I don't know how many times I have seen it on the Internet, my boyfriend swore to his current girlfriend, I don't love you anymore, I can't forget my ex, let's break up. But every once in a while, the boyfriend snapped in the face and ran back to ask for a reunion. After being broken up, many girls want to study what the other party said when they broke up, and to pick up other people's words. I fell into the kind of murder psychology that I was denied, and I couldn't extricate myself. In fact, what the other party said to you after breaking up is indeed true, but it is definitely not what he said about the facts. We should dissect for ourselves the reasons for the breakup.
The first reason is that the other person is overwhelmed by your love. I don't know if you realize that sometimes your kindness to a person is also a kind of kidnapping, and your goodness envelops your sensitivity, your vulnerability, insecurity, and you hope that when you are good to a person, you can exchange an equivalent sense of security, which can make you no longer sensitive and meet your emotional needs, but when he in turn wants to give you love and security, many of your wrong practices push him away. When you are sensitive and insecure, you often argue with him, in fact, this will also make him sensitive and insecure. In turn, you are also sensitive to your relationship, so the final result can be imagined, that is, you will quarrel.
The second is that he can meet your needs, but you can't meet his needs. The reason why the party who proposed to break up collapsed first is more because one of his needs has not been met for a long time and has become desperate for the other half, thinking that you will never be able to satisfy him. As the party who was broken up, the reason why you can't accept the breakup at this time is because you have always been satisfied. When his needs for you are not met, the man will just hope to find the satisfaction of the needs outside.
Third, you keep repeating the wrong practices. Many girls always delete their friends after breaking up, and then want him to find him and then break the connection, and then look for him and keep begging each other. There's nothing wrong with disconnection itself, but the key is what you did during the disconnection, what you did, and how you looked for him. Then you keep begging him, which is not self-love, if the other person has doubts about your self-respect plot. If he does not love himself, he will naturally not be loved by him.
Most couples break up, most of the main reason is that they can't manage their emotions well, no matter what they encounter, they will be dominated by their own emotions first, and they will enlarge a small thing to countless times, and further rise to the height that he does not love me. When encountering things, first let yourself stop, and at the same time tell yourself not to be angry, not to be angry, not to be angry and say five or six times, you can repeatedly practice this pause plus psychological cues. When we are too close to a person, not only is the other party easy to lose interest in us, we will also feel that the other party is very ordinary, and when the distance is a little farther, the other party will also feel that we are more attractive, more curious about us, and will inevitably rekindle his desire to conquer and control.