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Watching others grow up with a baby in the blink of an eye, and their own baby is getting longer and longer every day, why is this? Often on the Internet, see foreign mothers alone with four or five children, are very relaxed, and look around us, a lot of bao mom family to see a child, are busy, which link is the problem?
A classmate of mine from college, she studied abroad in Germany and settled there. Later, I was surprised to find that she was already a mother of four children, and I was carrying my son myself, and I was tired and sore every day. Curiously, I asked, "Your mother-in-law doesn't help you either, so how can you handle it yourself?" If it had been for me, I would have collapsed a long time ago."
The friend said that she enjoys the happy time with her children, if you really come, you can experience different national conditions, social environment and educational concepts, really give you a different experience with a baby.
Why is it that in China, we are very tired with a child, but foreign mothers often bring four or five by themselves, and they feel very relaxed?
Through the understanding with friends, I feel that the main difference is that these aspects make it easy for them to take children.
The financial pressure of foreign mothers raising children is relatively small, and mothers are more relaxed.
In some developed countries in Europe and the United States like Germany, the family's birth allowance is very high, there are cash subsidies, and there are various tax exemptions, so having more children is also a kind of family economic income for them.
Moreover, in many developed countries, children's education, medical care and many other aspects are almost free of money, and the economic pressure on parents to raise their children is even smaller.
The concept of foreign mothers to educate their children is different from ours, the child is more independent, and the parents are more relaxed physically.
When I video chat with my friends, I often see her son, who is a few months old, crawling around on the floor and playing by himself, without affecting my mother from talking to me. Sometimes, he took something and ate it in his mouth, and I was scared here, but my mother was very calm.
Moms with four or five children alone will certainly not be as delicate as we do with our babies. The mother cleaned up the space for the children to play, so she let him play freely. Moreover, when the child is a little older, he will be allowed to complete many things independently, such as eating, dressing, sleeping, and so on.
When children go to primary school, many families will have clear regulations on what is the housework that children should do, such as cleaning, washing cars, mowing lawns, taking care of pets at home, and so on.
And our children, from birth under the careful care of their parents and mothers, they have poor self-care ability, and their parents are also very tired. Some children are even adults and are cared for by their elderly parents. Because caring for children is so hard, many families choose to have only one child.
l Foreign mothers with children, there is no grandparents doting and mother-in-law contradictions occur.
We are very tired with children, if the elderly can help take care of children, will it be much better? When you really educate children with the elderly, you will find that your heart is actually more tired.
Because you obviously know that how children educate or raise is the most scientific, but you can't help the old man at all, he just wants to take the child in his own way. So, you find that the elderly help with the child, the body is slightly more relaxed, but the heart is more tired.
In foreign families, the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will not live together, and the mother-in-law is not obliged to help the daughter-in-law with the child, and it is already good that they can visit occasionally. Without the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, without the doting of the elderly, family education will be simpler and smoother.
Each country has a set of ways to bring a baby in each country, and their good places can be learned, especially in foreign countries, the child's father will definitely participate in the baby, which plays a crucial role in the growth of the child.
Foreign fathers play a vital role in the growth of their children, and they will not be absent
Our mothers are tired with their children and it is very hard to educate them because in many families they belong to "widowed" parenting. The child's life is taken care of by the mother, the child's homework also needs to be tutored by the mother, the father is only responsible for working outside, other things are not willing to participate, how can the mother not be tired?
In some countries, dads also enjoy a period of "maternity leave" from the time the mother gives birth to a child, which is used to care for the newborn child and the frail mother. Even in their daily work, they will have a "family day" dedicated to getting along with their families.
There is also time outside work, whether at home or outside, fathers have more time with children than mothers, and they can often see five or three thick fathers, pushing their children and holding their children out to play. It should be known that the father will not be absent in the child's growth process, the child's body and mind will be healthier, and the family will be happier.
We may not approve of the first few points or can't do it, but foreign dads are still worth learning from our dads. Although our father did not have maternity leave, after work, it was very good to be able to help his wife do housework with the children and help with homework.
To raise children and educate children, we should actively change our thinking, be a happy mother and a responsible father, and educate an excellent child.
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