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"When you're old and your hair is gray, when you're drowsy, when you're old, you can't walk, you snooze by the fire, and you remember your youth."
Many people think that when people are old, they are still as romantic as the songs, slowly recalling their youth, and chatting with their wives about happy love.
In fact, when a person can't walk, the day can only be described by the four words of "lingering". To be alive, but to breathe is still there, and the bitterness in my heart always gushes out involuntarily.
In the rest of the day, where to go, always have to think in advance. Allow yourself to live a little more decently.
Xun Zi said: "A gentleman must choose his hometown, and he must have soil when he travels, so he will guard against evil and approach Zhongzhengye." ”
The environment of life, the people around them, has a profound impact on a person, can influence a person's words and deeds, and even determine his future.
It is recommended that you take the initiative to approach the following kinds of people, rely on social morality and human feelings, and change your living conditions.
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First, get close to the equally discouraged old people and encourage each other.
There is a not very nice word called "patient".
When a person is hospitalized, he will find that people in the same ward have the feeling of "pity for the same disease". Everyone chatted about life together and talked about the process of resisting illness.
A lot of words that are difficult to say, when you arrive in the ward, you can say it generously, and you will not feel embarrassed at all. Moreover, when you say what you want to say in your heart, your heart will be relaxed.
My third uncle, who was seriously ill, lay in the hospital for months. The old man in the same ward said, "I have been suffering from cancer for more than three years." Nothing, as long as the mood is good, this illness, ah, really forget. ”
The third uncle thought to himself, in comparison, he was still a lucky person, at least he did not have a terminal illness.
After talking with the patient for several days, the third uncle's mentality was much better, and his face was more rosy.
As the saying goes, "The flowing water of the mountains meets the zhiyin." ”
People who can communicate with each other, no matter where they meet, are confidants. Those who are healthy and healthy cannot understand your mood, and those who are about the same age and cannot walk can talk to you.
Man, loneliness is more abominable than illness. Although the elderly want to enjoy loneliness, but long-term loneliness, no one can enjoy. Only by communicating with the right person can you release the repression in your heart.
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Second, be close to children with conscience, moderately dependent.
If you have several children, you should observe their character more to see who has more conscience and whose family is more suitable for the elderly. At the same time, you have to look at the daughter-in-law and son-in-law, how they treat the elderly.
Do not blindly favor which child, but decide according to the actual situation.
Many parents will love their useless children, believing that they are short of food and clothing and need to be helped. The saddest thing is that some children often make mistakes and achieve nothing, but their parents try to help them, resulting in the dissatisfaction of those children who are struggling hard.
Parents should keep their heads clear. Those children who are well mixed and have warm hearts can help you to retire.
Be with a child of conscience, and you leave all your assets to him, so that you can really grow old. You give your assets to the "loser", even if you crawl and walk, he will not look at you squarely, but he will want you to leave early.
As a parent, your emotions should be in the right place, not emotional, so that you can become a person who is disliked by your children.
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Third, get close to poor and sympathetic people and receive help.
If you look closely, you will find that there are many people in the community where we live, but most of them are concerned about their small families, and he will not even ask who the neighbors are.
There are also some people who are very busy at work and do not pay attention to the affairs of the community at all.
Only some people are very enthusiastic about things in the community and often help the elderly who are in difficulty.
People are old, can't walk, and have to be with "enthusiastic" neighbors as much as they can. Your suffering will get their sympathy.
Carnegie said: "Compassion is a precious quality that always earns you the respect of others." It is like a pearl, precious and bright, passing on the kindness from heaven, which is the support and care for the weak, such love, is broad, is selfless. ”
The person who can sympathize with the old man, he is very kind at heart, and he is willing to take the handle.
On weekdays, communicate more with people who sympathize with you, tell him about your situation, and send him some gifts as appropriate. This kind of human affection will make you get a lot of care, and it will also warm people's hearts.
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Fourth, get close to people who live thoroughly and actively face life and death.
The ancients said: "Man is inherently dead, or heavier than Mount Tai, or lighter than Hong Mao." ”
People's life expectancy is limited, but we can't be negative, even if we can only live for one day, we must live happily and manage three meals a day.
To live is the greatest meaning, to create the value of life.
For example, Hawking spent most of his time in a wheelchair, but he never gave up growing up and finally became a physicist.
Although we are ordinary people, we can enrich our minds and enrich our lives by reading books, watching videos, etc.
With people who insist on progress, you will find that life and death do not matter, as long as you live a little more thoroughly, the quality of life will continue to improve.
It is also a coarse tea and light rice, some people eat with relish, and some people frown.
Adjust your mindset and you will find that every day is sunny.
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The ancient Roman statesman Cicero said: "Just as I praise an old man's youth, I also like an old man who has a young heart, and who can be such a person, although the body will age, but the heart will never grow old." ”
Time is getting old, and no one can resist it. But our mentality can always stay in adolescence, and our spirit can get younger and younger.
People are old, can not move, this is a very cruel reality, escape is not as good as face, fear is not as good as acceptance, pessimism is not as good as positive.
Integrate yourself into a circle of love, and beautiful emotions will make you more blessed.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.