How difficult is it to "isolate at home" under the epidemic and accompany children to study?
First of all, adults are uneasy, yesterday I saw an increase in several cases, this day I saw that my code has turned yellow, and tomorrow I don't know if I can go to work normally. In such an anxious, panicked and responsible state of mind, parents can't even be calm with themselves, how can they effectively guide and guide their children to learn?
Therefore, the key to "learning with children" under the epidemic is to adjust the mentality.
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Many parents will find that well-behaved children in school, but who are "isolated" by the epidemic at home, can easily become lazy, bored with school and resistant.
On the one hand, because parents nowadays like to reason and educate when educating their children, abandon scolding and punishment, and often focus on harmony and cheerfulness in their attitude, so when children stay at home to listen to online classes and write homework, they always feel that between learning and entertainment, there is still a lot of room for playing, delaying and discussing.
On the one hand, because children listen to lectures and read in school, teachers are generally loud and colorful when they discipline, and most children stand up straight and silent under the influence of school spirit and class rules, then our own children will also look obedient and obedient under the drive of "group effect".
Then under the epidemic situation, some parents and children stay at home to avoid infection and stay at home "looking at each other", suspending school, stopping work and closing shops, from the perspective of the general environment, it is for the corresponding national and social epidemic prevention policies, from the perspective of small families, it is not only a necessary measure for the health of the family, but also an extremely rare parent-child time, which is not important.
So, what is going on in the child's heart?
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For children who are still young, or are in rebellious adolescence, the most favorite and most cheerful, of course, is to talk and play with children of the same age, and get along with parents who are relatively rigid in their minds and are too eager to make quick gains, and inevitably, they will be immersed in the heavy atmosphere of the college entrance examination, the future and life every day.
Therefore, especially during the epidemic period, parents want to "live in peace" with their children at home, first of all, they must jump out of the usual anxiety state of worrying about mortgages, car loans and education and pensions, and do not put the economic pressure of themselves and their families too much on the young shoulders of their children, affecting the daily relationship and parent-child feelings between parents and children.
First, be interesting.
After the child completes the daily learning tasks, parents should help the child design fresh and interesting leisure activities, which can be chess, cards, or hand-copied newspapers. In short, you can't turn your work status of more than ten years into your child's living state during the "suspension of classes and non-stop learning".
Staying at home is inherently lacking in fun, change and fresh air, and as an adult, there is a reason to create a fun and vivid family atmosphere for children.
Second, it is to be rich.
In addition to online lessons, homework, looking at mobile phones, playing games, or playing Go and poker, what kind of life can you bring to your children?
Perhaps, listening to a speech, watching a movie, and reading a book with your children every day is far better than a family of three at home holding their mobile phones and worrying.
Learned and talented parents can also teach their children to get started with an instrument, learn a skill, or help their children sort out ancient or modern history. Parents who don't know anything can also teach their children to wash and mop the floor, or cook a good meal.
In short, it is to give children as rich a life as possible, so as to avoid letting children fall into a depressed and depressed mood due to repeated epidemics.
Finally, it's about focusing.
If there is no epidemic, most children's lives are about 10 hours in school during the day, except for the time of lunch and rest, every 45-minute course, they will take a break of 10 to 15 minutes, which maximizes the children's attention and physical and mental health. However, during the epidemic, parents can try to cultivate their children's ability to focus on their spirits for a long time in interest-driven learning.
For example, you can see that many children may not even be able to sit still for 10 minutes when they are reading and learning, but when it comes to their favorite drawing, chess or game session, they may not feel tired for several hours.
But this is always beneficial, as long as it does not affect the normal work and rest time and eating and sleeping, let the child spend more time on the subjects that they like, are good at and fascinated during the "suspension of classes and non-stop learning", and cultivate and improve their staying power and concentration, which is definitely beneficial and harmless.
After all, the main reason why most children's grades are worrying is that they are not concentrated and their emotions are too impatient.
If parents use the time of "home monitoring" to pay attention to cultivating and improving their children's concentration, then after the start of school and the resumption of classes, the child's self-discipline and test scores will definitely improve significantly.
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Let's talk about focus.
Some parents think that adults hold a ruler in their hands and stare at the child's desk without blinking, and the child does not dare to speak, drink water, and dare not go to the toilet, which is called focusing on learning, which is obviously ridiculous.
Learning is a mental work that requires both a quiet and peaceful environment and a relaxed and pleasant emotional mood.
If you are just struggling to write at your desk out of persecution, urging, and coercion, this is not concentration, but suffering.
Therefore, to cultivate children's habit of focusing on serious learning, we need to start from habits, methods and emotions.
Children who lack habits, when he is studying, adults should be less disturbed, not interrupted and other things, and then review, guide and criticize after he has written them all.
Children who are not in the right way, when accompanying him to write homework, should pay attention to explaining to him from shallow to deep, from simple to difficult, so as to avoid children missing the best opportunity to think and understand because they cannot understand and cannot think, and also lose the self-confidence to further study.
Children with poor mood should communicate with their children more, understand his ideas and understanding of each course, find out whether the teacher is not teaching well, or the children themselves do not work, and then explain and identify the value and significance of learning to the children in a targeted manner.
In short, "learning with children" during the epidemic requires patience and wisdom, as well as love and confidence.
Only when we, as parents, respect, believe and understand children from the bottom of our hearts, can we make good use of this precious time of "suspension of classes and non-stop learning" to make children's learning compare with other students:
Don't fall behind, still overtake!