After having children, parents need to go to work, and generally need to ask the elderly to help watch the children. The old man came, on the one hand, there was one more person to help, on the other hand, he wanted to let the people who came over to help educate the children, rather than misleading the children with too traditional and conservative ideas.
Superstitious thoughts are heavy
There was a grandmother, who said that her grandson was short of gold in his life, and immediately took off his own gold ring and stuffed it into the child's mouth, and the three-month-old child swallowed it at once and almost lost his life; there was also a grandmother, who had a new grandson, and was very happy. It is customary to bathe children with money. As a result, the child's skin was severely allergic, and he was covered with big red bumps and cried incessantly. In this case, Grandma did not feel that there was anything wrong with it.
Old customs and traditions seriously damage children's physical and mental health.
Force your child to eat
The old man's concept is that it is best for children to be white and fat. The elderly also always want the child to eat very full, so they are used to feeding non-stop, and even chasing and feeding. Some children do not want to eat, the old man will threaten to induce, with snacks to coax, with language threats "if you don't eat I will let the police arrest you", with cartoons to lure ...
In fact, the more compulsive, the more the child rejects eating, and also causes the child to eat snacks and watch TV when eating.
Wear a lot for your child
Old people are afraid of the cold, so they also habitually wear a lot for children. The child is pure yang, and he is not afraid of the cold, unless his constitution is born weak. As a result, as soon as the child exercises, he is prone to sweating, sweat is cold, and the child is hot and cold, but it is more likely to get sick.
Limit your child's exploration
Old people most often tell children, run slowly, don't fall. After one and a half years old, in fact, it is often the grandparents who do not pay attention, and the child will not have a cigarette as soon as he slips. So the old man was afraid: I simply hugged him. What happens when you hold your child regularly? Once the child can walk, he is not willing to walk, and he always wants to let the adult hold it.
Children will also form a sense of not daring to take risks, there is danger in front, or stay by the adults. This makes it easy to raise timid and cowardly children.
Give your child snacks without restraint
When the child cries, he gives the child any sugar, soda, and snacks to eat, and loves the child to the point of unrestrained. The elderly do not know what food additives are, nor do they know that snacks endanger the health of children, and they do not know that additives will damage children's brains.
"Replace" the child to do things
Mom asked: Baby, where did you go to play today?
Before the child could answer, Grandma said we were going to the little park today.
Mom didn't say a word, and asked: Which child did you see today?
Grandma said: Who we meet.
These behaviors actually reduce the child's own learning opportunities, and have an impact on the development of children's language development and motor coordination ability.
The elderly lack vitality
The skin-to-skin contact between mother and baby is the basis for babies to build a sense of security. Because young people in big cities are getting married and having children more and more late, the elderly in many families are older. When these elderly people who lack vitality take children, they have less physical contact with children, which is easy to cause the lack of children's sense of security.
Such children do not take the initiative to communicate with others when they grow up, and they do not know how to communicate with people, they are often introverted and even depressed.
Comfort the child and harm the innocent
The child crashed on the table and fell, and the old man quickly picked up the child who was crying and crying, "Hit it, the table is not good, hit the baby, hit it..." Is this parenting or harm? Such a teaching, let the child right and wrong, after growing up, often push their own mistakes and faults to the objective environment or others, such children, not good at self-summary and correction, will eventually become self-deception.
Trick the child
"You ate this bowl of rice, Grandma waited to take you to buy sugar", "You go to sleep, Grandpa will take you to the park tomorrow"... As a result, the child happily finished eating and went to bed, but the grandparents deliberately forgot the promise, or simply said "buy it for you next time" and "next time take you to play".
Children also have self-esteem, are deceived more, will develop the habit of easy to suspect, gradually, but also learn to deceive others, no longer easily believe in others!
We all know that it is not easy to change the traditional conservative thinking of the elderly, but there are also many elderly people who are more open-minded in accepting new ideas, but no matter how parents choose, they must start from the perspective of helping their children's upbringing.