Parents have to go to work, there is no time to accompany the children, how should they manage? As long as the parents of office workers use the right method, they still have an advantage in taking a baby.
Friends are an ordinary pair of office workers, in order to ensure that the children come home from school with hot rice and hot soup, the couple often operates at full capacity, just in order not to affect the time to leave work. But the child's academic performance disappointed the parents.
My son is 10 years old, in the fourth grade of elementary school, and is reluctant to do homework. The homework sent to the mother on the teacher's WeChat was quietly deleted by the child. The son is very playful and often fights with the dolls in the community. I tried everything I could to ask my mother for my phone to watch cartoons. The grades were already the first in the class.
The two parents are often depressed and quarrel over their children's learning. After all, the pressure of work and the need to take care of children's learning are simply more challenging than triathlons.
So what should office parents do to manage their children's learning habits?
First, do not take the initiative to accompany the reading
I once saw a mother on the subway racing against the clock to help her daughter memorize Chinese texts. The mother read it first, and then asked her daughter to read it again. At this time, the daughter began to be a little impatient: "Can't I go home and read again?" ”
The mother did not listen, and stressed to her daughter that there was still a lot of homework to be done at home, and took advantage of the subway to memorize the text first.
Then, after asking her daughter to read the text three times, she let her daughter start memorizing it. The daughter said with some irritation: "I can't recite it."
The mother tirelessly instructed her daughter: "Then you memorize it sentence by sentence." Read the first sentence first."
The daughter, at the insistence of her mother, had to read aloud. Mom said, "Memorize the first sentence." ”
Daughter: "I can't recite it." ”
Mom: "Why can't I memorize it?" I've memorized it all. If you understand it or not, you must memorize the text on the basis of understanding. ”
The daughter blushed, looked reluctant, and then said to her mother: "This teacher did not make it clear in class, what does this sentence mean." So I don't understand! ”
As a result, the mother began to explain the meaning of the first sentence to her daughter.
In this example, we can see that the mother is very patient and very hard to help her daughter. But doing it is basically useless, and it will also make the daughter feel bored with school.
Why do parents not take the initiative to accompany students?
Because reading is the child's own business.
When your child feels he needs help, tell your child that he can come to you. What happens if parents take their children's learning into their own hands?
Children gradually begin to lose interest in learning because they feel badly.
Reading the attitude of parents always makes children feel that they are not good enough.
Secondly, children will think that many learning things should be the responsibility of parents. For example: What is today's job? What should be done?
Children no longer do their own tidying up, or passively wait for their parents' arrangements or reminders.
2. How can parents become the correct imitation objects for their children?
This is the advantage of working parents. Because there is a lot of work, it needs to be taken home to do.
When the child is doing homework at night, parents do not need to actively accompany the reading. But need to be in the same room with the child.
Parents can focus on their work or learn to improve their skills.
This way, children will be able to see how much parents are focused on their responsibilities. From a psychological point of view, what kind of person the child becomes is related to the child's "identity".
If the child agrees with the parents' attitude of serious work or study. Children will also develop a serious attitude towards learning.
This is what parents teach by example.
But if the parents of office workers feel that they are tired of working during the day. When you go home, you have to cook for your children, just like watching TV and brushing your mobile phone. Then the child will feel that in this family, he is the only one who is the hardest, going to class during the day and doing homework at night.
Parents say they are hard, but they can swipe their phones and play when they go home, as if their children are the only ones at home who are "punished".
Then the child will also try his best to become like his parents: he loves to play with his mobile phone and does not study.
Admit the boredom of learning, but believe in "delayed gratification"
Basic learning is boring. But after progressing, learning the abilities that make you master can allow you to experience self-creativity and value.
Just like just learning piano, it's a repetitive basic exercise. But once you have the foundation, you can play beautiful music.
Learn to draw, and at first it's just lines. But once you master it, you can create paintings that are worth appreciating.
Parents should pay attention to the "delayed gratification" of cultivating their children, not deny the boring learning feedback from their children, and also tell their children the satisfaction they can get once they have mastered the basic skills.
And in this process, parents should keenly capture the advantages and interests of their children, invest and cultivate. This allows children to better experience the joy of learning.
By taking the above three steps, you have a high probability of being able to raise a child with self-learning ability.
As the child grows older and intellectually develops, he is able to transfer the knowledge he has acquired to the learning of new subject knowledge. This is the ideal development.
Fourth, parents should pay attention to the feedback to their children and maintain their children's self-esteem
A good self-esteem system will make children develop into mentally mature children. We can see some children who have good academic performance, but she is not happy. Because parents will only give their children praise and praise when they have good grades.
Grades have become the only tool for children to feel the love of their parents.
Such children, when they enter puberty, are prone to psychological problems. Because they will think that their parents love not themselves, but a self who "can get good grades".
Children will feel like they are the tools of their parents. Because of their good grades, it is the capital for parents to show off in front of their relatives and friends.
If you can understand this example, you will understand how to give positive feedback to your child. Praise and praise for children, not only when children get good grades.
When the child makes new friends;
When your child shares with you what happened at school;
When your child confides in you about their troubles, parents should maintain a focused and patient attitude.
Also pay attention to your own verbal movements.
These are all good ways to use without spending a lot of money. Parents of office workers can flexibly apply according to their own situation. It is believed that after using these methods correctly, the child's learning status will improve.