A full-time wife, as the name suggests, generally refers to a woman who does not have a job and only takes care of the family's food and clothing at home, also known as a housewife.
When it comes to the four words of full-time wife, many women have endless bitterness, and there are also many people who want to give women a piece of advice, that is, it is best not to become a full-time wife.
There are many drawbacks to becoming a stay-at-home wife, and know that whether you have money in your hands or not in your marriage or in life, it is up to you. If you don't have money in your hands, you can't fill your stomach, you can't go to the hospital, you can face life-threatening. In marriage, whether you have money in your hands also determines your family status at home.
Just as there is a line in "The First Half of My Life": When you eat and drink, when men give it, you will not have your own right to speak. Once this dependency relationship is established, there is no emotional equality.
Full-time wives encounter a marriage crisis, it is not a new thing, whether it is a TV series, or in real life, there are many full-time wives whose marriages have come to an end, and they have also become losers in marriage.
For example, in "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun's husband betrayed the marriage and asked for a divorce, and Luo Zijun's life instantly became a mess, and it took a long time to ease up. Even Gu Jia, an all-powerful woman who can get up and down the kitchen in "Thirty Only", has not been able to laugh to the end in marriage.
However, women become full-time wives, but also have their own unavoidable hardships, as Yao Chen and Ma Yili starred in the movie "Find You", said: "This era has high requirements for women, if you choose to become a working woman, some people will say that you are a bad mother; if you choose to become a full-time mother, some people feel that this is not a profession." ”
No one with a baby, no one to do housework, you must choose between career and family, sacrificing career to choose family is also a woman's helpless move.
Becoming a stay-at-home wife is a choice, and there is no right or wrong, but before making a choice, people must be prepared to minimize the negative impact of the choice.
Women, if men can't give you 3 things, don't be a full-time wife easily, so as not to regret it.
First, the materials of life are all exchanged for money, without money, what kind of home do you manage?
Luo Juan, 32, is a second-born mother with two daughters, because her mother-in-law refuses to take her granddaughter, so Luo Juan faces a dilemma, and her husband can't help her mother, so she has to ask her daughter-in-law to resign and become a full-time wife to take care of her two daughters.
For the sake of her daughter, Luo Juan finally agreed to be a full-time wife, but made a request that her husband's income be managed by her.
"I don't want you to turn in your pay card, now that mobile phone payment is so convenient, you can take the money at any time." If you promise, as soon as the salary is paid, the money will be transferred to my account, and I will be responsible for the disposal, I will agree to be a full-time wife, otherwise, let me reach out to you for money, I will not do it, in case you do not want to give, what should I do? ”
Luo Juan believes that it is difficult for a woman to cook without rice, whether it is three meals a day, or other expenses, she needs money, without money, how to manage the house?
Luo Juan's husband agreed to his wife's request, and after paying his salary on the 20th of each month, he left a sum of pocket money, and the rest of the money was transferred to Luo Juan, who was responsible for her disposal. When he saw that Luo Juan had bought clothes and cosmetics for himself, he never accused a word.
In Pride and Prejudice, there is a saying that goes like this: "A marriage that only considers money is absurd, and a marriage that does not consider money is stupid." ”
The materials of life are all exchanged for money, without money, what kind of home do you manage? Without money, anything you want to buy, is impossible. Without money, you can't solve the problem when you have an emergency.
A woman becomes a full-time wife, forced by reality, to pay for the family, and deserves the treatment she deserves. Since you want your daily life in the house, you have to hand over the economic power, rather than let you lick your face and whisper to him for money, let him step on your dignity.
If the man refuses to turn in the financial power, the woman should not agree to be a full-time wife, otherwise, you have the time to ask him.
Second, respect you, hurt you, and take the initiative to share with you;
After Luo Juan became a full-time wife, her husband developed a mentality that he only needed to be responsible for supporting the family, whether it was taking care of the children or doing housework, it was the wife's task and had nothing to do with him.
After Luo Juan discovered her husband's psychology, she was unwilling to get used to him, and constantly guided him to participate in family affairs, let him accompany the child, increase his feelings with the child, and lay hands on himself.
Under the guidance of Luo Juan, the husband returned home, no longer simply playing mobile phones, but also chatting with his wife, talking about the things he encountered, and also accompanying his daughter, doing homework with his children and playing games with his children when Luo Juan was doing housework.
Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said a paragraph: "In marriage, the most feared thing is that the husband divides the work of the married life from the bottom of his heart, and from the bones, he thinks that men are only responsible for making money, and women should do housework naturally, and take the baby day and night." ”
Once he has this kind of thought, he will lack a sense of responsibility for the family, and you will have less and less sense of topic, once the husband and wife meet and have nothing to say, the communication will be not right, and the feelings will become more and more weak.
If a man does not have a heart that respects you, hurts you, and takes the initiative to share with you, and takes your efforts for granted, you must be vigilant and try your best to change him and let him participate in the family. If you can't change him, you change yourself and resume your job as soon as possible, so as not to lose your way out if your marriage goes wrong and you don't have financial strength.
Third, maintain your consciousness of not allowing others to interfere with your marriage.
Luo Juan's mother-in-law was dissatisfied that her daughter-in-law only gave birth to a daughter, not only was she unwilling to take a baby, but she often came to her son's house to "inspect" Luo Juan's work, pointing fingers at Luo Juan and picking bones in the eggs, which made Luo Juan feel very uncomfortable.
Luo Juan endured twice, and when she saw that her mother-in-law had intensified, she decided not to endure anymore, found her husband, told him about her mother-in-law's search for stubble, and asked her husband to come forward to solve it.
"No one can help the matter of giving birth to boys and girls, that is God's business, how can we blame Xiao Juan?"
"What happened to my daughter?" My daughter is well-behaved and sensible, and I know how to care for my father when I am sick, which is much better than the bear child in my cousin's family. ”
"Mom, if you don't help, you still come to add to the chaos, what are you doing?" Can you turn your attention to your life and stop staring at our family of 4. ”
After being intimidated by her son several times, Luo Juan's mother-in-law visited the door greatly reduced, and Luo Juan also felt very satisfied.
For full-time wives, after losing their financial ability, it is also a matter of being looked down upon by the people around them, especially the in-laws. At this time, the man's attitude determines the attitude of the in-laws to you.
If men have the consciousness to defend you and not let others interfere with your marriage, and take the initiative to support you so that they cannot affect you, your marriage has the hope of keeping the clouds open.
Finally, it is still that sentence, to become a full-time wife, be cautious and do not risk marriage easily.
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