Recently, the hit drama "Heart Residence", even if it has only aired a few episodes, but the plot of the drama has caused countless people to think deeply. Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, married Gu Lei, played by Yao Yiqi. Gu Lei in the play is a typical representative of a man without three, a man without appearance, property, and ability. Feng Xiaoqin in other places, if she wanted to take root, she could only find a local to marry, perhaps she really married Gu Lei for the sake of hukou at that time.
From the beginning of falling in love, I knew that Gu Lei was a man who did not want to make progress and naturally nibbled on the old man. From the moment she accepted the giant baby man, she should not have placed her high hopes on him. However, she still listened to Gu Lei's words and worked as a full-time wife in the Gu family for nearly ten years. Feng Xiaoqin, while forcing Gu Lei to work hard, also accepted all kinds of living subsidies from the eldest sister-in-law as a matter of course, always thinking about the heartwarming property of the eldest unmarried sister-in-law, and trying to squeeze it all the time.
Feeling that the eldest sister-in-law despises herself as a foreigner, she accuses the eldest sister-in-law of interfering in their marital relationship and provoking dissension to make the husband and wife's feelings disharmonious.
I believe that there is a sentence in the play, which is particularly touching. "I don't keep an eye on him now, and it's not you who will drink the northwest wind with him in the future, it's me." Gu Lei's lack of self-motivation was not formed overnight, coupled with the maintenance of pampered parents, such a giant baby incompetent man is not easy to change. Since he hates iron and steel, and is not willing to give up all this hard-won, he can no longer continue to work hard to be a full-time wife.
Take the example of the real-life side, my neighbor has been in love with her husband since high school, and only married after working for a few years. Her husband began to cast a net at work when he was in love, fishing for three days and drying nets for two days. But she still married without hesitation, I don't know if she loved too much or had other plans. The mother-in-law is a strong and capable career-oriented strong woman, and she is destined not to help her bring it after giving birth. From the moment she was a full-time wife, she was overwhelmed with chores, pots and pans.
The new mother's overwhelm, no one to take the handle of the bitterness she tasted all over. And her husband is still stuck in the role of a child, and has not changed into the life of a husband and a father. From one to the second child, there has been no milk powder money, no subsidy for the family, and all he will do is to reach out to his parents all the time. At the beginning, her mother-in-law still took the initiative to buy milk powder for money, and later felt that she bought skin care products profligately, and would not take the initiative to give money. Whenever she confided in others that her mother-in-law did not give milk powder money and needed to reach for money to hold back, the tone was reasonable.
Others advised her to force her husband appropriately, otherwise when your mother-in-law is old, she will not be able to move without the ability to work. It is you and your child who suffer, and children who grow up in such a family environment are more or less influenced by their fathers. You don't understand, there's nothing I can do. How many times she struggled during this time, we don't know.
Her attitude repels the advice of others, and she is angry at her misfortune and mourns it. Even if you live a chicken feather, you are to blame, and no one will be pitiful. She was also advised that since men did not go out to work, they should go to work on their own. To be able to earn a little is a little, at least not to look at the mother-in-law's eyes when reaching for money. What is not assured that her husband is with, her husband is not reliable to bring bad and so on. Anyway, a bunch of excuses to support her, reluctant to be a full-time wife.
Inertness or excuses, some people are really not suitable to be full-time wives. In the long run, not only will their own psychological imbalance, but also affect the healthy growth of children. When your fulfillment is not responded to, then you should give up, and it is good to work hard to have a career
Stay-at-home moms in real life are indeed not easy. Every day on a busy word, the key is the family, do not know what she is busy with. With children, take care of the family's food and living. The path you choose, how to survive. Some things do not need to be understood by others, as long as you pay with your heart and be ashamed. Men strive for careers, then we must create a strong rear for him.
Back in "Heart Residence", Feng Xiaoqin's eldest sister-in-law Gu Qingyu, Gu Father and Mother Gu and Gu Lei held a small family meeting in the room, and Feng Xiaoqin, who was absent without being told, eavesdropped outside. The content of the discussion made Feng Xiaoqin feel that the Gu family had never regarded themselves as family members. Enraged, he packed his bags and prepared to leave. In the dispute between Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin, Gu Lei fell down the stairs and unfortunately died, leading to the tragedy.
After Gu Lei's unexpected death, they complained to each other and shirked their responsibilities, and the contradiction between their sisters-in-law and sister-in-law continued to escalate. Or tired, maybe desperate, everything in the future Feng Xiaoqin knows that she can only rely on herself. Thus began the process of exploring their own value, relying on their own wisdom and resilience, motivating themselves to have no way back. It is not too late to plan the nursing home and make it bigger and stronger.
If Feng Xiaoqin had chosen to be a strong woman at the beginning, wouldn't the tragedy have happened, but there was no if. There are right and wrong choices, a step of mistake, a step of the abyss, a step of the right step with a bright future.