"I take out work every day to make money, you take this little score, it really makes me fucking broken, are you worthy of me?" There was a snap as if something had been shattered, and as soon as I entered the house, I heard the parents of the next door neighbor getting angry at their children.
In fact, the phenomenon of the neighbor's family roaring at the child occurs from time to time, and we neighbors can hear it clearly and get used to it. The neighbor's man has a more violent personality, usually speaks in a loud voice, but their children are only promised, sometimes when they see adults, they do not even greet, bow their heads and quickly avoid.
Parents with a short temper like this usually get angry because they love to be angry, so we generally call them irritable parents. Although on the surface it seems that such parents are very attentive to their children and rush to urge their children to progress every day, in fact, the children educated by such parents are easy to have the following characteristics.
First, most children are insecure because of their parents' personality
Because the usual way of education is mainly based on blows and scolding, once such parents have a bad expression, they will let the children guess randomly, worrying about whether they are doing badly and provoking parents who are unhappy.
Over time, because of the uncertain emotions of parents, children will always tense their nerves, and they will also become less and less confident because of parents' suppression and scolding, and always doubt their own ability.
Second, the child is not confident in doing things, afraid of making mistakes
Every time they do something wrong, they have to face the storm of parents, and the most obvious psychological characteristic of such children is that when they do things in the future, they hesitate and do things.
And when they encounter problems and difficulties, they dare not face them. Especially in the face of conflicts with people, they are also careful to put themselves at a very low level.
Third, it is easy to become a "flattering personality" because of the personality problems of parents.
Because their parents are too strong, children learn to apologize to their parents at a very young age, and under the influence of this personality, they also become inferior and cowardly in future relationships. No matter what happens, you always feel that you are not good enough, and sometimes even the mistakes of others will be imposed on you.
Our neighbor's child is like this, once when I was out of the elevator, I accidentally knocked the child's bicycle over, and the child's first reaction was to tell me sorry first. The biggest manifestation of this type of child is that they are very worried that they will cause trouble for others, and they are very concerned about other people's feelings, but they do not consider what they think at all.
Fourth, children can easily inherit the bad temper of their parents
In fact, the parents' problems and bad habits are in the eyes of the children, although they tell themselves in their hearts that they should try not to become such a person as the parents in the future, but the family environment and the influence of parental education problems, the children are likely to become such a character.
If the child has a short temper, but in the future there will be great differences in the concept of interpersonal relationships and marriage, which is not conducive to their communication with others, and even in the future, they will repeat the same mistakes on the issue of educating their offspring.
It can be seen that the influence of parents' temper and personality on children is very large, so in the future of children's education, parents can not be angry without getting angry, before getting angry, they must first reflect on themselves, is it worth it.
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