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A friend called to say that she had recently been tidying up her own little yard, bought a few more small flower pots, and asked me if I wanted to. Out of curiosity, I made a special trip to a friend's house.
Completely different from the surrounding scenery, although the small courtyard of her friend's house is in an ordinary downtown community, she has kept her yard antique, with blue and white cloth covering the outer door, which has bamboo mats, antique tables and stools, and various flowers and utensils.
She said that many people have to stop and watch before passing through her yard, and even some people have proposed to visit the yard, once, a man driving a luxury car suddenly stopped, looked at the yard for a while, and then said to his friends, which man can marry such a wife, it is so happy, because he thinks that friends are a person who really understands life.
The friend is a woman in her early fifties, but she does not have the tiredness of a middle-aged woman, on the contrary, she looks agile, and in her heart seems to live a dexterous and lovely girl, for the future, she is not compromised, but full of expectations, for the present, she is not tired, but full of joy.
Yeah, such a mature and interesting woman, which man will not be moved?
Friends are actually not rich, when she was young, she also had a major operation because of an accident, compared with healthy people, she seemed to be much weaker, but this did not affect the abundance of her soul, she said, a long time ago she understood a truth, whether a woman is poor or rich, must learn to enrich herself.
01 Read more good books
Sanmao once wrote such a passage: "Reading more, the appearance naturally changes, many times, I may think that many of the books I have read have become a cloud of smoke, no longer remembered, in fact, they are still potential." ”
Many women also know how to be kind to themselves, so they spend a lot of time and money on buying high-end cosmetics, expensive jewelry and clothes. But these things only bring temporary happiness to themselves, they don't really make people feel rich.
A person's greatest wealth should be the abundance of the heart, and reading is the fastest way to achieve inner wealth, and it is also the lowest cost way.
A netizen told her own story: Once, she was a very angular person, full of thorns, she often quarreled with the people around her because of some small things, and sometimes even felt that she was incompatible with the world.
Her family conditions are very good, living in high-end neighborhoods, her in-laws and parents' families are doing business, and her own work is also very easy and stable, which is already a blessing that outsiders can't ask for, but she still feels that she is not happy.
Later, because she joined a reading circle, she suddenly found that reading books could bring so much happiness to herself, and she also found that there were really too many problems with her former self, compared with the characters in the book, she was also slowly becoming aware of herself, and then gradually changed herself.
Later, whenever she encounters something, she will not blame others at the first time, but first check herself to see if the problem is herself. She also gradually found that her interpersonal relationship was not as bad as before, and what she did not expect was that she had never felt that anything around her was beautiful and could impress her, but in reading, she found all kinds of beauty in life.
The abundance of matter can only bring temporary happiness to people, and the abundance of the heart can immerse people in joy and happiness throughout their lives.
A woman, if she really wants to be nice to herself, must make herself rich inside.
This way you will see farther away scenery, a more beautiful world.
02 Make more friends
Wang Xiaobo once said: "A long life, to find an interesting person to be with." ”
People are social animals, we all need to live in groups, we need friends. Even the loneliest person will have at least one or two good friends.
What kind of people you interact with directly determines your life status and optimism.
For a while, a friend had been hiding from one of her colleagues, a single woman over 40 years old, and the friend used to sympathize with her plight, so as long as she had time outside of work, she would chat with the colleague and complain to each other while comforting each other.
But after spending some time together, her friend found herself more and more unhappy, and at first she was not aware of the problem, but the people around her reminded her that she was becoming more and more pessimistic, unlike the optimistic and positive she had been before.
After careful reflection, the friend found that it was really so, how could she become so negative, and later she found that every time she and the colleague chatted about the topic would eventually be pulled to the parents short, and will also point out the problems of everyone around her, her thinking unconsciously, like the colleague, began to complain, negative.
After realizing this problem, she tried to chat with the colleague about some happy topics, but the person whose mind was solidified would not change for a short time, and the colleague was used to complaining about life, and despite the best efforts of her friend, she could not change her consciousness.
In the end, the friend had to avoid the colleague and take the initiative to find someone who could make him happy.
Yes, we can't change a negative person, but we can dominate our mood without being disturbed by negative emotions, and if we can't change it, we can avoid negative energy.
There is a saying that goes well, what your mind is, what the world you live in is what it is. Positive people will always live in happiness, and will also pass this happiness to the people around them, while negative people will only be shrouded in darkness, and contact with such people, you will also be shrouded in his shadow.
A person, if you want to obtain spiritual prosperity, first of all, you must believe in the good, only by believing in the good, it is possible to create the good.
So befriending people who emit light and heat so that your world will be filled with warmth.
Many times, our life is confused, troubled, there is no fun in life, in fact, the real world is not like this, but because of your inner emptiness, and there is no good friend as a companion, so if you want to make your world colorful, you have to read more books that can enrich yourself, and make more friends who can bring energy to yourself. If a person can do this when she is young, then her life must not be wrong, even if she encounters temporary setbacks, life must be promising in the future.
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