In family parenting, parents must not only educate their children well, but also continuously improve themselves. As a new parent, it is inevitable to make mistakes in parenting, for you, it may be just a simple word or a small move, but it may have a profound impact on the child, so parents should improve their education methods in time. The following are a few common misunderstandings in family parenting that need to be paid attention to.
First, roar loudly
When educating children, because of the child's resistance and resistance, some parents will feel tired and irritable, and then yell or scream at the child, trying to deter the child and make him obedient. In fact, parents reprimand their children in such a hoarse way can only play a temporary role, and will not have a positive change in the child's behavior, on the contrary, it will make the child feel that the parents cannot control themselves, so that the prestige of the parents is greatly reduced, and the child becomes more skinny.
Therefore, when parents discipline their children, they must first manage their emotions and set a good example for their children, so as to establish a majesty and let the children listen to your words in their hearts.
Second, negotiate with your child
Now we all advocate equal communication with children, and no longer order children as roughly as before. But this "equal communication" means communicating with the child in everything, rather than negotiating with the child. It should be known that children's understanding of many things is still very shallow, and parents need to correct and guide. If there is a negotiating relationship between parents and children, it is to let children know that these things can be changed, and there is room for negotiation, which is actually not good for education.
Therefore, for some principled issues, the attitude of parents must be clear and firm, which can help children develop the habit of being responsible for their words and deeds.
Third, never say "no"
Some parents understand loving their children as "meeting all the requirements of their children" and satisfying any material requirements of their children. In fact, this will only create a false sense of superiority for children, which is not conducive to children's development and self-worth, and will bring trouble to children's lives when they grow up.
As a parent, loving your child is a must, but you must also learn to say "no", and parents should refuse unnecessary requests. Moreover, when the child does not get what he wants, the parent should allow the child to vent his dissatisfaction, but the next time the child makes unreasonable demands, he still has to say "no". Let the child slowly understand that their desires will not be infinitely satisfied, and it is normal to be rejected. This is beneficial for the healthy growth of children.
Fourth, perfectionism
Some parents always expect their children to be perfect and to do their best in everything. Therefore, no matter what the child does, in the eyes of the parents, it always feels that it is not good enough, and it should be able to do better, but it never looks at the child's efforts and efforts, and never gives the child any praise and encouragement, but will only continue to pressure, and even scold.
It is understandable to place expectations on children, but in reality, parents should link their self-expectations with their children's actual abilities, and not too different. If you blindly demand your child, you will make your child lose confidence in himself prematurely.
Fifth, overprotective
It is the wish of every parent to hope that the child will be smooth and smooth on the road of growth. But in fact, the child's growth path will not be smooth, and there will always be some bumps. To this end, some parents always do their best to help their children remove various obstacles on the road to growth out of love, and do not want them to experience these setbacks. On the surface, this is for the good of the child, but as a parent, it is impossible to protect the child for a lifetime, and more difficulties need to be solved by the child himself. If parents do not expose their children to these setbacks early, learn how to deal with difficulties, and when their children grow up and find more and more setbacks, but they are powerless, then their frustration will be more serious. Excessive protection of children is actually harming children, and parents should let go of their hands in a timely manner so that children can learn the ability to grow.