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As a parent, there is no one who does not care about their children's learning.
After all, under the premise of today's "college entrance examination is set for life", what can determine what university children go to and what groups of people they contact is academic performance.
From the child's 7-year-old elementary school and 18-year-old high school graduation, it can be seen that this 11-year-long study is a marathon run. Those who run fast at the beginning may not be able to persist to the end. Those who run slowly at the beginning, as long as they have enough stamina, can also catch up with the latter.
How to make children learn to stay strong? It's important to develop a positive way of thinking, and it's time to cultivate it from your child's kindergarten days.
What is a positive way of thinking?
Let's take an example that everyone is familiar with.
An old woman had two sons, one selling cloth shoes and the other selling umbrellas. Whenever it rains, the old woman worries about her son who sells cloth shoes; on sunny days, she worries about her son who sells umbrellas.
So, whether it was sunny or rainy, she was worried.
Someone advised her, why don't you change your perspective: the business of the son who sells umbrellas on rainy days must be very good; the business of the son who sells cloth shoes on sunny days will also come.
The old woman's first way of thinking is negative thinking, always seeing bad angles; the second is a positive way of thinking, always seeing a positive side in things.
Why do these traits make learning staying strong?
If the child has a positive way of thinking, even if he temporarily falls behind in learning, he will not give up too much, so that he has the motivation to progress.
You know, many children in the middle and upper grades of primary school have lost the motivation to work hard because of their poor academic performance.
A mother once consulted me and said that the child did not seem to be interested in learning, saying that he was not learning well anyway, and what was he trying to do?
This is actually falling into a negative way of thinking.
Man's actions are determined by thought, and only when a person approves something from his heart will he have the confidence and motivation to complete it.
There is a term in psychology called "self-fulfilling prophecy." It means that once you feel what things are like and whether you can do them well, because of the most essential narcissistic needs of human beings, you will push things in the direction of this idea to prove that you are right.
The negative person feels that I can't do anything well, subconsciously think so, the action will not be positive, and when things are messed up, he will feel: Look, I said, I just can't do anything well.
If a positive person does something, he will not deny himself from the "root": I am just incompetent. On the contrary, he knew that human abilities could be cultivated slowly. Things fail, summarize the lessons, and avoid it next time.
Only then can he lift his head from setbacks and move on with his head held high.
Such talents are really "staying power".
Why should positive thinking styles be cultivated from kindergarten?
It is said that the child's brain is a blank piece of paper, and how to paint in the early days determines the background of his life.
In kindergarten and the lower grades of primary school, abstract ways of thinking are taking shape and gradually develop the ability to think. At this time, their thinking has not yet been qualitative, so it is urgent to cultivate positive thinking.
How to cultivate a positive way of thinking in children?
In life, it is actually very simple to cultivate a positive way of thinking in children. That is, every time they face a bad thing, parents give their children a positive interpretation style.
For example, today I went to school to pick up my children and suddenly found that the electric car was broken. Instead of complaining about why the electric car dropped the chain at a critical moment, it is better to tell the child, "Just so we can try to walk to school, but we have to run, so it will be faster."
Not complaining about things and actively looking for alternative solutions is to live with a positive way of thinking.
If the parents themselves are positive and optimistic people, it will naturally lead the child to have a positive way of thinking.
What if the parents themselves are not optimistic enough? There is a "one belt three" training method.
That is, every time you encounter a bad thing, you must think about the three good things it brings from different angles.
Parents can train themselves in this way, you can also train their children in this way, over time, the way of thinking has changed, you will find that the child's learning has also improved, and the happiness of the family will also be significantly improved.
[Topic Discussion: Do you feel like a pessimistic person in life, or an optimistic person? 】
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