Although many parents have the original intention of giving birth to the second treasure, in order to give the big treasure as a companion, hoping that the whole family can be lively, but after the child is really born, the parents find that the family is lively, but the contradiction also follows.
If the age difference between the two children is good, but if the age is similar, no one obeys anyone, they will often quarrel over a little trivial matter, either grabbing a toy or a snack, and there is no time to stop all day long.
However, children are noisy and noisy on weekdays, but who can say that this is not a way of getting along in a two-child family?
The "domineering sister" took advantage of the fact that her parents were not secretly bullying the second-born brother, and quickly slipped away after being discovered by the parents
On the Internet, a bao mom shared the daily life of her two babies, due to the small age gap between dabao and erbao, so children have become the norm in the family without saying a word.
No, the younger brother who always dared to challenge the authority did not know where to provoke the sister, and the little girl saw that her parents were not around, turned around and subdued her brother with absolute strength, and while pinching her brother's ear, she imitated the sound of riding a horse.
Although the younger brother wanted to stand up and resist, because he was too young to be his sister's opponent, he had to grieve his mouth while expecting his parents to help him.
Fortunately, after a while, my mother came to the house to get something, and my brother saw the appearance of his "savior", and his eyes seemed to be full of "Mother save me!" "Four big words.
And the little girl turned her head, she saw her mother using her mobile phone to record the process of bullying her brother, and suddenly a little bit of bad things were found by the parents after the heart was weak, and then smiled at the mother in a flattering way, as if to indicate that she was just joking, and then quickly slipped away with a funny expression. In this regard, netizens have commented: "Dabao's action is quite sharp! Sure enough, it was early to beat his brother. ”
The children's mode of getting along in the second-child family also reflects the child's psychology to a certain extent
【Mode 1】: Harmonious coexistence, brotherhood:
Brothers and sisters can have such a harmonious way of getting along, there are generally two situations, either Dabao is much older than Erbao, both sensible and knows how to take care of the young Erbao; or the parents have made a lot of preparations for Dabao in advance before the second treasure is born.
For example, Sun Li, who we are familiar with, has done a good job in this regard, and she has been giving and so on when she was pregnant, she said that she wanted to have a sister.
At that time, the little tiger in a cartoon that he liked very much was called Xiaohua, so he said that "Xiaohua" was in his mother's belly, so he added a lot of good feelings to his sister who had not yet met, so that after Xiaohua was born, he also took more care of her.
In the hearts of such children, younger siblings are members of the family, but also relatives who will love themselves and accompany themselves to grow up, they will tolerate each other, their hearts are full of love, and their feelings will naturally be particularly good.
[Mode 2]: The boss often bullies the second boss
Some second-born mothers will find that the big treasure in the family will often take advantage of their lack of attention to bully the second treasure, and this is mainly due to two reasons.
On the one hand, children hope to attract the attention of their parents in this way, after all, after the birth of Erbao, parents will transfer part of the energy originally placed on Dabao to Erbao, and they will return their attention to themselves through this seemingly "bullying" but not excessive behavior.
On the other hand, as a big treasure, he also hopes to reflect his authority as an older brother and sister in Erbao, hoping to improve his status in Erbao's mind.
[Mode 3]: Fight when you don't agree
In the two-child family, such a way of getting along always makes parents a headache, and the family becomes a "battlefield" for two children at any time and anywhere, and parents must be prepared to be a "scale" at every moment.
But in fact, in addition to seeing the two children are not compatible, parents must also see the deep-seated reasons.
For example, whether the parents ignored the big treasure because of the arrival of the second treasure, so that they felt that it was the arrival of their brother or sister, stealing their own favor, attention, living standards and so on.
Children's getting along is a science, and sometimes parents can't just look at the surface, but also dig deeper reasons, so that the two little ones can get along more happily.