The issue of old-age care is something that each of us has to face and consider.
So what about how to retire?
How to choose the right way to retire?
With the progress of society, the most common ways of providing for the elderly are divided into two categories:
1. Home care: family-centered, relying on children's relatives to provide for the elderly, the advantage is to enjoy the joy of children around the knees, the deficiency is that it is different from the children's living habits, easy to produce contradictions.
2. Institutional pension: the services provided in institutions such as nursing homes or pension apartments, the advantage is that professional nursing care and services can be enjoyed in pension institutions, and the lack is that they cannot feel family affection, and the elderly feel lonely emotionally.
In recent years, the "group pension" pension model is more popular in society. Many uncles and aunts are particularly yearning for pastoral life, each inviting a few friends to rent a few bungalows and a large yard in the countryside, and the old people grow vegetables and raise flowers together. The fantasy is very beautiful, but after really living together, there are many contradictions, and in the end, they are all unhappy.
Uncle Zhang, a lawyer, loved to make friends when he was young, and at the age of 65, he also liked the way of hugging the group for the elderly, after careful consideration, he avoided the contradictions, invited the two family friends, and opened his group pension life. The 68-year-old Uncle Zhang especially likes the current life, everyone talks about his group pension, let's listen to it together!
Narrator: Uncle Zhang
I am 68 years old and used to work as a lawyer at a law firm. When I was young, I liked to make friends, but the best ones were two families, one was Brother Sun's family, who was originally doing car maintenance, and the other was Xu Brothers' family, and the two were originally teachers. When the three of us were young, we often drank tea, traveled, family gatherings, etc. together, and when we were old, we hugged the old age together, did not trouble young people, and lived the rest of our lives well.
My wife worked as an accountant when she was young and has been working part-time for several companies since she retired. My family is a son, after going to university in Shanghai, he stayed in Shanghai to work, worked as a supervisor in a foreign company, and after getting married, his daughter-in-law took the children at home. Before the son gave birth to the baby, he told us that after having a baby, he did not need us to bring him a child, afraid that the concept of parenting was different, there were contradictions, and our old two were happy to be idle.
However, we do not ignore the children, but do not interfere in their lives, generally will go to see them twice a month, give them some living expenses, go to be close to the grandchildren, and enjoy the joy of the world.
The sun brother's family is a daughter, after the daughter got married and had a baby, the baby's grandparents took care of it, and the grandson brothers also occasionally went to see the little grandson.
Xu Di's family is a son and a daughter, the son went to college in Xiamen, after going to college, he also stayed in Xiamen, after the son got married and had a baby, the daughter-in-law also brought her own baby. Xu brothers and sisters generally go to see the children for two months, and in the winter, the son and daughter-in-law will invite the sons and daughters-in-law to xiamen for a while. The daughter is still young and attends university in Beijing.
In all three of us, the children were not around and they were all retired.
Once, at a family gathering, I said the idea of hugging the group for the elderly, and both Brother Sun and Brother Xu's families agreed very much. In order to avoid unnecessary contradictions, I put forward some ideas, being a person and doing things are the same as "first the villain and then the gentleman". All three of us have made it clear that we have something to say openly, so as not to make a fuss and ruin the friendship of so many years.
The three of us rented a three-storey cottage together, and the cost was evenly shared. There are separate bathrooms and kitchens on each floor, as well as a small yard. We discussed well, live on each floor, according to age, Brother Sun is the oldest, lives on the first floor, we both live on the second floor, and Brother Xu lives on the third floor.
Although the three of us live together, we all have our own independent space. We usually cook our own favorite meals and meet up at home to eat together. I will occasionally go to a dinner party, you buy fruit, I buy wine, clean up after dinner, drink tea together, it is not comfortable.
Just like yesterday, Brother Sun and Brother Xu said that they wanted to come to the second floor for dinner, my daughter-in-law and sister-in-law plus Xu Brother's sister-in-law, the three of them met to buy vegetables together, discussed what dishes to eat, what fruits to eat after dinner, I watched their three sisters together have endless words, and I was really happy in my heart.
I went with Brother Sun and Brother Xu to buy beer and juice. Before the meal, the three of us talked about national events, and after the meal, we drank tea together in the courtyard, which was so comfortable!
In their free time, the three sisters will read together, knit sweaters and hats for the babies, and in the spring, they will plant some vegetables in the yard, such as rapeseed, artemisia annua, garlic seedlings, cucumbers, peppers, tomatoes, etc. near the summer, there are kidney beans and beans in autumn, and turnips and cabbage in winter. Half of the yard has vegetables to eat all year round, and it is pollution-free, such a pastoral life should have many people yearning for it!
Of course, children sometimes come back to visit their relatives, just like last week, Xu Di's son's family came back and stayed here for a week. The three of us are very fond of children, the three sisters read with the children for a while, and then accompany them to the park to play, and Xu Di's son accompanies us old men to chat about the outside world.
At last:
Group pension is the emerging way of old-age care in recent years, because its advantage is not alone, you can hug the group for warmth, compared to the pension system of the pension, relatively free and comfortable, but also have to consider the way to get along in advance, to avoid contradictions and affect the feelings between friends.
Do you agree with Uncle Zhang's way of hugging the pension? Feel free to share your views and opinions in the comments section!