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Children are the hearts and livers of parents, the child's every move affects the hearts of parents, parents send their children to kindergarten, the purpose is to make children more independent and get a good education.
However, some people's practices have shocked parents.
Ms. Li's daughter was in a kindergarten in Shaanxi Province, and her daughter had been shouting that her throat was very sore, and then she took the child to check it out, and the doctor said that the child's throat was burned, and it was necessary to eat more slowly in the future.
It turns out that the daughter eats fast in the kindergarten, if she eats too slowly, she will be called to the toilet by the teacher to eat, and some children eat in the toilet three times a day.
To avoid going to the toilet, my daughter would quickly finish her hot meal every time.
Ms. Li was very angry, went to the kindergarten to understand the incident, although the matter was finally resolved satisfactorily, but she still felt angry at the thought of her daughter being treated unfairly during this time.
Parents painstakingly protect the child, originally thought that in the kindergarten to live a happy day, just because the meal is slow, the child will go to the toilet to eat, which makes the parents feel bad!
The teacher's behavior made parents talk about it, and while the parents were distressed about the harm suffered by the child, they criticized the teacher's approach too much, worried that it would leave a psychological shadow on the child.
Children are punished to eat in the toilet because of eating, which is too rough, and the result will be counterproductive.
Children are punished to eat in the toilet, and this kind of education is not allowed
1. The problem of eating and rubbing cannot be solved
Some people make rules in order to allow children to finish eating on time, and children who do not finish eating on time need to be criticized.
For children, just change a place to eat, children who don't like to eat, they can't eat either.
If they do not deeply investigate the reason why children hate eating, but just blindly discipline children in a rough way, this practice will not fundamentally solve the problem of children's eating and rubbing.
2. Hurt your child's self-esteem
Eating is originally a pleasant thing, but because the child is too slow to eat, forced to eat in a place he does not like, which will not only affect the child's appetite, but more importantly, damage the child's self-esteem.
This kind of place is very uncomfortable, even if it is passing by, it is unbearable, let alone let the children eat here! Not only will the child not cooperate, but he will also be disgusted with eating.
3. Stimulate the child's rebellious psychology
Some people use their own majesty to force children to obey, which will more easily induce children's rebellious psychology, and once children try to resist, or do not achieve the desired effect, children may suffer from the cold eyes of others.
4. Affect the child's mental health
Some people use "eating in the toilet" as a punishment for "children eating too slowly", which is not worth advocating, and even prohibits this behavior.
It will affect the child's mental health, so that the child has a repulsion and fear of eating and going to the toilet. Children can become afraid to eat.
Educator Tao Xingzhi once said, "Corporal punishment is not enough to make children improve their behavior, on the contrary, it will push children into the dark abyss." ”
Rough education is to make young children absolutely obey themselves, but ignore that the child's mental development is not yet fully mature, and children need to slowly improve themselves and grow up in tolerance.
How do we make children fall in love with eating and eat faster?
1. Take incentives
For children who eat fast, we can verbally praise and give children corresponding rewards, such as rewarding small red flowers.
Children who are affirmed will be more active in eating, while children who have not received rewards will silently encourage themselves in their hearts and strive harder for little red flowers next time.
2. Too young children, give more tolerant meal time
Some children are only 3 years old, their self-care ability is not enough, and they are not very good at eating.
This type of child is not skilled enough to eat, so eat slowly, we must be patient with the child, give the child more meal time, let the child gradually increase the speed of eating.
3. For children who have anxiety about entering kindergarten, we should try to appease them
Some children are fed by their parents or the elderly at home and never leave their parents' side.
Now that I am in kindergarten, I not only have to go to school every day, but also learn to eat on my own, which will increase the anxiety of children entering kindergarten, and the children's emotions will be more excited.
For eating is even more incomparable resistance, we must first calm the child's emotions, emotions are released, when the child's mood is peaceful, we then slowly persuade the child to eat.
epilogue
It is a very important thing for children to eat, and mothers should not overwork.
If the child is at home, the parents do not allow the child to eat by himself, but chase the feeding, and the child will not be active in eating in the kindergarten, waiting for others to feed.
Children may go their own way in kindergarten and refuse to eat obediently.
Under normal circumstances, children aged 1-2 years old can try to eat on their own.
For children over the age of 3, parents should not feed their children.
If a child decides to go to kindergarten, the first thing parents should do is to raise their child to eat.
After all, children need time to adapt from learning to eat to eating without rubbing.
In the beginning, parents can let their children eat independently without limiting the time, as long as the children eat carefully, even if it is slower.
After the child learns to eat, parents can set a good time for the child, from long to short, and gradually reduce the time spent on eating.
In fact, the initiative of children's learning is very strong, the key is that parents should give their children the opportunity to exercise, do not spoil their children too much, and are reluctant to work hard for their children.
Learning to eat, this is the first step in the child's self-care ability, parents really love their children, they should let the children do it themselves.
If the child takes the initiative to eat, and the speed of eating is also fast, reading in the kindergarten, parents do not have to worry about the child will be hungry, and the child will eat actively, will also be praised by the teacher, and the kindergarten is more active.