I often listen to the complaints of people around me, and I feel that the old man with the baby thinks old, coupled with the usual doting and connivance, he has developed a bad disease. But in fact, there are many children brought out by parents who are not as good as they think, but they often make mistakes and have a lot of bad habits.
In the matter of loving children, I believe that the elderly, like their parents, want to do their best to give them better material and more pampering. As everyone knows, the impact of family education on children is fatal, far more important than future school education. Even if the results are excellent, if they are plagued by bad habits, they still have no day to emerge.
Therefore, when educating children, parents and the elderly should reach an agreement, at least the goal is clear, and do not exploit the loopholes for "smart" children. Many times, adults seem to be good for their children, but in fact, they are only self-moved, and the results of education are not ideal. It really answered the sentence: adults suffer, children suffer.
These parenting behaviors, no matter who brings the baby, must be stopped in time
1. In the face of the child's crying threat, there is no bottom line for connivance
It is said that a childhood that is not scolded by parents is incomplete. But now, how many children have grown up in bottomless spoiling, and even at a young age, they have learned to threaten their parents. But whatever you want to do, what you want, you will try your best to fight with your parents.
And the threat of crying is the housekeeping skills of this group of "bear children", out of distress parents and elders, there will be bottomless satisfaction, and the result is to raise children who have become more and more intense, and even do not understand gratitude at all.
2. In order to encourage and comfort the child, shirk responsibility
One of the most bizarre things I've ever seen is that my own children chased and played with their companions on the road, and accidentally hit the car in the parking space. Obviously just a gentle collision, the child has no health risks, accompanied by his grandmother, actually called the owner of the car, begging the other party to give an apology.
It is understandable that the old man is worried about the child's psychology, but for her strange behavior, I really dare not agree. Don't ask the child to really have the courage to take responsibility, but at least do not shirk responsibility, and parents and family members are the best examples for him to learn.
3, the child is not good to eat, chase back and forth to feed
Every time I see the act of chasing after the children to feed them, I can't help but "lose my temper" and want to come forward and beat up their rice bowls. It is said that "the people take food as the sky", eating is everyone's instinct, if the child is not even willing to eat, then what can he do well?
After the feeding, it is the parents who are affected, and the child is not appreciative, and the opportunity to be independent and self-care is lost. The most basic little things in life need to be taken care of by parents, so such a child is doomed to achieve nothing.
Education is not an unconditional effort, especially for families with high hopes for their children, it is even more necessary to grasp the measure and not let "love" blind the eyes. At an age when they are not familiar with the world, learning good habits and developing good character is the best meaning of education.