Have you ever been asked questions about the crash?
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Two- or three-year-old babies, who could just say Liso, suddenly became curious babies, where to go and where to ask.
At first, you will answer seriously, but you can't resist him breaking the casserole and asking the end:
Sometimes a cascade of questions can even break you down: Why does he have so many problems?
You are also often dumbfounded by all kinds of whimsical and bizarre questions from the baby, and you don't know how to explain it!
Perfunctory answer, afraid of hitting the enthusiasm of the baby; seriously answer it, the pressure is great!
The child asked, do you want to answer? not necessarily!
Have you ever observed?
Sometimes even if you answer, your child's questions are still endless, or they don't care about the answers at all.
Mostly because they are asking for attention and making trouble!
1. Attract attention
Especially the busier you are, the more your child will pestering you and asking "why."
The answer doesn't matter, it's true that I want to interact with you.
At this time, you can ask him "do you want your father/mother to read with you"?
If you are too busy, you must also respond positively and patiently explain, such as "wait for your father to finish reading with you, you wait for your father is not good"!
2. Express emotions
"Why does Mom have to work?"
"Why hasn't Dad come back yet?"
"Why do you have to go home after dark?"
"Why do I have to go to kindergarten?"
……
When a child asks this, it is the same as when you get up late at work and say with chagrin, "Why didn't I go to bed earlier last night?", which is just an expression of emotion.
As for what the answer is, they don't want to know at all.
You can say, "Do you want your mom to be with you at home?" ", help the child to express their emotions.
Then give some positive hints, such as "Mom will miss you when she goes to work, and Mom likes her job."
3. Explore the world
When one day, the child asks "why" is no longer just asking for attention or making trouble, but is full of curiosity about the world around him.
You should be happy because it is a manifestation of their intellectual curiosity and the beginning of cognitive exploration of the world.
At this time, just giving the child the answer is far from enough!
The famous Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky once said:
"The more questions a child asks, the more he knows about his surroundings in early childhood, the smarter he is in school, the brighter his eyes are, and the sharper his memory is.
To develop your child's intellect, then you have to teach him to think. ”
Sometimes, even if you know the answer, don't blurt it out, but guide your child to say more and think more.
Encourage your child to ask questions
Children's language organization ability is weak, often unclear, no logic, and may jump out word by word.
Even if you understand what he means, be patient with hints and encouragement, and let the child fully express it himself to exercise his expression ability.
At the same time, affirm the child's questions, such as "Baby observe carefully!" I thought about why the shape of the moon changed! ”
Ask questions and guide
It is not necessary to be answered, but to guide the child to find the answer on his own.
In the process of constantly asking questions, you can not only understand the extent to which the child knows about this matter, but also inspire him to observe and think.
Communicate from the child's point of view
It seems to you to be a matter of common sense, and it is difficult for children to understand.
Therefore, in the process of answering, use a language that the child can understand.
If you don't know how to explain many problems, you can use metaphors, anthropomorphisms or story expressions, and you can also use picture books and animations.
Find answers with your child
The ocean of knowledge is vast, and the child's questions cannot be answered, and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
The smaller baby, you can take him to find; the older baby, you can tell him the way and way to find the answer!
Don't reprimand or get impatient
Reprimands and impatience will make the child understand that it is wrong to ask questions!
Over time, he was reluctant to ask again, and it was likely that in his later life and study, he would not say anything if he had any questions.
Don't be perfunctory
Try to say as little as possible, "You'll understand when you grow up" or "The teacher will tell you when you go to school later."
A child's curiosity needs to be protected, and if he is often perfunctory and the question is not answered, he will slowly lose the pleasure of exploring the world.
Don't ignore your child's questions
Ignoring your child's questions or deliberately pretending not to hear them may have two outcomes —
Keep chasing questions, or no longer like to ask questions, and at the same time feel that they are ignored, and their inner sense of security will be reduced.
So, when the baby asks why, please be patient and serious
Perhaps, if you answer and guide carefully, you will be able to guide your baby to open the door to a new world!