I think that many people like my generation who came out of the countryside have mixed feelings about their homeland! On the one hand, we miss and yearn for the simple and simple rural life; On the one hand, I feel that the education and resources in the rural areas are not as good as those in the cities, so I study hard and work hard to run to the big cities.
➤ Whether or not we end up in the big city, we can't erase our rural background and the experience of living in the countryside. Recently I saw a post that made me feel very complicated! The poster is from the countryside, and she said that she has been trying to escape from what she considers "rustic".
↑Because she hates the rustic countryside, she has people who hate the rustic, the rustic dialect, the rustic dress, the rustic appearance... When she sees such a person, she gets bored. The owner of the post never made friends with that kind of rustic person, because she was afraid that others would associate her with rustic. ↑
When asked what she thought was "the opposite of rustic", the poster replied: decent.
Don't comment on right or wrong first.,I think she's quite courageous to say this to the poster.。 Because if you show the dark side of your heart on the Internet, you will definitely be scolded.
➤ Someone found a photo of the poster's daily dressing and dressing, and said: You usually wear it like that (quite earthy), and you are embarrassed to dislike other people's soil? The rustic people you hate actually include yourself!
▽What is rustic and foreign? I think it's really too superficial just from the dimensions of dressing up and dialects!
Everyone has their own standards of beauty. Even the top fashion designers dare not set the standard of foreign and rustic to death; As for "speaking in tongues", that's even more nonsense! Where in China there is no dialect, the Mandarin we speak now is still the dialect of Beijing!
➤ On the surface, the post owner hates rusticism, and I think that the post owner can't accept herself from the countryside (because she feels undignified), which is a strong inferiority complex from the countryside.
Maybe in the eyes of some people, this idea of the poster is quite incredible. Is it bad to be born in the countryside? There is a house and a land, and the house is big and spacious. Moreover, the education and medical conditions in rural areas are no worse than those in cities, and the living conditions are even better than those in cities! Living in the city is for a livelihood, but living in the countryside is enjoyable!
But this phenomenon has only emerged in the past few years. Looking at the photo of the poster, I estimated that her age should be about 30. There is no comparison between the countryside of a few decades ago and the countryside of today. In particular, the lack of spiritual life has made many children lack "knowledge", and the external manifestation is that they are twisted and unconfident.
➤ I am also from the countryside, so I know that when rural children enter a broader world and suddenly come into contact with many excellent or wealthy people, they will subconsciously re-examine their own conditions for comparison. Because I feel normal because I have an inferiority complex in contrast.
▽ I had never been out of the city before I was in college, and I didn't know how to take the subway, nor did I take the high-speed rail plane. The first time I left home to go to college in another province, I had a trance feeling that Grandma Liu entered the Grand View Garden. There are four girls in the dormitory, two of them are from the city, they are fair-skinned and beautifully dressed, and they are very good at home. Look at yourself again: dark skin (I helped tan in the field during the summer vacation of my junior year of high school), I don't look good, wearing a dirty T-shirt + jeans, I still remember the shock and self-esteem of that moment.
▽For a long time, I only dared to play with that roommate, who was also from the countryside. Because of the topics discussed by the other two roommates: where to play during the summer vacation after the college entrance examination, what interest classes I have attended, how many levels of piano and dance, which brands of clothes are good-looking and which are not-looking, etc., I can't interject at all.
Outsiders think that I don't befriend beautiful and rich roommates because I'm jealous of them, but in fact, I just have low self-esteem. My avoidance is a cover for my inferiority, like the host's disgust for "rustic" for no reason. However, with the passage of time and the maturity of my mind, my self-confidence slowly overcame my low self-esteem.
What people in the city know in the countryside may not know, and vice versa. As rural people, we know what to plant in the field in what season, what to call those delicious wild fruits and wild vegetables in the fields and mountains, when to grow and when to pick... And the simplicity of rural people is really commendable!
➤ People spend their whole lives reconciling with themselves. If we hate something or someone, it must have the quality that we ourselves least accept ourselves. When we tolerate it, aren't we tolerating ourselves?