Yi said that the gathering place for women's growth, may you not wear armor, you can resist thousands of life is not easy, welcome attention.
Feng Xiaoqin in "Heart Residence" is disliked by many people and has attached a lot of labels, but they have not seen this woman trying to live. Readers who often read my articles know that I like to look at the plot separately from the original work, or that sentence, it is two different forms of display, and it is doomed to be impossible to be exactly the same, here is still just to talk about the plot, according to the plot to do the discussion.
To say one more word, many people say that the three views of this drama are not correct, I just want to say that the things presented in a drama are the coexistence of beauty and ugliness to cause people to think, and the presentation does not mean that it is advocated, and their own three views still need to be responsible.
About Feng Xiaoqin, will not only write this one, in her many growth, there is a process, for this woman, the biggest watershed in her life is the unexpected departure of her husband Gu Lei. This time, let's talk about Feng Xiaoqin when Gu Lei was alive.
Feng Xiaoqin said that she was insecure, which was true. She came to the metropolis of Shanghai from a small place to work hard, and her dream was to take root and make a home in this city. She has the ability, and gu Qingyu, an elite in the workplace, said that it is also good to have such a clear-thinking sister-in-law.
So, why did Feng Xiaoqin want to buy a house of her own after many years of marriage, but used a lot of annoying methods? Looking at Feng Xiaoqin in the first few episodes, I feel that her state is restless, jumping up and down by herself, and stirring up the family house.
In the final analysis, all this comes down to a cognitive error in her heart, that is, a misunderstanding of trying to live.
Is Feng Xiaoqin working hard? It seems that she has worked very hard, she has to take care of the life and living of the four generations of the Gu family every day, not only to take care of the in-laws and parents, but also to help the younger siblings of the mother-in-law, not only to comprehensively plan to accompany her son's studies, but also to worry about the career of her husband Gu Lei in an all-round way.
To say that the effort is probably no one is harder than Feng Xiaoqin, she accompanied her son to learn piano, and in two years she can smoothly complete the exam repertoire, and this is just a very small thing in all the things she has to worry about in life.
However, when she wanted to buy a house herself, she found that she had no autonomy at all, and everything was urging others. Buying a house in Shanghai is indeed not easy, and few people can be like Gu Qingyu, saying that they will buy it without thinking about borrowing money. However, Feng Xiaoqin's borrowing money is not a horse with a saddle, but a horse and a saddle need to be borrowed.
Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei have also been married for many years, the little tigers are in elementary school, but their savings are very small, so small that the down payment of buying a house is almost fully borrowed. In the Gu family, in front of her husband Gu Lei, Feng Xiaoqin seems to be very strong and can decide everything left and right, in fact, she is very passive, life can not live from the heart, the reason is actually very simple.
Pin your hopes on others and never get a happy life. Feng Xiaoqin is like this, she put her hopes and goals in life on her husband's son and even her eldest sister and in-laws, but she did not think of relying on herself.
Feng Xiaoqin is capable, she met Gu Lei in the days of part-time work, and she felt that as long as she married this Shanghai man, she could take root and live in Shanghai. Therefore, after getting married and having children, Gu Lei did not let her go to work, saying that the family needed to be taken care of, and she began the life of a full-time mother.
The result of full-time is that she has no income of her own, and her income is earned by her husband Gu Lei. However, they have been living with the old man of the Gu family since they got married, and for Gu Lei, this is the home where he grew up, even if he is married now, this is still his own home, without any ideas. For Feng Xiaoqin, it is different, this family is her father-in-law's house, although Gu Lei's son is concerned, but in the end it is still her father-in-law's house, not her and Gu Lei's house.
She knew that this house Gu Lei could think of as her own, but she couldn't, she longed to have her own house, only the house that belonged to her and Gu Lei completely could give her a sense of security, which was the common sentiment of people and could be understood. But the problem is that she has no income at home full-time, and if she wants to buy a house, she can only negotiate with her husband.
Therefore, she asked her husband Gu Lei to borrow money from her sister and borrow money from her father, and she asked Gu Lei to have more income after passing the accounting certificate as soon as possible, and this kind of thinking that requires the efforts of the people around her also affected her son, and her requirements for the little tiger are also very high.
In short, she let her husband and son work hard, but she did not think of doing it herself, she only did one thing, that is, to urge others to do it.
In her opinion, as long as the husband has more money to earn more money, their little life will be better, as long as they borrow money to buy a house, their life will be happier.
But the result? Borrowing money has to reach out to others, even if it is the husband's father and sister, after all, they do not have it themselves, and the confidence is ultimately insufficient, and they are passive everywhere. The eldest sister said that she also wanted to buy a house, so she broke Feng Xiaoqin's way to buy a house, and did not buy a word, which made her have a lot of ideas.
You see, Feng Xiaoqin's life is not very passive, everywhere is contained, but this resentment can not be others, can only say that she herself did not realize that it is better to rely on others than to rely on herself, to pin her hopes on others, it is better to practice it herself.
Gu Qingyu reminded Feng Xiaoqin that she took her husband as her son and forced Gu Lei too hard. But at that time, Feng Xiaoqin, who was all focused on buying a house, did not realize that his basic needs had become a desire.
Feng Xiaoqin did not know the truth that the water was full and overflowing, and the result was that her desire made her whole person anxious, which directly led to Gu Lei's unexpected death. At this time, she realized that once her husband left, she seemed to have nothing. After the pain of losing her loved ones, she told herself that she had to rely on herself, and everything had to rely on herself.
This is Feng Xiaoqin's growth is also a major tragedy in her life, many times, we often use too much force, tear off some things in life, only to find that those ordinary things are the most precious things. After this, Feng Xiaoqin began to be independent and began to be herself instead of pinning her hopes on others.
When we pin our hopes on others, our own life will no longer belong to us, and our emotions will rise and fall with others, suffering from gains and losses, even if it seems that no matter how hard we try, it is useless, and happiness can only be fought for by ourselves.
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