Text: Xi Xihuan
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When my cousin got married, everyone said that my cousin married a sensible wife, and at that time I didn't understand love and marriage, and I only thought that a sensible woman in love would be happier.
I believe that many people have recognized this statement, whether men or women, but people who have really experienced marriage and love understand that what is needed in the best love is not to understand things, but to respect each other and care for each other.
Some people say that people are independent individuals and need to have their own space and freedom, even if they are close to a person, they cannot stay with this person all the time.
On the one hand, people are aesthetic fatigue, as the saying goes, "far away from the smell" is also this truth, if you get along with a person day and night, what two people do together, there is no time and space for each other, then in the end it will magnify each other's shortcomings and deficiencies, and the feelings of each other will also be negatively affected.
On the other hand, truly lasting love and marriage actually require a sense of distance, even for couples who live under the same roof every day, each busy working during the day, but after meeting at night, there is a kind of joy of reunion after a small goodbye.
It seems that in the relationship, women are more likely to be insecure, and even because of this feeling of gain and loss, it will affect the man's patience with her.
So if a woman always asks a man to accompany her, sacrificing her hobbies and time with other people, then the man will lose interest in this love.
But in fact, men only care about complaining about women's ignorance, but they forget that behind this ignorance, in fact, women's emotional needs have not been met.
I've heard some men show off their girlfriends or wives are sensible, and in the eyes of these men, their own women being sensible means understanding them, not giving them pressure, and not letting them lose people in front of their friends.
Sun Yu especially loves to drink, in the eyes of friends, he is a person who is particularly righteous about buddies, as long as his friends have something to find him, he will never refuse, no matter how much help he has, he will never mind, as long as the other party invites him to drink.
Later, after meeting Wang Jie, the two people established a romantic relationship, in fact, Wang Jie did not like him to drink, not because every time he drank and vomited, he had to clean up trouble, but felt that drinking was too hurtful, especially Sun Yu drank so much.
But Sun Yu didn't think so, thinking that drinking was his only pleasure, and he could give up anything, except drinking.
After the two people got married, Wang Jie thought that she could change Sun Yu, and every time a friend told him to go out for a drink, she would advise him not to go.
At first, Sun Yu only thought that Wang Jie wanted him to accompany her, so he also pushed several times, but later his friend joked that he couldn't get his wife, sun Yu felt that he couldn't get over his face, so he would never refuse his friend to ask him to go out for a drink.
Therefore, every time Sun Yu went out to drink, Wang Jie's phone and WeChat would urge him to stop, either telling him to drink less or let him go home early.
Sun Yu was annoyed, especially every time the phone rang, they would always laugh at him for being "strict with his wife", and he was not free to marry himself.
When Wang Jie contacted Sun Yu again, his phone had been turned off, and in order to show a manhood in front of his friends, Sun Yu drank several times until dawn before returning home.
Those nights, Wang Jie sat on the couch waiting for him, the soup on the table was hot over and over again, but she couldn't contact Sun Yu.
At the beginning, Wang Jie thought that something had happened to Sun Yu and was anxious enough, but seeing sun Yu's disgust for her after returning home, she knew that he regarded drinking with friends more than anything else.
Since then, Wang Jie has become "sensible", just like the quarrel that night, Sun Yu said that she did not understand things, always urged him to go home, caused him to lose face in front of his friends, was laughed at by others, and even poured the soup she made into the toilet in front of Wang Jie.
That night, Sun Yu slept soundly, he seemed to have forgotten what he had said to Wang Jie, but Wang Jie had been sleepless all night, and she knew that maybe this man did not need to be good to him at all.
Therefore, when Sun Yu went out to drink again, Wang Jie would not contact him again, did not send WeChat, did not call, and every time Sun Yu told her to go out to drink, she would not stop him, only saying "good".
At first, Sun Yu also felt particularly happy, feeling that it was really good not to be managed, and he could go out to drink with his friends without scruples, and his friends also said that he was really capable and educated his wife to be so sensible.
But after a long time, Sun Yu began to feel that his heart was not a taste, and when he came home very late, he found that there was no light in the house, no Wang Jie waiting for him on the sofa, and no soup she made for him.
Wang Jie has become sensible, no matter what Sun Yu does, she will not ask, no matter how late Sun Yu comes home, she will not urge, but do not know why, Sun Yu is disappointed.
He began to expect Wang Jie to manage him as before, hoping that Wang Jie would not allow him to drink as before, but Wang Jie did not seem to care about anything.
There is clearly something wrong with the marriage of two people, and it seems that there are many couples who have encountered similar problems.
In the eyes of men, women always want too much, ask too much, do not allow this, do not allow that, sometimes men go out to socialize or party with friends, women also have to check the post.
For men, they feel that their freedom is bound, so they will put a hat on women who don't understand things, feel that women don't understand them, make unreasonable trouble, and don't give them freedom.
However, if women really understand things according to their requirements, they feel lost, but they miss the feeling of being managed by women.
In fact, to put it bluntly, what men miss is not women who manage them, but women care about their feelings, and many times, women who are too sensible will make men feel in crisis, because men can no longer feel that they are needed and cared for by women.
I have to say that things in the feelings are always going around, when women chase, men hide, women don't chase, men come back.
Men should cherish the woman who is willing to manage you and does not understand things in front of you, because at least it shows that she cares about you, and only if she cares about you, she will have requirements for you, such as hoping that you will accompany her and hoping that you will pay attention to her.
And when what you do makes a woman chill, she will become "sensible" and no longer pestering you, but that kind of love may not be long-term.
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