Love, which is too far apart, has gone through three years together, but finally lost to the bride price
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Recently, I am watching the hit drama "Heart Residence", which is a family drama and is of great practical significance.
In this drama, there is no dispute over the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some are the relationship between the sister-in-law and the younger generation that accompanies the marriage.
Gu Qingyu, played by Tong Yao, is an investment executive, and Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, is a housewife.
At the beginning of the plot, because of the purchase of a house, both of them are unhappy in their hearts, but they are hindered by face and do not show on their faces.
Feng Xiaoqin asked Gu Lei to find his twin sister Gu Qingyu to borrow money to buy a house, but Gu Lei was used to being taken care of and had no opinion of his own.
Therefore, when he told Gu Qingyu about borrowing money, Gu Qingyu knew that it was Feng Xiaoqin's idea, and she naturally found an excuse to refuse.
And this has also become a hidden danger of contradictions between concubines and concubines.
In fact, in this family, many details are very realistic, but also reflect the family with many brothers and sisters, once the marriage thing happens, family problems will be exposed.
Hugo once said, "Faith is what people need." People who don't believe in anything won't be happy. ”
Indeed, it is true of marriage.
If you are not unswervingly determined and determined with each other, then you may encounter unreasonable family members, then your feelings will also encounter a crisis.
Just like the love between Fan Li and Li Chao, it was time to talk about marriage, but she did not think that the woman's family had become a burden on the man, and in the end the two had to end the relationship.
Let's hear their stories together.
1, the gap is too big, and we have gone through three years of happiness and suffering
Fan Li and Li Chao are college classmates, and the two can be regarded as lovers who know the roots.
When Fan Li first entered the university, she was still not deeply impressed by Li Chao, only knowing that the other party always went to class with a few boys in a group.
And Li Chao's feelings for Fan Li are very deep.
Because Fan Li is the wave of classmates on student loans, this is actually not a big deal.
However, from Fan Li's taciturn performance, Li Chao saw the fragility of this girl. So, always pay a little more attention to her.
Sometimes, Li Chao passed by the other party's seat and would see Fan Li write down the day's plan in her notebook, full of rows from morning to night.
At that time, Li Chao felt: This girl is very powerful, is his favorite type.
Therefore, I don't know when it began, Li Chao was no longer mixed in groups among the boys, but began to go alone.
In fact, this is not a sudden change, but he wants Fan Li to notice himself.
Therefore, in later classes, Li Chao always sat closest to Fan Li and sometimes asked her questions.
As the two became more and more acquainted, Li Chao finally confessed to Fan Li on Valentine's Day, and the two were able to be together.
During the three years of love in college, both parties met each other's families.
Because Fan Li's hometown is in Shandong, Li Chao has only visited her house once.
In fact, the situation of her family is still quite shocking for Li Chao: Fan Li's father died early, and there is a younger brother in the family who is in high school, and the burden of the family is on Fan Li's mother.
This made Li Chao feel very uncomfortable, after all, he had not suffered anything since he was a child, but at the same time, he remembered that Fan Li would work part-time to earn money every winter and summer vacation, and he was also very distressed.
As for what will happen in the future, he has not thought about it, he just wants to cherish the time with Fan Li.
There is a saying: "The gap is not terrible, the terrible is because the gap is abandoned." ”
Indeed, love stems from the hearts of two people, and once the other is identified, it is necessary to be responsible for each other's future.
Because it is not easy to meet, cherish to live up to yourself.
2, the future brother-in-law, has become a burden
I thought that the love between the two would not produce a rift, but in the end, it was not against reality.
Li Chao is distressed about Fan Li's efforts and efforts for her family, but this cannot be a reason for Li Chao's parents to accept her.
After all, in the thinking of the older generation, "the door is right" is very important. Moreover, the fact that Fan Li also has a younger brother has become the main reason why the old couple opposed Li Chao and Fan Li's interaction.
