01
There is a saying that people must have both a bodhisattva heart and a Vajrapani wrist.
The bodhisattva heart is for the "beloved." The wrist of King Kong is for the "stranger". What kind of attitude should be treated to anyone, which is the so-called "one thing reduces one thing".
If you are a more honest person and treat the same kind person with a kind attitude, then you can naturally gain the respect and friendship of others. This is what we often say about the true heart for the true heart, the true feeling for the true feelings.
On the contrary, if you pin your kindness and sincerity on an unfamiliar white-eyed wolf, then no matter what you do, the result will be nothing more than being hurt. This is what we often say, "I would have set my heart on the bright moon, but the bright moon shone in the ditch."
Especially in the two groups of colleagues and relatives, we must achieve "accurate socialization" and "accurate kindness", and we must maintain a good attitude, we must maintain a good attitude. And when it is time to despair, it must be appropriately desperate.
The biggest flaw of ordinary people is not that they cannot distinguish between good people and bad people, but that they do not know how to refuse, do not understand despair, and do not know how to turn their faces. In this way, it is still the amorous self that is hurt.
People are old, and they must know how to turn their faces in time to these colleagues and relatives.
02
In the face of colleagues who are stepping on the top of others, we must turn our faces in time.
There is a saying that where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, where there are rivers and lakes, there are right and wrong, people are rivers and lakes, and people are right and wrong.
All right and wrong in the jianghu comes from "people". As long as there is still a relationship between people and there are irreconcilable contradictions, I believe that "struggle" will emerge endlessly.
In the midst of the jianghu struggle, how should we deal with it? People who are in line with their own interests, we must pull in time, and those who are not in our own interests, or even hurt our competitors, then we have to keep a distance from them.
The workplace and the jianghu are not places where feelings are discussed, but places where interests are discussed. With interests, you and I are friends. And without profit, even if we maintain goodwill, we will be hurt.
Especially when it comes to such a thing as "ascending to the top", some unscrupulous people will step on others to take the position, not only disregarding the relationship between colleagues, but even selling out at will. People like this are actually particularly scary.
To exaggerate, maybe we've been sold and are still counting money for someone else.
Therefore, in time to turn the other cheek with those who use us, or even step on our upper position, that is the courage to protect yourself.
03
In the face of aggressive colleagues, we have to turn the other cheek in time.
As a human being, we must maintain such a principle - no one offends me, and I do not offend. If anyone offends me, I will sin against them.
If others do not infringe on us, then we do not infringe on others. Conversely, if others choose to violate us, then we don't need to be polite. Be polite and rightly reserved for those who deserve respect.
When he first came to the workplace, Xiao Wang was always used to "bowing his knees" and felt that he had to please his colleagues around him in order to better mix.
What he could not imagine was that he was humble and condescending, and was regarded as "weak and deceitful" by the people around him. Others have also inched forward, not only letting him be a free laborer, but also letting him carry the black pot.
After experiencing these things, Xiao Wang completely realized that your kindness to others is actually not worth anything. At this time, if we are still too tolerant, we will only be forced into a corner.
Since we can't stand these colleagues and have no feelings for them, why don't we just turn our faces? When it is time to shoot, you have to turn your face, otherwise, it is miserable to be treated as a soft sheep.
04
In the face of relatives who are not good, we must turn our faces in time.
When we think of relatives, we all think of this sentence - the closest stranger.
Relatives are "close" to you because we still have a "blood connection" with them. This kind of blood relationship, chopping continuously, can not be sorted out, anyway, it is particularly complicated.
And relatives are "strangers" to us because between us and them, in addition to the existence of blood ties, other relationships are generally close to nothing.
Moreover, the group of relatives still has a distorted psychology - the mentality of seeing no one good.
You're having a good life, and others aren't happy and think you don't deserve to live like this. You are not having a good time, others are particularly happy, and feel particularly satisfied inside. This is the so-called "laughing at the poor and hating the rich."
For this kind of relative who "laughs at the poor and hates the rich", it is better not to get too close. Your goodness can easily become the source of the "evil of human nature" in their hearts
05
In the face of moral kidnapping of relatives, we must turn our faces in time.
On the Internet, there is such a word - moral kidnapping.
What is "moral kidnapping"? It is that some people with malicious intentions always stand on the moral high ground to accuse you, and even bind you, so that you have no freedom, and can only be tied to this "pseudo-moral" chariot.
For example, if your relatives ask you to borrow money to do business, and you are still full of blood relations, then do you borrow it or not?
If relatives ask us to borrow money because they are sick or have an emergency, it is still acceptable. At least, to provide relief to people in need, that is a kind of kindness.
However, if relatives come to us to borrow money in order to invest and make money, do business and speculate in stocks, and use our money to take risks, then we absolutely cannot accept it, and we can only refuse it with a cruel heart.
The choice of "turning faces" between people is, in the final analysis, derived from conflicts of interest. Since you have offended my interests, I can no longer be silly and kind.
To borrow a phrase from Mr. Yang Dai, if no one protects you thoroughly, please bring some sharpness in your future kindness to escort yourself.
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