Almost every child will ask such a soul question to their parents when they have a little understanding, but they are not fully sensible.
"Where did I come from?"
Because there are so many unspeakable things involved, parents often prevaricate for an irrelevant answer. The 5 most common answers summarized by netizens are:
1. Picked up in the trash can
2. Jump out of the stone
3. Charge the phone bill to send
4, you will know when you grow up
5, ask your mother (father) to go
However, such a reason cannot withstand the child's questioning at all! For example, the child then asks: "Why are there so many children in the garbage can?" "Then will you throw me away and pick up another one?" Or "I've grown up you can tell me". What to do?
If you do not answer well, it is easy to cause harm to the child, bring psychological shadows, and will also produce distrust of parents and so on. Therefore, we advocate that in sex education, "white lies" are absolutely desirable.
Due to the different ages, genders, and composition of children's family members, it is difficult to have a standard reference answer to this question, but Ms. Hu Ping, a well-known expert on children's sexual and psychological development and sex education, has put forward several principles for your reference:
Principle one
Asked questions
Parents should respect the child's right to know their own life, be sure to answer the child's questions, and cannot avoid or transfer the child's questions, otherwise it will make the child feel that the topic of sex is very mysterious, but it will arouse the child's desire to explore.
Principle two
Answer only when you have a question
Whatever the child asks, the parent answers, tells the child the facts, and solves the child's current confusion as the principle, we answer the question.
Do not deceive and prevaricate the child, because the child will one day find out the truth, but also be careful not to bring new confusion to the child.
Principle three
The answer should be in line with the child's age perception
Parents should give their children simple and clear answers so that they can understand them. Don't answer your child's questions in adult terms, and don't provide answers with details about sexual activity.
For example, in the face of children around 3 years old, we can use analogies such as "seeds" and "channels" to explain to children. Children aged 5-6 can add proper nouns such as "sperm", "egg", "genitals" and so on. After the child enters puberty, we can make some more specific answers.
Principle FOUR
Parents' attitudes are more important than what they say
When parents face it calmly, the child will think that this problem is the same as other problems, nothing special, and will not pay too much attention to it.
After getting the answer, they immediately focus on other activities and don't have to worry about them "learning badly" or going astray.
Principle five
Pay attention to the protection of your child
After answering their children's questions, parents should also tell their children that "such topics are private and secret, and can be discussed with parents at home." Don't discuss it with kids or other people."
If the child is misunderstood when talking about this topic with other children because of their own views, parents must pay attention to protecting the child and once again output the correct concept to them, and cannot accuse the child of being "not ashamed" and so on.
Principle SIX
See things from your child's perspective
Children's perception of both sexes develops gradually with their own physical changes. Parents must not be too hasty and rush to tell their children what they can only accept at the age of 10 when they are 3 years old.
At the same time, parents should also tell themselves that children are only curious about themselves, and there are no indescribable behaviors in their world that adults pay attention to, so they must abandon anger, embarrassment, panic, and so on.
When you use the above principles to answer a child's question about "where did I come from?", you may receive the following answer:
"It's so simple, tell me sooner than not"
Since then, the topic of sex education in children's growth can be logical and solved.
The illustration used above is actually from the "Understanding Innocence" sexual health education picture book series cooperated by Teacher Hu Ping and the painter Gui Tuzi, which is also a set of picture books that can help parents explain the problem of "where I came from" to their children.
"Understanding Innocence" Sexual Health Education Picture Book
Hu Ping / Wen
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Suitable for parents and children over 4 years old
The series is divided into three volumes: "The Story of Dad and Mom", "The Story of Sperm and Egg", and "The Story of Baby's Life". From the perspective of love, life, growth, etc., it describes the process of the baby coming to the world more gently, so that the child can feel the warmth of home and the preciousness of his own life.
This book aims to let children feel the love, the warmth of home and the preciousness of life, the knowledge points involved are moderately difficult, the picture is gentle and kind, and the "professional vocabulary" that may embarrass parents and children are not easy to understand is not used, and it is a sex education picture book that is very suitable for young readers.
Hu Ping
About the author
Famous adolescent sexual health education expert, CCTV (CCTV) specially invited child education expert, independent researcher.
He graduated from the Department of Pediatrics of Chongqing Medical University in 1986 and successively served as a pediatrician and a lecturer in pediatrics, and began to study children's sexual psychological development and children's sexual health education in 2001. He has been invited to participate in the recording of children's sexual health education programs such as CCTV and Sina Parenting for many times. In 2004, it began to carry out children's sexual health education parent classes and children's classrooms in nearly 100 cities across the country.
Major publications: "Understanding Virginity" series for parents; "Understanding Innocence: Sexual Health Education Reader for Primary School Students" for children, volumes 1-6.
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Introduction of the painter
Her real name is Liu Jing. He is a member of the China Artists Association and a picture book painter who lives in Nanjing. He is good at the fusion of multiple materials, and has been digging deeper into more possibilities for visual communication in picture books in years of creation.
His works have been selected for the "13th National Art Exhibition" organized by the China Artists Association, the first Chinese Illustration Art Exhibition, the 2nd National Illustration Art Exhibition, the 2018 Bingxin Picture Book Award, the 2019 BIBF Pineapple Circle International Illustration Exhibition Gold Award, the 2019 CCBF Golden Windmill International Illustration Exhibition Gold Award, the 2019 Little Cool Hat International Picture Book Competition Best Work Award, the 6th Alice Picture Book Gold Award, and the short list of wia20 World Illustration Awards.
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