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The quarrels between husband and wife are often because of some trivial matters of life, when dealing with these small things, you may wish to be confused, do not have to fight for high and low, you live and die.
As the saying goes, "gold is not red gold, no one is perfect", each of us can not do anything perfectly, we must not expose each other's scars in the quarrel, sprinkle salt on each other's wounds, otherwise the quarrel and conflict will escalate, and the feelings between husband and wife will be hurt.
Problems between husband and wife are not terrible. The key is that you master the four rules for restoring the relationship between husband and wife, and your relationship can be reconciled as before.
1． Think more about the strengths of the other person
Generally speaking, couples with discordant feelings often can only see each other's shortcomings, but they can't see each other's strengths, so they look more and more unhappy.
If the conflict between husband and wife develops to the point where they feel that the spouse has only shortcomings and no advantages.
I am afraid that this is due to the negative empathy of both sides. At this time, we should use the method of discovering advantages and consciously discover the advantages of the spouse to solve the problem.
Psychologists in the United States have developed a "three-week plan" called improving the relationship between husband and wife, which requires couples with discord to discover one of each other's advantages and tell each other every day for three weeks. Couples may feel a little awkward at first, but after a few days it will be natural. By the end of the twenty-first day, most couples find it not difficult to list each other's strengths. Of course, the purpose of this method is to get the couple with discord out of the negative empathy psychology, as long as this purpose can be achieved, then the restoration of the couple's feelings is just around the corner.
2. Think differently
Psychologists have found that about half of couples who weaken their relationships simply because they have stronger personalities and dislike each other, which makes them very uncomfortable with each other.
In fact, if you look at it from another angle, you will find that there are many things that do not involve right and wrong and principles, so don't take these too seriously.
Another point is to change your own behavior habits, to tolerate each other, to understand each other and to adapt to each other's personalities. If you can do not be harsh on each other, first change yourself, I believe that the emotional crisis between husband and wife is not easy to form.
3. Separate for a period of time
Most couples have had this psychological experience. They spend their days and nights together and are bored with each other. Once separated, they miss day and night. The reason is simple. Separation provides favorable conditions for both sides to think calmly.
Moreover, people generally have the psychology that over time the memory of past things has a certain instinct to promote good and abandon evil, so that pleasant things will gradually become prominent.
Therefore, for those couples who are not in harmony, they should consciously use temporary separation
So that the good feelings of the husband and wife can be reawakened in the separation.