"Independent problem solving" sounds like an adult's business, but the ability to solve problems independently must be cultivated from the child. Children are the masters of the future society, after all, they must face the society alone, if they go to the society, the children still have feet will not walk, have brains will not think, dazed and overwhelmed, is the biggest failure of education.
Therefore, it is urgent to cultivate children's ability to solve problems independently! So, what do we do in our daily lives to cultivate children's ability to solve problems independently?
Eliminate the child's dependence on the psychology of psychological dependence, so that the child lacks the initiative to do things. And the child has both the psychology of relying on the parents, but also the nature of competing and not accepting defeat, the parents have found out the psychology of the child, intentionally praised other children in front of the child, aroused the child's psychology of not accepting defeat, the child will become active, so that the parents successfully achieve the purpose of eliminating the child's dependence on the psychology.
Let children learn to take care of themselves, let children learn to do housework from primary school, which is a basic training to exercise children's self-care ability. Many children, in kindergarten, cannot eat by themselves and go to the toilet by themselves. I went to a private elementary school and couldn't even wash my own clothes.
Doing housework is only one aspect of cultivating children's self-care ability, from the age of 1, parents should gradually improve their children's self-care ability through many details in life.
For example, let the child gradually adapt to his own sleep; let the child learn to brush his own teeth; let the child gradually learn to wash his feet; let the child try to dress himself; let the child learn to go to the toilet by himself, and so on.
Through uninterrupted attempts, many details of life are added to the training of self-care ability, so that the baby has the awareness and ability to solve problems independently from an early age. Instead of having to wait until the child is a few years old to do self-care training.
Encourage children to boldly try children's innate curiosity, prompting them to continue to pursue new things, will do a lot of adults difficult to understand things, such as love to tear down toys, graffiti, etc., although there are many behaviors that need to be stopped, but can not blindly criticize, to guide children to recognize which is correct, those are wrong, of course, this requires a certain amount of patience, for the right, such as dismantling toys, many times children dismantled may not be able to repair, but this process is also a learning process, So we should encourage, of course, according to the actual situation.
Give the child the confidence to solve the problem The child's actual hands-on ability is relatively weak, if doing something fails, it is likely to shake their confidence to continue to do, such as they want to help adults sweep the floor, but did not sweep clean, at this time the good jokes of the people around them are likely to make the child feel useless, feel that they are not good, so in similar things, pay more attention, must give the child confidence,
For example, wearing clothes, folding pants, etc., although they may not do a good job, as long as it can help improve their confidence in doing things, they must give affirmation, do not laugh at the innocence of a child.
Respect your child's decision If you ask your child, "What did you decide to do?" "The child will definitely choose the situation that is best for him, and if he understands the consequences, he will usually make the most reasonable and sensible choice." Even if his choice is not the outcome that the adult expects, respect the child's decision.
Parents must be faithful in what they say, and cannot first ask their children how to decide, and then tell him not to make such a decision. That way he won't dare to trust you again. Moreover, even if he chooses to be wrong, he can learn more precious and unforgettable lessons from this mistake.
Support and encourage children After all, children are children, and the world they see as our adults is different. Their way of solving problems may not conform to our ideas, but we should look at them with an appreciative eye and appropriately praise the child's actions. Children will be more active in solving problems they encounter in appreciation and encouragement!
Teach children to solve problems that they do not understand, when children encounter problems that cannot be solved, do not directly help them solve problems, first ask them whether they have worked hard, have they tried all the methods, prompt some ways to solve the problem, and see if the child thinks of it. If you really try hard, you can let your child try to ask the people around him and learn not to be ashamed to ask. It is best to ask a professional for help, such as a teacher, etc.
The cultivation of children's self-care ability is a long-term and scientific process. According to the age and cognitive level of the child, the scientific entry, the effect will be better!
1. Cultivate children's self-care ability, starting from packing up toys.
In fact, cultivating children's self-care ability and letting children pack up their own toys is the best entry point.
Many mothers play with their children with toys, and after playing, the whole house is full of toys. Children are still young, they only know what is fun, but they do not know how to tidy up. If the mother always cleans up by herself, she is tired, and she is easily irritable and easy to get angry with the child.
Moms can play "Send toys home" mini-games with their children. Tell your child that the toys should also go back to their own homes to sleep. Rest well, the next day you can continue to play with the baby. If you can't send the toys home, they will get lost and won't be able to play with your baby. Gradually develop children's ability to pack up toys.
2. Let children eat independently, go to the toilet, and wear clothes, which is the ability to have before going to kindergarten.
From the beginning when the baby can sit alone, it is necessary to cultivate the habit of the baby sitting alone in the dining chair. Mothers should not always be afraid that the baby will not have enough to eat, and choose to feed. Good eating habits not only have better physical development for the baby, but also a great improvement for the baby's self-care ability.
From the time when the baby can walk, it is necessary to form the habit of going to the toilet at a regular and fixed point, and gradually try to let the baby sit on the toilet by himself.
Around the age of 2, your baby can be encouraged to try to dress and wear shoes on their own.
In this way, when the baby goes to kindergarten, eating, dressing, and going to the toilet can be solved by themselves, and they will be more adapted to the kindergarten environment.
3, do housework, in the name of love, to give children encouragement, not forced.
To train children to do housework, we must encourage children to share some housework for their mothers and fathers in the name of love. You can give your baby a hug, or a kiss, so that your baby feels the love of their mother, and they will be more willing to do housework.
If the mother always forces the child to sweep the floor or do other housework, they will reject this matter from the bottom of their hearts, which is not good for the improvement of self-care ability.
It is best for the mother to accompany the child to do housework, such as the child sweeping the floor and the mother washing clothes. If the mother sits there watching TV and directs the child to sweep the floor, the child will be unbalanced.
4. Cultivate children's habits and awareness of solving problems on their own.
The ability to take care of itself is actually the embodiment of the child's awareness of solving problems independently.
When the child falls, the mother quickly helps them up, so that they become more dependent on the mother, and if they fall down again, they will expect the mother to come and help them, rather than trying to get up by themselves.
Every time you eat, it is always the mother who is feeding, so that the child forms a habit. When the meal comes, they will open their mouths, but they will lose the consciousness of taking the initiative to eat.
His toys were snatched away by other children, and his mother came forward to help get them back. In this way, the child loses the awareness and ability to solve problems on his own.
Therefore, the cultivation of self-care ability, from the birth of the child, the entire parenting process must have subtle details instilled, so that the cultivation of self-care ability is more scientific, and the requirements of parents for the child's self-care ability will not be so abrupt!
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