However, Li Chao did not agree with his parents' ideas, and always felt that Fan Li would be so independent, and her brother would certainly not be worried.
But it turns out that Li Chao is still too young. Because, the impact of the original family really affects a person's life.
Fan Li's younger brother is in the third year of high school, and in the face of the graduation examination, the school organizes extracurricular tutoring, but the students are asked to pay separately.
These subjects add up, less than two months of tutoring time, six thousand yuan, almost catch up with Fan Li's one-year tuition.
However, after all, it is his own brother, and if other students make up the class, and his brother does not make up, this will not only lead to various speculations about his brother by others, but also affect his brother's grades.
Therefore, Fan Li had to open her mouth to Li Chao.
At that time, Li Chao did not express dissatisfaction with Fan Li because of this, but happily agreed to her request.
Because, in his eyes, Fan Li's younger brother, that is, his own brother, will be a family in the future, and there is no need to see outside.
Therefore, Li Chao called his parents the next day and said that he wanted to buy a computer, which solved the make-up tuition fee for his future brother-in-law.
Someone said, "To marry is to divide the burden of two people by two, not to multiply the burden of one person by two." ”
I strongly agree with that.
Marriage is about sharing responsibilities, not burdening each other. As a party who pays in love, Li Chao does not feel that helping the person he loves solve the problem is a burden.
However, when he found that Fan Li's brother had asked Fan Li for money again and again, he knew that Fan Li's brother was a "bottomless pit", and he was not asking Fan Li for money, but asking himself for money in disguise.
Therefore, when Fan Li borrowed money from Li Chao to buy a mobile phone for her brother, Li Chao had already made his attitude clear, and he said to Fan Li: "Li, your brother is also such a big person, you can also work part-time during the summer vacation, you can't be so accustomed to him." ”
Fan Li remained silent, said nothing, just nodded slightly.
Perhaps, listening to Li Chao's words, I realized that I was not qualified to make so many demands with the other party now.
The feelings of two people involve too many interests, and the more "hidden dangers" are buried for the contradiction.
3, wait until talking about marriage and marriage to find that the girlfriend is a "brother demon", and the man directly breaks up
Fortunately, after Li Chao politely refused Fan Li's request, the other party did not trouble Li Chao again because of his brother's affairs.
As a result, the two of them spent their college years in love.
After graduation, the two have been in love for three years, and everything that should be understood and considered is also considered.
The fact that the two can still be together also proves to be true love for each other.
Therefore, Li Chao proposed to Fan Li.
Fan Li was happy about this, and when she told her mother and brother about it, they were also very happy.
After all, Li Chao is not only good to Fan Li, but also the conditions of his family are also good.
For Fan Li, this is Gao Pan; however, for Li Chao, it is "downward compatibility".
Therefore, the two families found a time to discuss the marriage of the two together.
At first, the two talked smoothly, but when they got to the back, the atmosphere suddenly cooled down.
The reason began with a sentence from Fan Li, she said: "If I want to give my brother the money to prepare for marriage, the bride price must be 200,000." ”
In fact, in reality, there are many couples who fail to get married because of the bride price.
However, Fan Li's conditions, on the basis of the high bride price, added a label of "helping the brother".
Li Chao had reminded him many times before, but he still couldn't let Fan Li know exactly what he was doing.
So, he decisively said to Fan Li: "Break up! ”
Then, without turning his head, he left.
There is a saying: "When it comes to marriage, two loves are just wishful thinking." ”
Deeply believed, if talking about marriage and marriage becomes a situation of interest exchange, then the purest love will also lose its original meaning.
Xiaoyuan's message: Marriage is not poverty alleviation, and no one has the obligation to do material support.
Two people choose to be together because of love, not because of profit. After all, marriages bought with money will eventually be defeated by reality.
Especially in families with many brothers and sisters, when they become adults, everyone will form their own small family, so there is no need to consume their feelings with their lovers for the benefit of their families.
It's really not worth it.
If you can, I hope you have the ability to love others and protect your family.
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