Xiao Bai please figure out your love and dating needs

People who come up and don't understand their own needs for a blind date can sometimes fall into the trap easily.

Those who can be cheated of money by scammers are basically greedy and insufficient.

In the same way, those who can be deceived into feelings are basically too greedy in their feelings.

I have encountered, a whole year and a half of personal experience to understand the needs, randomly fall in love, and so on for a long time to find that their needs can not be met at all, purely for the sake of having an object and looking for an object, really do not know what to say.

Some people can recognize the situation at a glance at the conditions, and if it is not suitable, they will change it. And I took a big cost of trial and error to try to challenge my demand bottom line, regardless of my actual needs, always want to try to see if I can get a better one, the result is everywhere, and finally the emotions are dead on the hardware conditions are not up to standard.

Xiao Bai was easily fooled.

When a friend asked me that the age difference was too big, as much as 6 years old, when I was playing with a younger brother, I didn't react.

I think I have a very attentive suitor, hard work and like me, this is a very happy thing, I will not take it seriously, just talk about a meal, there will be nothing.

Oh, just like the plot of various scam money, at the beginning it is to let you experience a very good sweetness, the pie in the sky, you can have a profit without paying, how good, wait until you drill in, completely believe it, you will find that you can't go out.

At the beginning, all kinds of booing and greetings, caring, talking about the future, talking about the future dreams, talking about the good life that I want to create for you in the future, slowly dispelling your concerns, and not worrying too much about the differences between the two. At this time, we should obviously be vigilant, but the sugar-coated shells are difficult to resist...

Obviously, at the beginning, I was only a friend for entertainment, but I didn't know when, I was actually serious!

And just after I was serious, less than a month, the other party changed, became fast unexpected, people do not believe that this person was chasing you, the surface said that the ceiling, actually began to make all kinds of requests, think I am not good for him, all kinds of let me pay, still not valued, began to release pigeons, snub, play a reversal, much like licking the dog turned over as the owner, the problem is that I did not let you lick before ah? Why should I bear this responsibility for being licked?

Even stirred, should have been decisively separated, but the result was not enough, continue to be together, for half a year, spent in tearing, that felt extremely painful.

Whenever I think about it, I feel that I am stupid, but it is difficult to give up, I always feel that he was very good to me at the beginning, and I fantasize about going back to the original time.

Disillusioned and disillusioned again and again, or just happened to meet a stranger, he helped to immediately make my information all black, only to successfully cut off the idea of this person. Finally slowly coming out of the extremely sad mood, it has been a year.

This experience made me find that, in fact, the performance of the catch, very enthusiastic, know the cold and know the heat, talk well, not necessarily the object of serious love, not necessarily want to choose for a long time. This is just the warm male strategy he adopted, making people misunderstand that he is a real gentle and enthusiastic person, in fact, less than a month later, he is exposed, no credit, speaking is just good, always lip service is good, actions are deceitful every time, did not fulfill the promise, ask him, he does not care. That's what I am, I have the ability to share! The funny passages of the previous warm contact have also disappeared, the information is getting less and less, and it becomes that I am looking for him, slowly consuming the former personality and consuming it all. Another point is that such a person, for his own experience, does not even care about your physical safety, it is simply scum to home.

Therefore, people who are not clear about their love needs are easily manipulated by people, caught by people who want to take advantage of the opportunity, eat dry and wipe clean, and throw them away.

I hope that after you have thought clearly about your needs, you will keep your own basic bottom line.

Small theater Easter egg

"Watch a movie together after work!" A man who just added WeChat sent a message.

I thought to myself, open your mouth, are you the president? Do I know you? Just go to the movies. After asking, oh yes, "Either you introduce yourself first, and I'm not here to chat, my purpose is to find a future partner." After replying, I thought to myself, first see if the hardware meets the standards

Sure enough, the hardware is the goldstone that tests everything, says immediately.

"Just watch a movie and I'll go myself."

"I'm not going to look for something older than myself"

"OK", this is not, originally talking about hiding and hiding feels that there is a problem, this is really out to deceive people to play.

Fortunately, my two sentences exploded, or really wait for the future to like, and then be dumped, more than worth the loss, so I sincerely recommend that if you want to find a future object, you must figure out what you need to be in love, which is the most important, and then talk about others.

Follow-up: I am analyzing why I eat this set of emotional values, I care about his unusual enthusiasm for me, am I born to love to lick dogs?

No, after watching some girls' bland analysis of the enthusiasm of boys to get along, I found out. Such a story is staged almost everywhere, all the time, the point is that some people eat this, and in the end it will be very miserable, because the other party is not pure in heart and plots. If you just turn into flat, there is not much danger, but it is difficult for girls to accept this gap, and eventually they will go to the end of the points and the peace? If you divide, continue to eat emotional value, it is eventually easy to sheep into the tiger's mouth, find the slag, because only the slag, will play will pretend to be extremely gentle and affectionate too obsessed with women, Puxin men will not do this.