A good friend consulted me before: her daughter was in the first grade last September, and it has been more than a month since the school started, and the child still cries and is pushed into the school by her every day.
She thought that her child might need to adapt when she first entered school, but as time went on, the situation not only did not improve but became more and more serious, and she and her husband almost entered a state of anxiety.
After a brief understanding, it was learned that her daughter was more introverted, the two were usually busy at work, rarely took the children out to play, and the most important thing was that the child's friend only had one - her cousin.
I analyze that the main reason why children cry and do not go to school may be the fear and overwhelm caused by suddenly leaving their parents, entering a relatively large and unfamiliar environment, and not knowing how to communicate with their peers.
And prolonged crying can also increase the alienation and rejection of her peers, which is why children increasingly do not want to go to school.
I suggest that she communicate with the teacher first, and use the teacher's charm to guide the child to try to contact her peers and make one or two good friends first.
And what she has to do is not only to expand the child's social circle, but also to tell the child stories every day, telling Shang Xiaona's "Little Peas in the First Grade", telling Tong Xixi's "Wonderful Summer" and "Surprise Autumn"... Teach children how to get along with their peers and deal with problems, and subtly eliminate children's fear of school.
In fact, we parents will encounter many difficult problems in the process of educating their children, and the methods to solve problems are not the same, and it is a very good way to influence children with the help of stories.
Children like to listen to stories the most, and the talking plants and animals in the stories, rich imaginations and interesting plots are deeply attracted to children.
Most children will integrate themselves into the story when listening to or reading stories, and while gaining emotional experience, their cognitive ability will gradually improve, and over time, the child's character will also be cultivated.
As a parent,
How to accompany children in the process of growing up
How about educating children through stories?
Be good at using existing stories
Parents should read and screen a large number of beneficial children's stories, combined with the child's age group to systematically read or tell the child, especially at night before going to bed, the child is relatively quiet, listening to the most serious, the most likely to trigger the child's thinking.
Each story is a comic strip, is the child has experienced or will experience things, from the story the child will learn how to deal with the relationship with their peers, how to overcome difficulties, the most important thing is that the child will subtly learn how to be a person.
When the child is older and has the ability to read, parents can accompany their children to read or guide their children to read independently, exchange feelings with each other after reading, and inspire and guide children to understand in reading.
Good at creating your own story
Each child is unique, of course, the problems encountered are different, as parents we must be good at combining their children's situation, creating simple, targeted stories to educate children.
For example, if you find that your child is not good at sharing, create a story of mutual sharing between a chicken and a duckling, so that children understand that sharing with each other will not only not lose but also gain more;
If you find that your child is not good at public expression, create a story of a yellow oriole bird from not daring to sing in public to singing in public;
Find that children love to do things when they play with children, then create a story of a lamb and a puppy playing, the puppy hands bring serious consequences... In all these cases, it is more effective to influence children with the help of stories than to direct preaching.
It is important to note that this method should not be carried out when things have just happened, preferably in a few days or in a very harmonious situation with the child.
And this method is suitable for children before the age of four or five, the child is older, do not use it easily, the use of inappropriate will make the child feel that the parents are using stories to allude to him, which will be counterproductive.
Good at guiding children to create stories
When getting along with children, parents can also guide their children to create simple stories, which not only plays the child's imagination, but most importantly, in the process of guiding the child to create and edit, let the child carry out self-education, self-correction, and gradually establish the correct three views.
Family education is a college question, and it is also a compulsory course in the life of our parents. We parents should strengthen learning and communication, so that we can achieve three provinces and three provinces, and constantly explore educational methods suitable for our children, so as to accompany our children to grow up healthily and happily.
Edit | Chen Yuanlong
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