healthily.
Don't be obedient, but dare to refuse
Love a person, love a party scene.
Feelings can easily confuse people, and sometimes they make a lot of wrong choices, constantly lowering themselves to meet each other.
In fact, having a good love does not require you to think too much about how to keep this love. What it takes is for you to be fully engaged and express yourself correctly and clearly.
What true love is, is to be moved and happy, but at the same time will quarrel, will cry, will be because of each other's personalities to run into.
Those feelings that are meticulous, responsive, and obedient to you are pursuits, are flattering, not real life, but a short bubble.
Of course, the reverse is the same, we want to have dignity in a relationship, let this relationship develop in a benign direction, then do not be obedient to the other half, dare to express their opinions, dare to refuse.
A person who loves you will follow you in everything is unrealistic and contrary to human nature. If in the long run, one day the suppressed emotions erupt, they will definitely be eaten back.
Don't show it completely, know how to leave blank
In the process of pursuing love, in order to gain the favor of the favorite object, we will always unconsciously show our own advantages to each other.
However, in psychology, there is a famous over-limit effect, which refers to the psychological phenomenon of too much stimulation or too much force or too long a time, which causes extreme psychological impatience or reversal.
Applied to love, it means that you over-present yourself and fully display your advantages, one will cause the other party to accept fatigue; the other is to lead to your own lack of stamina.
Feelings are a gradual process, and it is easy to get the opposite return if you are too hasty. On the contrary, the feelings that know how to leave blanks can be more long-lasting.
On the basis that the two sides understand each other and can continue to contact, even if it is only a good friend relationship, there is no need to worry. We can first release the advantages that attract the most to each other, and then show our goodness little by little.
Just like Doraemon, constantly giving people surprises can truly retain each other and walk into her heart.
There are three kinds of most embarrassing love: love but can not be asked, hurt and abandoned, fortunate but not at all.
In fact, it is not some of the so-called routines that we learn for love, but to build a healthy emotional relationship and learn the skills of managing feelings.
Maybe we will encounter many relationships in life, the person who sends you 30 yuan a rose, the person who sends you 300 yuan a lipstick, the person who sends you 3,000 yuan and a coat, the person who sends you 30,000 yuan a bag, but your most innocent love is usually left on the 3 yuan a cup of milk tea.
One day, we finally grew up, learned to disguise, and no longer dared to express our true thoughts easily. People wear masks, and life will be very tired.
If you can meet a person who shares your heart at this time, in front of him, you can completely remove the disguise and be comfortable as your other half, be sure to keep him/her, even with some emotional skills.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]