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Recently, the news about "breaking off relatives" has been overwhelming, a phenomenon that not only exists in the post-00s, but also in many post-80s and post-90s generations.
People are social animals, people like friends and family, but many young people are building a new way of life.
They want to break with tradition and become themselves.
This kind of behavior seems unexpected, but in fact, it is reasonable.
"Broken relatives" are young people who do not associate with relatives
The so-called relatives refer to people who are related by blood.
There is a close connection of blood flowing through everyone's body, and although they do not live in a small family, they also have a connection that cannot be cut.
Every New Year's Festival, big weddings and funerals, birthday celebrations, everyone will gather together.
Moving around between relatives is a custom handed down from the mainland, but many young people are now reluctant to inherit this tradition.
They focus on their little days, not moving around with relatives, not even contacting when necessary.
This kind of group of people is called "broken relatives", which means that they are a group of people who intend to cut off their relatives.
The ugly humanity under "false affection"
Young people become "broken relatives" not because they are cold-blooded and ruthless, but because the ugly humanity revealed by the false affection has become a burden on them.
The poor love the rich
I once read in a magazine that an author told the story of his childhood, they went to a relative's house as a guest, and when they left, the host's family prepared red envelopes for each child.
If it weren't for the naughtiness of the children, he might never know that the other children's red envelopes were all 50 yuan, and only the 20 yuan in his red envelopes.
At that moment, his little self-esteem was hurt the most, because his family was poor and his relatives were treated differently.
In the next 10 years, he never visited a relative's house again.
Many relatives have the characteristics of being poor and loving the rich, and everyone is similar in blood relations, but they have been treated completely differently because of the gap between the rich and the poor.
The rich are given preferential treatment, and the poor are snubbed, as if this has become the norm.
But true affection is not like this, when affection reveals the taste of snobbery, it changes its taste.
And such a relationship has no emotion to speak of.
Comparison addiction
In the TV series "Know It or Not", Mo Lan is bent on marrying Houmen, completely disregarding her own identity, and the reason why she has such an idea is entirely to compare herself with her sisters.
Seeing that the eldest sister married well, she did not want to fall behind, so in order to achieve the goal and unscrupulous, she has been struggling after marrying, and everyone says that she is not as married as Minglan.
This is a good reflection of the comparison between relatives.
"I want you to be well, but you can't be better off than I am."
This is the true psychology of many relatives.
They are constantly compared to people, and sometimes they even punch their swollen faces and become fat.
Such a life is undoubtedly a kind of pressure for young people, their work is already very hard, who has the heart to compare with others?
But when they meet relatives who are looking for superiority in others, they will still be angry.
Hate you for being rich, and hope you are poor
There is such a person in a relative who ignores you when you are poor as if you did not exist at all.
Even if you are usually in contact, you will always be the most neglected object.
But if one day you suddenly become rich, they will be very uncomfortable.
Your success has nothing to do with them, but their jealous faces can no longer be hidden.
They will slander you behind your back, even silently expecting you to fall from a high place.
Which is this relative? It is clear that they are enemies.
True relatives want you to live well, help you when you are down, and be happy for you when you are successful, rather than not seeing that you are doing well and falling into a well when you are down.
Such a person is not worth making friends with, so why bother to act with others?
Help less, manage wide
People say that for today's young people, the New Year is like passing the pass, and the main reason for all this is because of relatives.
As soon as the New Year came, they got together to gossip. Who's doing well in school, who hasn't had a girlfriend yet, who hasn't bought a house yet, who hasn't gotten married yet.
Other people's lives obviously have nothing to do with them, but they always want to step in.
Can't help, and constantly create negative emotions for others, such people will only make people want to stay away.
The spread of "broken relatives" is the rebellion of young people against false family affection
Relatives are also blood relatives, and traditionally, they should be relatively close people.
But the behavior of many relatives has tarnished the word "affection", and what everyone sees from them is not warmth and care, but the ugliness of human nature.
Obviously not close, but must be said to be relatives; obviously have their own hearts, but they must pretend to be particularly intimate.
Middle-aged and elderly people have been pretending for a lifetime, they have long been accustomed to it, but for young people, this is a relatively distorted thing, and they are not willing to inherit such a hypocritical lifestyle.
They choose to do it from the heart, and since this mode of getting along makes them feel uncomfortable, they simply cut it off.
From then on, no one paid attention to anyone, and everyone lived their lives behind closed doors, without worrying about complicated human sophistication and embarrassment.
Young people resent false affection, and since they are not real relatives, they simply do not come and go!
I am Shadow, an original author who focuses on the field of emotion.