For the elderly, happiness is also a matter of opinion, some elderly people since retirement, they have wholeheartedly lived the life they wanted to live, arranged their retirement life colorful, they are also comfortable and happy, while some elderly people are worried about the difficulties of their children, thinking of exerting residual heat, transferring their enthusiasm from the unit to the family, single-mindedly helping their children at the same time, living a full and rich life every day.
The old man with grandchildren and the old man without grandchildren, which kind of old man is happier in his old age? I have asked a few elderly people around me to hear what they have to say.
70-year-old Aunt Zhang Retired worker
I have a daughter, 50 years old retirement year, the daughter just married, soon after the marriage gave birth to a grandson, probably decades of no children in the family, I saw my lovely grandson, from the heart of love, at that time the daughter's mother-in-law has not retired, the family consulted with me, want to let me go to take the child, I did not hesitate much, pack up things and pass.
In fact, at that time, my daughter was also a child in my eyes, because they had no experience, bringing up the child was also busy, after I passed, the son-in-law said that his heart finally settled down, and then I lived in the son-in-law's house, helping to take care of my daughter's confinement, with children, incidentally helping to do housework and cooking.
So I lived in my daughter's house for 3 years until my grandson went to kindergarten.
Over the years, the son-in-law is grateful for my dedication to the small family, very caring for me and very considerate, every year on Women's Day and Mother's Day, do not forget to give me intimate gifts, even my mother often told me that she knows that it is not easy to take a child, very grateful for my dedication to the small family.
In fact, I personally think this is nothing, this is also my own grandson, I am not old, the body is OK, help take care of the care is the right thing to do, but even so, the family is still too willing to go, they often post money to my daughter, the grandson's milk powder, diaper money is also borne by grandparents.
My daughter discussed with me, she did not want to take this money, I advised her, this is a piece of the old man's heart, you collect, you are now young and use more places to use money, save the money, and then filial piety to them in the future, my daughter obeyed my advice.
Since my grandson went to primary school, my daughter and son-in-law have gradually become mature and responsible, my relatives and I feel that the burden on my body has become lighter, my daughter and son-in-law are very grateful, they will organize a big family trip every year, I and my relatives go, the cost is all inclusive.
Every time I go out on a trip, I am full of anticipation and joy, and I am deeply relieved that the children have really grown up.
Nowadays, I and my mother are like old sisters, she now even buys a bag, I have to bring me one, I, see the melon fruit that has just been listed, I also have to bring them a copy, I want to come and go because the parents of our two families have the same concept, that is, to help the children as much as possible, accompany them to grow and mature, and now that we are getting old, we can enjoy the filial piety and love of the children with satisfaction.
I think that we are grandparents, and when we have the ability, we try to accompany our children as much as possible, so that our children can also be close to us and enjoy the joy of heaven.
Before the old colleagues have advised me not to help with the children, so that the children have hope, they are tired and tired, do not say, can not enjoy the happiness of retirement, I told them, watching the grandchildren grow up day by day, learn to turn over, learn to eat, learn to talk, learn to walk, this day for me is the hope, is happiness, besides, when the children grow up, don't we have our own time, then enjoy life, isn't it the same?
Therefore, I think the elderly with grandchildren are happier.
65-year-old Aunt Ma retired worker
I am a bitter person, middle-aged without a husband, a person with the eldest son, the husband is sick to leave, the in-laws think it is me Kefu, in my most painful time to sprinkle a handful of salt, we two live very bitterly, fortunately, the son has a job, and later admitted to college, with a good job, our lives have improved.
The daughter-in-law is my son's college classmate, a standard city girl, the family is well-off, I am also very relieved to see my son have a home. Soon after my son got married, I also retired, and I thought that I had suffered all my life and been wronged for a lifetime, and now that my son's life is stable, I want to make up for the past and live the life I want to live.
Son and daughter-in-law are busy at work, sometimes only come back once a month, I retire with a group of old sisters often go out on outings, occasionally run farther, even if I don't go out, I will walk and dance in the community park every day, the days are very happy and fulfilling, I think we old people as long as the body is raised, do not add burden to the children, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, children's things should be less worried.
But before long, the son came to the door because the daughter-in-law was pregnant.
My son offered to let me take care of my daughter-in-law, but I refused. I thought that if I passed now and waited to have a child in the future, this busyness would take several years, would I still be able to go?
Thinking about it, I think that since my son's economic ability is OK now, he can completely let his daughter-in-law rest at home and bring it by himself, but if he can't do it, he will hire a nanny, there is no need to force me, besides, if I am tired, it is also their burden.
Later, the daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, I only occasionally came to the door to see, the daughter-in-law went to work and invited a nanny to take it, the nanny was not bad, people are very enthusiastic, I just thought about exercising and enjoying life.
Now the granddaughter is in elementary school, looks well-behaved and beautiful, is a little cold to me, every time she sees me, will not take the initiative to call me, I am very unhappy, the daughter-in-law on the side does not teach her, in fact, I think the daughter-in-law does not have to hate me, in the past we were all alone with big children, not to mention that at that time we still have to go to work, it is impossible to ask a nanny, people always have to suffer when they are young, since I have suffered, then I should rest when I am old, she is not good to have any complaints about me, and then raise children is the responsibility of parents, Not the responsibility of grandparents.
In the days to come, I also think well, I have my own house, there is also a retirement salary, I just need to raise my body well, I am happy, as long as the mentality is good to think, the old age will be very happy.
Write at the end:
In fact, with or without grandchildren, everyone's ideas are different, some people feel that their children of course have to help with the belt, some people feel that they have worked hard all their lives, should not continue to bring, everything has two sides, there must be gains and losses, pay will have gains, now you see many children outside the university, always worry about grandparents, most of them are grandparents brought up, the heart is naturally closer.
At this time, the old people who do not bring grandchildren should not feel jealous, after all, people have cultivated very close feelings when they are very young, and this feeling is not comparable to money, but from the heart.
In fact, after the old man retires, do not help his children with children, it is also understandable, after all, a hard life to bring up their children, there is no need to continue to bring up grandchildren, this matter is really not good moral kidnapping, if the elderly help with children, children should be grateful for their efforts, if not help, you should also convince yourself to calm your mind, no matter how difficult it is, you can always see hope if you insist on it.
I would like to ask the readers who have seen this article, do you think the elderly should help with children?
So do you think that the elderly with children are happy in their old age, or the elderly who do not have children are happy in their old age?
Tell us what you think about it!