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"Seeing me alone, washing everyone's clothes and mopping the floor, so hard, don't you know how to reach out?" One by one, they are too lazy to move like anything, and they don't know how to move. ”
When the 43-year-old little love mother cleaned up at home. The 16-year-old Xiao Ai and his father sat peacefully on the sofa, one intently reading a book, the other immersed in the mobile phone, with no intention of helping. In the whole living room, only the sound of little love mother's chattering and complaining could be heard.
Xiao Ai and Dad have long been accustomed to such a life. It's not that they don't want to reach out, but if they reach out, it will only attract more complaints from their mothers, saying that they didn't do a good job, that they didn't do it right. Therefore, Xiao Ai and her father have long cultivated to be a hand-throwing treasurer when their mother is doing things. As a result, Xiao Aijia formed such a picture. Mom is tired and tired but does not get any gratitude and understanding from family members, and has no status in the family.
There are too many women like Xiao Ai's mother in life, working hard at home and paying all their efforts, but they do not get any respect from family members and do not have any status in the family. Because most of what these moms do is useless. The more statusless the mother, the more she likes to do these useless work at home, and she is tired and tired and does not get respect.
Others can't see what they do, and if they do it themselves, they are unwilling to complain about it
Many mothers who have no status at home have such a characteristic. In the beginning, family members were also actively involved in various family affairs. But the mother is not at ease, all kinds of small faults, either dislike this is not done well, or there is not what she wants, pointing fingers at the results of others, a little problem with family members, small flaws can not be tolerated, and then feel that they are incompetent to do not do well.
Being picked up for a long time, even the most motivated people are not willing to do it. My mother-in-law is like this, doing things like others to do according to her standards, doing it is also wordy, not doing it is also long-winded, and in the end no one does it. Then you can only do it yourself, do it yourself, and feel that your family does not understand yourself, do not help yourself, have all kinds of dissatisfaction in your heart, complain about your own fate while doing it, no one helps, and so on.
Such a mother is also wholeheartedly serving the family members at home, but his complaints and complaints will make the family you very stressed, so that you will slowly distance yourself from each other and not get the slightest respect at home.
I can't see the strengths of my husband and children now, and I always want to compare myself with other people
Many mothers look at a mountain high, and always feel that other husbands and children are the proud sons of heaven, and other children are dragons and phoenixes among people. His husband just can't support the wall in the mud, and the children can't do anything. Never see the strengths and virtues of husbands and children.
Therefore, every day is to take their husbands and children, compare with the family, exaggerate other families, and degrade their husbands and children to nothing, so that the family lives in denial and blows all day long.
Such a mother will make the family stay away, and it will also make the family reject such a mother from the bottom of their hearts. At home, it seems to be very strong and has a lot of right to speak, but in fact, in the eyes of the family, there is no status, and the family will not respect such a mother.
【Topic Discussion: Are there such women around you?】 】
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